Aunt Agony II 121006

Originally posted by Xmimi:
Let me give you all a situation. This girl has a bf. And her this current bf dislike her to have any contact with any of her ex bfs and thus make her promise him to cut all contacts with them. There is nothing going on btw the girl and the ex bfs anymore and the contacts that they have are purely acts of common friends. The girl and her current bf quarrelled about it because the girl do not find a need why she has to do so while the bf believed that it is a must. What do you people think? Any comments? Who is right and who is wrong?


Both perceptions are like fire and water; it clashes fiercely because it doesn't blend together.

Nobody is wrong; both of you have the prerogative and entitlement to your own opinion. Some people calls it principles, but regardless, a clashes of views is not about who is right or wrong - it calls for stance of compromising and acceptance.

And the problem WILL persist until compromising/acceptance is made.

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The act of contacting your past lover/s shakes the security of the relationship - it feeds on the fear of your boyfriend. It doesn't matter whether your friendship with him is amicably a professional one because he probably reckons that if you are still contacting him, it probably hinted the fact that you might not be completely over him.

And regardless of how ridiculous you may think it sounded, action speaks much louder than words and people usually listen to 'action'.

Communicate... talk about it. Since the issue calls for greater mutual understanding of perception, work on it. And I will repeat again: the problem WILL persist until compromising/acceptance is made.

Cheers