Originally posted by cutegenie:
I don't wish to jump into conclusion as well... but I feel really disappointed when he watch porn everyday. I try to talk him out several times about how unhappy and hope that he will watch lesser like what he promises me when I first know about his activities at home.
But when I access to his PC again, the window that poping out and also the real player's history have shown all the evidence that he did not watch lesser but he try to hide all this from me. Not that I want to dig and protrude onto his privacy. He have the real player and the pop out window to blame. Upon talkings, arguments and quarellings he still did it. And if he really appreciate me, why then he keep making me repeatedly for the sake of porn???
He told me that he is a human, he need those porn. And said that all guys are the same, where to find a guy who don't watch it... He stick to his own perception and will carry on with the porn. That's why I said, he can forsake everything for those porn... and that he appreciate it more than anything else...
The difference is probably 'watch' and 'indulgence.' Almost all guys will probably come across some form of porn some way or another, but having to indulgence them is another thing.
Having a good sex life doesn't mean it would reduce one's usage of porn indulgence like drinking Pepsi doesn't mean it will reduce your craving for Coke.
Addiction.
This is more like a psychological issue than a choice thing. And because it's psychological, unless he realise that it is doing him some form of harm (damage to current relationship), his behavior will continue. Because he sees it as a norm, probably everyone is doing it, so why can't he? This belongs to the same category as one who tries to change their partner to quit smoking. Every Joe and Jane on the street is puffing away - so why can't he? He will persist until he realize that the 'cost' of indulgence is far too costly and becomes unhealthy.
Cheers
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