Aunt Agony 171006

Originally posted by silent_lamb:
im 18 and he's 25.

sometimes the age gap realy seems to be abit of problem. whenever i get angry (which is V V V V seldom), he will say that i am a xiao mei mei. so what does a men at 25 wants from women? Love? care? concern? understanding? i really do not know.

and he's has a uper super messy past sexual life. has loads of flings before and is a divorced. how do i know if i am different from those flings? the only thing that assures me now is the fact that he spent almost all his time w me and takes good care of me. at least i know he dun have time for other girls. he tld me he's 25 already and he wants to settle down. i really feel very very insecure. but i do not dare to voice out cos he will start his "xiao mei mei" thingy again..

MEN.. what do u all want from women? how i wish i can open his heart now and see what hes thinkig inside. i really need advice from u peeps. esp a the Men here. cos i just stepped out of a relationship and do not wish to waste my time on another unsincere one. i have no time for flings. im true to him and i wish to know if he's the same towards me.


Words should never be taken at actual value - in fact, take it with a pinch of salt, especially if he has a complicated history because you will never know the truth of his words/promises until time reveals them.

You cannot expect to quit a bad relationship and tell yourself you don't want to waste time with another insincere one because doesn't work that manner. We put the logical equation in your scenario - comparing to a guy without complication strings of BGR, which is more likely to give you the security you seek? Obviously, this is not foolproof, but ultimately, the kind of man you accept in your life is the choice you made to have him inside your life. Whether you perceive him as high risk/low risk - you accept what your choice has decided.

Not that I am biased against people with failed marriages, of course they deserve a second shot at relationship, but to whoever that is dating them, telling yourself that you want this to be risk-free... for them to be true with their feelings... the relationship to be successful... the love to be strictly monogamy... their attitude to be respectful and mature... is indeed a daunting task.

People fail for a REASON - only the enlightened ones will evolved and make good use of their second shot at relationship. A significant group of others never knew why their marriage fails for real. These are the category of people who will probably repeat those subconscious behaviour into their relationship until they become evolve or their partner accepts them submissively.

P.S: Refer to post ‘Aunt Agony 160906’ and ‘Continued from Aunt Agony 160906’ for a case study of an unenlightened man coming out from a failed marriage.

Cheers