Aunt Agony III 261005

Originally posted by changb57:
since the divorce rate is higher and nowaday marriage is so fragile,....then why married????

i fail once and i see that people change....what is the point of marriage then???? women are as bad as men....nowaday women also have affairs...what a world??? 8O



Why are you all getting so cynical about marriage JUST BECAUSE there is this current trend of increasing divorce?

Statistic means nothing if you work to be the exception.

A failed marriage doesn't mean you are a failure in Love - it simply means that there is something you failed to learn and got owned by the reality of marriage.

Will there come a time when Love becomes a subject and people have to take classes to understand them because self discovery and enlightenment becomes a myth?

I am telling you that the percentage of non-lasting BGR is even worst - then are you going to tell me that you will avoid Love forever?

I said this before: Most people get married because of circumstances, when in fact, it should be the fruition of your Love.

What is the meaning of Fruition?

I) Realization of something desired or worked for; accomplishment: labor finally coming to fruition.
II) Enjoyment derived from use or possession.
III) The condition of bearing fruit.

Lemme post some common scenario:

If you discover that your partner is someone not particularly suitable... will you break with him/her because of incompatibility? Chances are, you may - but problem comes in when this relationship is already 6 years and there isn't any major problem at all. It is generally harmonious and mutual family already acknowledge your presence and anticipating for a wedding.

There are pressures involved (parental, biological, etc). Then you go with the flow... of accepting the marriage and pushing these REAL issue into avoidance.

Is that fruition of Love? Or is it circumstances?

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You have a relationship of five years, generally harmonious and have a healthy sex life. One fine day, the woman is pregnant. You are financially well-to-do and money isn't an issue to you. Chances are, you will get married.

Without getting into the morality of abortion and such: a shotgun marriage... is that fruition of Love? Or is it circumstances?

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*Refer to Aunt Agony 261005*

If the topic starter were to accept the proposal... a marriage due to emotional insecurity.... is that fruition of Love? Or is it circumstances?

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You don't have meaning in marriage... you MAKE meaning in YOUR marriage.

Cheers