Adeline (Marcom)

Adeline has left. I sincerely wish her all the best.

Have always seen her like my 大姐.



And before she ciao, she gave me a sweet.



P.S: I just have to say this: Corp MTKG loves her!

Cheers

Aunt Agony 251107 (Continued from Aunt Agony 131107)

*Analysis between conflicts of Self*

Based on of your birth details (subjected to your accuracy of your birth time):

There is an extremely strong tension in your natal chart surrounding your individual self component (Ascendant is heavily afflicted by a T-square aspect, involving planets acting as significators from 1st - 5th house, stellium in 1st house, conjunction of all outer planets). Your entity of Self isn't just tied down; it's glued, bolted, nailed, and buried ten thousand feet beneath earth, with you struggling to get out from this incarceration.

I see suppression - (Uranus conjunct Saturn in tight 0 degree aspect). I am going to explain your situation paradoxically with this set of irony: Your have an individualistic inner personality that subconsciously wants to free itself from your subconscious dimension, by manifesting it in your consciousness and transforming you as a person likewise. But simultaneously, you have a very 'safe' and rigid attitude towards this transformation because Saturn seeks to conserve and crystallize this energy from scattering.

The best analogy I can give you is our PAP government - our government is maturing at a very slow rate; they understand the importance of liberty and freedom... on how creativity, entrepreneurship, arts, etc, will bring Singapore to the next level of growth, but are not willing to lose sight of the shore.

While others might dismiss your situation as innocuous, to make matter a little worst, you have a very enervated Mars (in Anaretic Degree) completely drowned in the sign of Pisces (also part of the T-square). In simple, your chart revealed personality weakness and lack of courage to initiative changes or decision that would ruin status quo. This creates a synergy with the above pointer - your helplessness lies greatly with your perception of how futile you see yourself in changing your circumstances.

However, despite all that, you did not resign to fate (Uranus in 1st house wouldn't easily allow it) - but what happens is that your quiet frustration and tension builds upon your helplessness and when the condition are right, it triggers an astrologically acute depression (Saturn in 1st house, conjunct Neptune are all signs of depressive outlook in a person). Approximately, your trigger will occur around:

1) 4.83 years old

2) 12 years old

3) 19.58 years old (I think you just hit (or is hitting) this currently)

Even if you don't really understand what I said above, it doesn't matter because whatever I have just said is not as important as what I am going to say now:

To change your plight, you must first seek the strength to change from within. Your inner strength is feeble; your desire for changes never matched up with the action needed for changes to occur. If you can never see that you are the key ingredient to overcome your struggles in life, you will always live a life of suppression.

And that fear will always make decision on your behalf - you never fully become yourself as a person.

Cheers

Aunt Agony 241107

Originally posted by papercut87:

date a guy who is very nice and caring to you but the only thing u cannot tolerate is his vulnerability and sensitivity? like he gets emo, jealous and hurt very easily (not angry) over small issues or things you say... whereby sometimes u dont even know that u've hurt him..

because of that, he thinks alot and gets really depressed after that... and comes pouring everything out to you.. and u have to listen him out. in summary, its always the girl who is stronger (emotionally) and the one comforting the guy..

but other than that.. he's seems pretty ok.... like he has pretty gd qualities of a partner.. how? :? guys, is it normal to be like that?

I think it's immaterial with regards to the gender or the susceptibility of being emotional - in fact when you meet guys like these, it's always the definition of love that spur people to behave in certain manner. Certainly, our blueprint in love and its development conceive this definition, but in return, our definition of love will strengthen and reiterate how we express our behaviour and affection.

It is a skintight connection.

Humans are emotional - everybody is. The only difference lies with the degree of how overwhelming our emotions are in taking charge of our life. Love specifically touches this very deep aspect of our emotions on a profound level and if one's emotional development is screwed and especially if his/her perception is warped in love - chances are, he will transform into a man or woman you have mentioned in your post.

Lack of self evolution, understanding and wisdom (topped with the existence of abundance fear) will drive people to accept possessiveness, extreme jealousy and exert control as the key to 'secure' (what they reckon) the 'things' that belongs to them. Love is always freedom and freewill - our human intervention always produces a Touch-Of-Death, thinking that we can halt love from slipping away.

It never worked.

Love is never tangible - ironically, the more they accept these hogwash definitions, the less fulfilling their relationship will be and the more likely it is for them to destroy their own relationship with their bare hands eventually.

