Aunt Agony II 211005

Originally posted by Lady of lourdes:
what is the min. qualification u are looking 4 or u dont mind marrying a girl lower educated than u?

Originally posted by M©+square:
Aiyah. it's between two person.
I they could find ways to handle the relationship till marriage. Bless them! It's hard to find such relationships at constant.

My friend's wife paid for his dip sch fees for the whole of three years :lol:

Very difficult. I believe if both still wants to try and willing to try, It is possible.
Yunnie have a good essay on this topic.

Cheers


Isn't? When did I write it? *ponders*

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Anyway, at the end of the day, it all boils down to compatibility... on whether you are able to accept this particular person or not. You see, none of you are wrong - but it is how you perceive issues that are relevant to yourself because you deemed it as paramount in your potential list. You understand yourself best and know what is good for you when it comes to serious relationship... the criteria you are looking for. Education is also a criteria by itself. Some people feel it doesn't matter. Some people think it does. Others may feel that it is a factor that indirectly involve OTHER factors - like what MCsquare had mentioned: the depth of communication.

In CloUdiSm, there are four types of compatibility: Lifestyle, Emotional, Communication and Material. Depending on each individual, each of this category may deem MORE critical than the other. But nevertheless, in an ordinary relationship, the first level we always seek is Similar Compatibility. We are often comfortable to people that are similar to us and that belongs to the first level of compatibility. Like he/she plays the same sport/interest... love opera... communicate on same frequency, etc.

However, Similar Compatibility usually cannot ensure lasting, fulfilling effect promise by Love. That is but the inaugural step in attraction, for excessive similarity breeds a monotonous relationship. More often than not, people begin to discover the real glue that sticks a relationship and gives it some meaning and fulfilment... is what we term as Complementary Compatibility. It is the personality that complements each other. (E.g. A man, who may be successful in his career, may learn that a domestic type of woman fits him better than say a career woman, because it complements that area where he is lacking. In Western Astrology, the cusp of Career and Home is directly opposite each other. We called it MC and IC, respectively). The law of polarity is at work here, where people fill in our weakness and we fill others with our strength. This process of intertwining is a very powerful force in Love.

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Lower educated or not? If Cupid strikes you with an arrow of Love... even if he/she is completely out of your league, you will fall in Love. Likewise, if the arrow narrowly missed you, no matter how 'good' he/she is or may be to others, you will feel it's impossible. No armour is formidable to ward off Love's arrow - even Zeus isn't spare, as written in mythology.

Always expect the unexpected. The mind can never fully decipher the profound language of Love.

Cheers