Aunt Agony II 160707

Originally posted by huy:
It been a long time since i fall in love with someone.. ever since my past relationshiip which ended 2 years ago and it takes me quite a while to overcome it, i tell myself nv nv to fall in love with someone again... until when i met him...

he is a colleage in my company.. i jus join this company a few months back.. initially when i first knew him, i don really have that kind of feelings towards him.. to me, he is jus an average looking man and defintely not the type that i was looking for.. but as the days goes by, i realised that he is really diff from other guys. though he isn;t gd looking, but he carry himself well. he is very confident and he is intelligent, mature... not only that, whenever anyone encounter any problems at work, he is all there to help the person..

recently, i hang around with him a lot during office hours.. we can spend hours chatting, giggling.. it really enjoyable toking with him and thru all this chatting, i learn a lot from him also.. slowly, i began to realised that i kind of fall in love with him.. i don noe when it started but it seems that i have been tiking bout him everyday.. my heart jus beat very fast whenever i am with him.. initially i tok that was jus an infauation and i even slapped myself hard forcing myself not to like him but it not going to help.. my feelings towards him jus go deeper and deeper..

he is someone that i shouldn;t have fall in love with... regardless of background, qualifications, lifestyle, he is far way better than me. i am jus a nobody seriously.. he don have a gf now and he don noe that i like him also.. i jus kip all my feelings inside and pretend nothing happen. cos i knew that our friendship will defintely break if i confess to him..

seriously i felt so ashamed and guilty that i actually like him.. how can i fal in love with someone that i shouldn;t have... i felt like i am a toad falling in love with a swan.. i felt so cheapo of myself.. i tried to avoid him but then it hard.. cos i don wan to lose him as a fre also..

i really donnoe what to do.. now my whole mind is with him now.. i felt really tired.. it really terrible to kip my feelings inside..



Without trying, you kept tell yourself it's a road to failure and loving someone you shouldn't have - obviously failure is your only option.

Success and happiness doesn't come easy - in fact, most of the time, you probably have to die fighting or surmount arduous challenges before you could transform any dreams into reality.

From the way I see this, the only complication probably derive from that fact that it's an office relationship. Other than that, your other extraneous worries are basically self inflicted and mundane. All these 'he/she-is-too-good' for me perception is basically a product of inferior self esteem, largely illusionary.

What's good? What's bad?

It's all relative my dear.

Why are you even considering all these factors when in fact in the first place, you can't even find the courage to love him proper? And that being the MOST important factor?

Of course, you won't know if he has feelings for you, but surely, it's a possibility that something could happen. Why eliminate yourself completely even without a struggle? You have already moved on from your previous relationship, so what's holding you back?

You mean you are only 'entitled' partners with low qualification? Problematic family situation? Penurious background?

Without those, you can't date man?

Since you are equally troubled by avoiding and suppression of your emotions, why not try to face them? At least from there, you might actually find an answer to resolve your plight. After all, once you have been pricked by Cupid's arrow, there's little you can do, other than to give in to your heart's yearning.

Cheers