And the cycle will repeat until their karma and cosmic lessons whipped them into realization. Of course, realization never come to some people - which is why some will never come to understand Love beyond their closed minded perception, even till his/her deathbed.

Sometimes I find it laughable and dismaying, simultaneously, when I speak to people and discovered that the gist of the conversation seemed to suggest that their self worth & meaning of existence can only be validated through the existence of their Love relationship. And I will hear of all their emotional justification:

I) The prerogative for emotional dependency & self pity.

II) The need for excessive attention.

III) Unrealistic emotional demands that will not be able to sustain itself over a vast period of time.

They probably thought that having no BGR relationship is probably the closest resemblance of having no life. That intrinsically suggests that the person probably has very weak outlook in life & love and never believe that self love must come BEFORE love.

Like two pillars supporting a structure - if one pillar is merely leeching strength from other to be around, then surely, it will be draining for the other pillar and wouldn't be long before the whole structure collapse because this is often an unrealistic model in Love.

I cannot comprehend how, without first having that self love and seeking our identity, could one even move along the higher learning of Love? It's ridiculously simple - one, being a stranger to himself, wants to know a stranger better than himself?

No wonder divorce rate are climbing and people are indulging into nugatory relationships, only to spilt for the SAME underlying reasons over and over again. This whole distorted perception and corrupted attitude towards themselves hardly differs very much towards their relationship.

Cheers

Aunt Agony 221107 (Yunhaier X walsea)

Originally posted by petti:

You and your boyfriend go to a party, and you accompanied him to a convenience store nearby to get ciggies. He went into the store while you waited for him outside. Waited for a few seconds and decided to go in to join him.

The convenience store keeper, a rather plump yet sexy malay girl said to you "guess what did you bf said to me. i was asking him is that sexy girl outside your gf, and he told me "not as sexy as you""

Is this betrayal? Is this acceptable to you?

Originally posted by walesa:

With the greatest respect to some well-intended postings, I find some of the views here absolutely laughable. If you're going to follow them, I'd be amazed if this relationship of yours would even last another 6 months (well, maybe exaggerated, but you get the drift), much less a lifetime (if that's even your ultimate aim). Ultimately, this is another example of a relationship founded on the basis of insecurity.

For a start, whatever your take is on the incident, you're pretty much entitled to it. That said, I just can never fathom how affirming a belief on the basis of someone else's views (so what if your mutual friends vouch for his (un)faithfulness? ultimately, it's what you think that matters) or adopting a tit-for-tat approach (as some have foolishly suggested that you do "not commit fully" to this relationship - look, if you aren't going to commit, why not just call it a day? it's going to do both of you a world of good, instead of sparking a tit-for-tat war) would actually rectify this problem. While the facts of the circumstances are seemingly innocuous to me, you could interpret it very differently - which you're entitled to do, obviously.

That said, this is your relationship - not mine or your mutual friends' - and ultimately, it's you who will be taking full stock and responsibility for what comes out of it. It's pretty much senseless for you to seek the validation or repudiation of whatever your values or perception of this incident to be - ultimately, if this incident is unacceptable to you, it wouldn't matter an iota if everyone told you it's actually pretty harmless.

The least you could do - if you believe this relationship is still special and worth something - is give this a fair shot at working by ironing out the differences with your beau through the communication of your fears and worries. By that, I don't mean communicating nonsensical ideas like ensuring equality and playing on each other's insecurity (your beau, from your description, is hardly a secure person to begin with) through reasoning that he shouldn't have done what he did because he wouldn't be ready to put up with something similar involving you and another guy. Ultimately, all relationships are founded on the basis of give-and-take and an inherent problem that seems to surface in many insecure relationships often stem from both parties wanting to take more than they're prepared to give.

On the other hand, if you believe this relationship to be condemned beyond salvation, you might just want to call a halt to proceedings - either way, I'm sure you wouldn't want either course of action to be a result of anyone's influence other than yours and yours exclusively. That way, at least it'd be much easier for you to live with your own decision even if you should get it wrong. Do yourself a favour and start having more faith in your convictions and actions regardless of how you perceive this incident.

I have to agree with walsea, since he has posted a couple of points which I would have said as well.

It's not about the comment that devastate your day and probably coerced you to rethink if this actually classify as a form of betrayal - it's more like allowing a stranger or circumstance to sway your relationship with mere statement.

