Aunt Agony 230805

Originally posted by Love Story:
I hope I'm not sounding cynical and disillusioned with love, but I think that if an emotion and a feeling for somebody (specially one that is so "deep-seated" as love) can be erased with such considerable ease it must have never existed. A separation between two people in love could be for the silliest of reasons, but if that erodes love from between them, it would be best to think that love never existed or rather never blossomed between the two. Wise men say photographs can loose color, flowers can loose fragrances and even memories can fade, but true love can only grow!

More often than expected, one falls in love with the idea of being in love. Love as glorified by poets draws the common man's inherent curiosity to unimaginable extents. One starts to romanticize the beautiful flowers, the stars, the puppies and practically every thing picturesque, almost becoming an eternal romantic. Candle-lit dinners, ballets, the partner's best friend and a date for the most happening party in town tempt, so much so that one can barely resist falling in love. The congenital insecurity human beings are blessed with, to a certain level suppresses with this feeling of love. Subconsciously or unconsciously, each one of us is in with love, and so looks out for fulfillment of their expectations and dreams and this craving to be pampered by somebody, giving birth to a Shakespearean Orlando deep within their heart.

Now that you are familiar with love for love, ask yourself, whether you are actually in love with the person who you think you love, or just in love with the idea of being in love!


A need for psychological and emotional satisfaction.

Being in Love by itself produce a chemical called PEA that is released by the brain, which the body reacts and showed signs through sweaty palms, increase heart beat, butterfly stomach, etc - all signs of being in love (Especially Love at First Sight or LAFS for short). At the same time, a overall feeling of happiness and contentment is felt as well.

In psychology, we always work to achieve the same positive result as we did previously. Say, if getting 100 marks for spelling earned me praises from my parents, which made me feel good about my ability, esteem and confidence, I would do what it takes to repeat that behaviour, in turn, repeat the same positive experience I would incur.

CloUdiSm states that all relationship moved through a general cycle - although not ALL moved the same directions, but generally, most followed through this system: Honeymoon-growth-stagnant-declining. Some begins from a negative score, going through stagnation before honeymoon, etc. The possibilities are endless, however, it is almost guaranteed, that somewhere within the relationship, one would experience a short/decent frame of time involving Honeymoon period.

This is THE golden age of a relationship - where personality conflicts and problems are working its way to the cracks of the surface, revealing its ugly nature. But before that could take place, we are happily above it, revelling in total blissfulness.

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Being in Love or with the person?

It depends on ignorant innocence or knowledge.

If we talk about repeating our positive experience, being in Love, gives you an self actualization... the reason of existance. A good relationship keep the body, mind and heart stable, healthy and an overall wellness. If we venture deeper, being in Love fulfilled a portion of what the soul needs - the reunification of your 'other half'. These are the unseen reasons why human continue to seek Love, for there are NO known substitute... a monopolised market.

Love, by itself, is a simple and pure, just like our Love for our pets, while knowledge paints us the colours in our relationship.

And because knowledge grant us colourful picturesque as we gain knowledge through communication, we see all sides of our Love. It is unlike the Love of our pets, for we are unable to commuicate with them verbally and Love is kept as it is - Love and Simple. Fullstop.

By knowing more about our Love, in turn, OURSELVES - do we think that Love has gone complicated and no longer functioning the way it used to be?

Or are we deluding ourselves, thinking that it is better to Love without knowledge than to earn those colours and strive to bring out those colours to its fullest potential?

We LOVE because we desire to see ourselves in our own portray, drawing our own pictures with glisters and colours... learning the better combination of two separate paints put together... learning WHAT will work and what don't... learning that the Sun isn't painted as black and WHY... and the list goes on forever because we are eternal students of Cupid.

We Love because we want to learn more about ourselves... the angle where the mirror never reveal to us.

It is the knowledge that we seek.

Cheers