It seemed to me that your boyfriend is more inclined towards entertaining the woman than a literal or suggestive remark.

Not concurring that being flippant is right - but I seriously think that it shouldn't bring about such a heavy charge like betrayal. Not every crime will warrant a death-sentence - if it does manifest in your relationship, it would be vehemently intensive love affair.

Cheers

Ranting X Dinner at Seafood Restaurant

Made a trip down to support Marcus and his crew in this anti-smoking event, endorsed by Health Promotion Board, ran by some dance/event company in which I didn't even bother to register its name. To be brutally honest, I was pretty flabbergasted at the way how the event was held - it was terribly unprofessional and I also reckoned that it was a whole load of shit. Fortunately, this was on small scale, though I sincerely hoped it didn't turn off Jamil and Michelle... about how fucking bureaucratic Singapore is - even with respect to arts - which obviously embodied the quality of creative, albeit it was a street thing.

Duh.

This dude had to yell at Marcus's group for using powder. Yes - while the event was going on with hundreds pair of eyes observing the stage and this fellow demanded that they mop the floor. Yes - he ASKED the contestant to clean the stage. Yes - it was directed at the contestant. And nope, not the event personnel. For some mystical reason I failed to comprehend.

I had no qualms calling him a 'Pseudo-PAP dance umpire', for he said something along this genre:

"I don't want anyone of you to use powders or throw anything at the audience. If anyone does that again, I am going to penalize your score'.

This was indeed spelled with a capital WHAT THE FUCK with sixty exclaimations marks following after.

Every team had to perform a dance, with anti-smoking theme/message in them. You know, they are encouraged to exercise their creative juice (I think Marcus group did a wonderful job), but amid this freedom to self expression and in midst of this competition... they are telling you what you cannot do now? After you have rehearsed everything and prepared for the final show and now they are telling you that you cannot do this/that... now?

I was laughing my balls off when I heard that sort of shit - I tell you: this can only happen in Singapore... coming from Singaporean (especially if they are some die-hard PAP fanatics).

'Please be creative my little friends. Be as creative as humanly possible. But these are the things you can't do:

A) Blar blar blar

B) Blar blar blar

C) Blar blar blar

Seriously, we should just drop this whole facade of promoting self expression/creativity because even the people that ran the event don't even know wtf they are saying/doing.

Poor prize... poor coordination (din test music CD, dancers were missing during their turn, event timing pushed back 4 hours later, etc) ... 'stage director' was more interested in enjoying the show than to run the event proper and a whole lot of crap experience I got from this event.

I guess we should just stick with Suntec Dance and probably Funkamania.

This is just CMIGG.

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Anyway - some photos taken at the seafood restaurant.









Cheers

Aunt Agony 181107

Originally posted by jingjing_1988:

it is possible for 2 different types of character of ppl to be couples for long? :|

Originally posted by SoulDivine:

Definitely possible. One good example is Gemini and Virgo, they are have different characteristic, one Air the other Earth, one Yang the other Yin, but they are still rather compatible because they both can challenge and learn from each other.

However, if you talking about Gemini and Scorpio... life will be a power struggle:x, since Scorpio wants to control Gemini more to achieve high level of security but Gemini wants to be free like the wind, major character conflict in this case.

Without details of our natal charts; it's impossible to determine compatibility of a couple, based on mere Sun Sign.

The significactor of a chart or certain dignified planets could have more impact than our Sun Sign per se because critically and logically, we have more than just 12 types of human being.

P.S: Relationship doesn't always rule on the emotional plane of existence; every relationship is affected by the four elemental factors, appears in three planes of existence (Prime, Emotional and Spiritual), segmented by two variation of bonds (karmic & benefic) conjured by one dimension of our cosmic lesson. There's a tight relationship between the pyramid theory of CloUdiSm and our innate love wisdom cap in every individual because essentially, not everyone needs higher learning in love to love.

As an advice to all: if anyone of you is interested in New Age, I would encourage you to study beyond that of Sun Sign. And also to dismiss 'astrological column' written in magazine, newspaper and some internet sites because that's truly crap. It is there for commercial entertainment, bears no responsibility over what they have written and damaged the reputation of REAL astrology.

Cheers

Celebrity Soccer Event

The forty of us came together for a show, initiated via word of mouth.

Most probably regarded it as another ordinary event... after all, I believed most have did bigger events like NDP, therefore this might be nothing in comparison.

It was only until the final moments: when we stood with our hands hung high in the air, together in one collective entity in our middle of the green field - the pride and passion found in a group of youths coming together and accomplishing this mission is indeed dope shit.

I seen Karen and a few others who cried; thinking that this is the end.

Hell no.

This is but the birth of HR Crew.

We would love to be able to gather everyone back, after the initial struggle to get this set up.

No matter where are we - we will all be connected through our daimoku.

Spiritually, we are really one entity - away but never apart.

You all will always be my brothers and sisters in dance and in faith.

Cheers

Aunt Agony 161107

Originally posted by CrimsonWind:

I got to know G last year. We're in the same class. Used to be sworn enemies at first, but as time passed, we got to know each other better and now we are close friends. I don't know if she does treat me as a close friend but I do, at least I can guarantee that I'm one of the closer ones with her in class. Thinking back now, we were once foe but now friend.

Everything went on nice daily, always looking out for my 2 best pals(G is one of them, the other one is a guy), always discussing what to have for lunch, enjoys the time spent with both of them, looking forward to the next laugh with them.

It was until one day(few months ago) when another guy told me that he fell for G, a strange feeling overwhelmed me...like despair. He started by asking if I like M and if we have any special bond. Of course I said no and he went on saying that he can foresee that G and I will be together but I just shooed that sentence away. Then he felt safe enough to confess that he likes G.

After that incident, I've been pondering what that feeling I had was about. I reflected my memories so many times but I couldn't come to a solution. Or maybe I should say, I didn't dare to tell myself the final answer because I know what it is. Everyday, I'm only staring at the door in the morning because the sight of G is like my coffee for the day, discussed what to have for lunch so I know that she's eating well, enjoys the time spent with her knowing that she's well and also I can hear her voice, always looking forward for the next laugh to see her smile and know that she's at least happy.

It sucks, I always thought that I treat G only like a buddy and didn't expect myself to slip so easily. I know I can't continue like this, and since we are both in the same team on an important project coming up, having those feelings for her is an even more no no. If luck is on my side, any BGR will only hinder the whole group. If luck isn't on my side, the distance that my confession will make between G and I will break the team.

That's y I need some of your valuable suggestions on how I can keep my feelings within boundaries. How do I form a heart of stone? I still want to remain as close friends with her, but I do not want to fall for her...

Thanks for your time.

CrimsonWind~

How do you want to turn your heart into stone when you cannot escape the fact that the heart is indeed made up of flesh and blood?

And because you can't, there's no way you are able to avoid feeling what you are feeling - an avoidance tactic will never resolve your inner turbulence. You can always tell yourself a million times that you don't want to fall in love with her, but if that's of any help in the first place, then you probably won't be in agony.

The truth is that you are suffering because you are resisting against this natural rhythm of life - you got to accept the emotions that are surfacing and decide how are you going to deal with this love. Constraining love's presence will only encourage it to escalate out of control and it usually promises much misery.

You cannot return back to where you come from; you can only decide how you want to move from here. Upon realization of your feelings for your woman, there is simply no way you can revert back being a close friend, without this overwhelming, flooding love that seeks to embrace your relationship with her.

Deny all you want - at the end of the day, you will face your naked soul alone, with all the suppression you coerced yourself to believe in.

Sometimes in Love, a boy never grows into a man... until you introduce a competitor. The competitor is not a competitor; it's a catalysis for transformation.

Cheers

Aunt Agony 141107

Originally posted by NotADream:

I am really in agony, i jumped into this knowing i would have to face this someday. I didnt know how to start, but here is it.

I can still clearly remember our first "official conversation" 3 years ago. I was in the school's library and she was very busy typing on her computer. I went over and sat down and said "You look really tired". She stopped typing, smiled at me and said, "For my post-grad research, i've got a student helper, but he went missing. I guess transcripting like this is not for everyone."

I said something and went off for lunch. After lunch, i bought coffee and headed over to the library. I gave her the coffee and i could see that she was really happy, then i handed her my thumb drive. She was reluctant at first, but in the end, she still accepted my offer to help with her transcripting. That was when i got her cell phone number and MSN, in case i encountered problems with the transcripting...

That was how we started everything. I was then 18, finishing my A levels, and enlisting. She was then, 27, an attractive teacher and post graduate in my school doing research and teaching.

We got pretty close, and tease each other alot. I didnt give it much thought at first, i just liked her company, and she didnt mind too.

With my help, she finished her research on time, and she wanted to pay me for the job done, but i declined. I jokingly said i wanted a meal, and that is what she did. We had our first dinner together at a small, inexpensive restaurant, and the start of many more to come.

Months later, i was enlisted. She accompanied me alot before enlistment, even more then my parents. Every night, i would exchange sms with her, she would brighten up my night. Once, i am able to book out for a day due to public holiday, and i dreaded the long journey home. I called her, and she agreed letting my stay over for the night at her place in pasiris since she lives in a rented apartment alone. That was the start of my staying over at her place during weekend breaks or holiday breaks. She would help wash my laundry, cook, watch television together and sometimes even massage my back for me.

I knew we were not just purely friends since then.

now i am 21, she's 30. I am having a steady job and doing my degree at SIM at the same time. She now teaches in a certain institution. We are an item.

Few weeks back, we had a chat.. She felt that we should make known our relationship... I am fine with that... and her mother objects to our relationship very very strongly...

She loves me, and i loves her. Now, we are facing pressure from family, friends and even when we are out, shop assistants/owners addresses us as siblings and such. Are we really not suitable? Why cant we be together?

Who determines your outcome and final judgement in love?

Is it your friends? Your parents? Or God?

If you are having visionary plans to pursue this relationship adamantly, you will surely encounter endless obstacles along the way. I am not saying this to discourage you from loving the woman you have chosen, but rather, to set you on the correct mindset first and picture reality, without having to love while revelling in delusion.

There's only one way if you desire to love the way you want - that is to banish traditions and demonstrate your inexorable ideals in love - which is by having to succeed solely with the power of love against all odds.

You cannot blame our society from having such bigotry perception because the culture here bends towards assimilation than diversity - people cannot seem to accept others/views/situations that are different from the 'norm' or themselves.

What matters is the powerful force of love surging inside the both of you; who cares about what other people might think? But the former must materialise with substance, if not this equation would be weak and gives little incentive to pursue such challenging relationship. Remember: every reason outside the perimeter of true love merely reinforced the reason why you shouldn't go along with this because this belongs to RHC (CloUdiSm: Relationship of Higher Complication).

If you do not have the inner strength to take on such daunting challenges, I would suggest just forget about this whole thing because your relationship will never be a bed of roses until you overpower this Saturn-influenced relationship. You got to accept this notion from day one and work out your strategy based on this background.

The minute you slacken - you will lose this war rapidly and your relationship will start to disintegrate like vampire to sunlight. Comparing to other 'conventional' relationship - you probably have twice the area to defend, with half the troops available.

You can degenerate this relationship to societal pressure and appease the majority, but when your regrets start to sink in like viscous goo, nobody will share your emotional torment; you will live with the consequence of your choice.

If the relationship must fail; let it be the will of fate... not the will of man.

Cheers

Pending thoughts

Yes yes... I will pen down my thoughts and upload selective photos among the horde of photos we took the other day... when I have the time to do so. You know, time is something I sorely lacked these days.

And I so love you guys.

*Hugz*

Aunt Agony 131107

Originally posted by sEphIrOth:

I have some serious issues.

To cut them short...

My girlfriend has a good liberal family who supports her, I have a conservative family who inhibits what I do. I feel she has so many talents yet I have none. I am feeling that I am inferior to her and that I am not good enough for her, yet we understand each other and are going well. I just do not want her to be suffering. She is very nice and caring to me, that's what keeps our relationship going. However, sometimes, she sees her work as priority. In the end, I feel I am not good enough for her because she is in a league high above me.

I have health problems too. High blood pressure, knee problem, sexual disorders. I am not ashamed because I feel I have such problems but I want to solve them, yet my family does not want to acknowledge some problems. The sexual problem makes me feel inferior as my male ego is damaged. Other ailments leave me thinking when will I die. I feel that so many problems at the age of 19, it is very disheartening.

My family does not bother about issues they would not put as priority. They want me to study hard without caring about my social life and my parents do not want me to work, yet limit me to meagre allowance( no allowance on weekends). I see everyone around me having things worth a lot, yet I feel, even something simple like something worth 50 dollars, I can't even have it. Mind you my family is well to do, yet they can have everything, and me, nothing I want. I feel so pressurized when my parents tell me not to do this and that but most things are what people my age usually do (e.g spending some time outside). My parents urge me to stay at home, when I don't see any meaning in doing the mundane things I do.

I am only troubled by these 3 aspects of life. I am very troubled and have spent countless nights pondering. I hope I can get help here because I am helpless and these thoughts constantly haunt me. I do not believe I am having a very low self confidence because I am rational and I will evaluate how things are going. Life is never fair, I am a living example

Like a bird with clipped wings, you desire the freedom to fly, yet due to years of suppression, you can't seemed to find the courage to seek this very freedom.

You blame your parents for being conservative, on the other hand, it's also partially because you obey and kept status quo.

I will not encourage you to rebel, but rather, I say demonstrate actual proof - that you are capable of independence, if this is what you really wanted, without running astray. Chances are, your parents will never hand over your freedom unless you can prove that you have seriously grown up.

Your parents are probably the paranoid parents, who are probably overly affected by the news on how youth become delinquents because they had too much freedom.

This is exactly what you must prove; you have to address whatever subconscious fear they have and mollify them.

Once when you have worked that out, your relationship will readjust accordingly.

And as for your health condition, you got to consciously take good care of yourself, if you have yet to understand the importance of it. You keep yourself healthy, not because of yourself, but because of the people around you for if you truly love your woman, I think the least you could do is to avoid putting yourself in a worrying situation where she has to struggle emotionally to keep you (and herself) afloat, should anything happens to you.

Cheers

Aunt Agony 071109

Originally posted by Starfish07:

Recently I just broken up with my bf whom I been together for 3 months. The reason we broke up is he is not the guy tat I really wan to spend life with & I dun feel happy when I am together with him.

For my past 4 r/s, I think this is the worst relationship tat I ever had. His friends are more important than me & he is not the one there for me to share my happiness & sadness & he hated to call me & reporting to me everything.

I am a very simple person. I just want my partner to be home safe, care to share his everything with me & if he is busy I am fine with it. But he think I am controlling him too much which he had his own time to do his things rather than accompany me.

Why I am deserved to be treated like this?Why I cant meet a good guy & fall in love & get married?I am just wondering is there any good guys out there who really wan to get into serious relationship?

I had a good job, an own part time business to handle, a good family, a group of friends but my relationship really sucks.Friends often ask me how is my relationship but i always tell them dun ask there is nothing to tell. I dun smoke, I seldom club & I dun drink but why cant I meet a guy who can really treated me well?

Even though I am very understanding & concerned about my partner but they often take me for granted.

I dare not to fall in love anymore as I scared of being hurted again & again & my heart might not able to take the pain.

You hold firmly onto your own definition of what love and relationship means to you; it seemed to have rooted into your personal core value.

Every relationship is as serious as how you want to look upon it as. You broke up with your guy, citing serious incompatibility, but I believe it's more likely that he is just unyielding towards your decree of how you perceive and desire the structure of your relationship to be like and that emphasis itself may not lie with incompatibility as a whole.

You seemed immalleable towards your attitude towards love, secretly hoping for a product which fits perfectly into how you want your relationship to shape into. Surely, that might happen to some, (especially people who managed to build excellent benefic relationship accrued from previous existence/s or having evolved personality from present life) but more often than not, if your cosmic lessons in life lies largely with your relationship, your growth will automatically spring forth from your challenges within and that you have to learn it with humility.

Your demand out of love will not materialise at face-value; in fact, it often develops an inverse relationship with your thoughts. What will only happen is that you will meet people that will allow you the potential to grow that personality and wisdom to eventually fulfill this demand or understand why you should drop such thoughts.

Ironically, the people who always claim they don't want to fall in love because of the pain, are precisely the very people who always fall in love and always come out battered.

The rationale is very simple; if you allow fear to govern your attitude towards love, then fear will manifest into reality for you. The quantum of fear you have in love is closely linked to one's inability to accept reality and growth in relationship. If you reject growth due to fear, then fear will circumvent you like a pall of miasmatic cloud.

A simple relationship per se is never simple - in fact, what simple to you could be a 180 degree change in behavioural pattern for another.

A perfect relationship is never by birthright; it always forged through understanding, compromising and maturity by imperfect partners ourselves. Only by breaking down the emotional barriers we have put in place for love and love with wisdom, would our higher consciousness attract the best possible mate in the same wavelength and make that into reality for us.

P.S: We learn to walk so as to prevent falling - we don't learn to avoid walking just because we don't want to fall.

Cheers

Candy Floss

Candyfloss X NumberNine Musician Series



Candyfloss X JH X Candy X Mohan's ghoulish hand



Singtel free sweet treats?

*Snigger*

Cheers

Soka Wedding

Soka ROM - interesting.

I have found my retirement job today - I am going to solemnise marriages and be an Earthly 月老. Hahahahahaha!

Cheers

Aunt Agony II 031107

Originally posted by Perception:

Yesterday would be a day which i cant forget in my life.

Sent X home after some event and on the way, I told her that I like her. I already anticipated that I would be rejected but yet I still choose to tell her.

Told her that I already expected that she would reject me but its just want to let her know about how I feel about it. Similarly, she let me know that she just want to concentrate on her studies first and not go into relationship and she treats everyone as her friends currently.

The thing that made me so attracted to her is probably her personality. She's so different from other girls in terms of attitude and behavior. Thats probably why she have so many suitors as well. And on top of that, she seemed to have rejected all of them in the past as well.

Heard from a friend that during the time when i sent her home, she was feeling abit sick from something she drank and would like to be alone when going home. My presence she said, kind of irritated her...

I am having mixed feeling about this incident. Firstly, I'm feeling quite happy that at least I've got the guts to tell her face to face. Secondly, I'm feeling abit saddened by her rejection, but at least from what I've know, she rejected other guys in the past as well. But the thing now is I do not know if I should continue waiting or just give up. She's a good girl from what I can see...

This is a closure, unless you tell yourself not to accept this fate.

P.S If you attempt to chase someone who have countless of suitors, if you do what the others are doing, you will just join in the rejection queue.

I will explain this with a marketing analogy:

If a company product has no USP and its brand position is no different from competitors, it will fail - for it gives customers no reason to, specifically, purchase its product.

Kudos for your courage to express your love; but you probably need better strategies in the future.

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Aunt Agony 031107

Originally posted by Caligynephobia:

I'm typing this post with a heavy heart.

So i have this friend, we're very close, we talk about everything and we were always

there for each others during "times of turbulent weather".

At first i guess i kinda had a crush for her, like initially when i wasn't that close to her, but i guess after we became really close friends i started to really like her. i haven't told her anything about it, cos i'm really happy with what we are. and i claim that i "don't really expect anything back" but i think subconsciously i have the desire to have and to possess. such is humanly love no? but up till today i have kept mum about it.

but i also have this other close guy friend and he has liked her since quite a while ago . and recently he told me that he really can't keep it in anymore, he just wanted to tell her and get this burden off his chest. So, me being me, i encouraged him to do it and i even help to set him up with her. i brought him to her house and asked her to come meet us outside so he could tell her everything. so he did. and turns out she told him that "the feelings are mutual" and after he told me that, i was crushed. but i have to act all happy for the both of them since u know they're both my close friends and stuff.

So i really don't know what to do now.. i feel so helpless.. so stupid.. so dumb.. what do i do next? forever keep my silence? i mean i can't just tell her now that i know she has feelings for my other guy friend? sigh.

Love doesn't go to the one that felt the affection first - it goes to the first person who initiates and makes it happen.

Nobody says you need to be hasty, but if you are apathetic towards the true emotions that are growing inside of you, you will come to regret in the future, should your cosmic lesson revolved around the notion of passiveness.

Don't you think it's really silly?

You had to keep mum for gawd knows reason and allow yourself to be stuck in this quagmire. Now even if you have decided to do something about it, you will probably appear like an arse trying to filch on your good friend's love because apparently, you are the one that 'brought them together', isn't it?

People hold their tongue and hesitated in the expression of love for numerous of reason; but regardless of rationale, the root of it all is fear.

Which is more painful? Fear or regret?

The answer is probably haunting you right now.

Someone told me this from her own experience:

'If you want your boy to act, introduce a competitor. That's where he will become a man.'

Losing someone is no big deal - but losing someone whom previously you might have a chance with probably inflicts a blow ten times. It seemed that you don't really have much alternative right now; either you live in quiet misery or you risk ruining one good friendship.

Both choices are as miserable as it can get – a choice between expired can food and soured milk.

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