Aunt Agony 010707

Originally posted by kkkk0914:
acutuali me and my gf is gona 5 mths le..first month + to 2 is very sweet..like msgs came here and sent with mushy words..after tat it lessen..its normail i tink..bt till now its like we msg less thn 10 per day?

and that she nv include like 'dear', 'honey' etc..when i msg ilu or imu..she oso nv reply..i ask her y she simply jux say 'duno lahs'..it like oni per anni tatz whn she will say it..and everytime is i msg her first, if not maybe till 6pm + she oso woun msg me..and when she msg me its like 'i go out now', 'i reach home le' bt her reach home is after bath or even aft watch tv..lol..

yday..i msg her cos we nv met and when i like sent the 4th msg in abt 30+ 40 mins, she replied say its irritating..and at 10pm+ i msg or 4 msg, thn she replied 'u very boring izzit?' ..thn she even blocked me in msn and i confronted her in msn..she replied im sorry, i go slp le at around 2am+..

why it turned out to be like tat?? wat shld i do?? im really tired of doing so much..im sad, angry..how? :(


It's natural for young love to revel in their love passion and shower each other with lovely messages and such. But as you progress further into your relationship - to sustain a relationship requires more than just that lovey SMS.

Don't get me wrong - it's always good to be loving and send something thoughtful or affectionate, but that shouldn't be the source of your problem.

Often, it's how the person developed emotionally.

Not everyone is apt to be affectionate.

You will be surprised knowing how some people demonstrate their affection in love. It's not because they don't love their partners - but rather, their environment and personal development had grown in such a way that they are unable to respond to love spontaneously and heartily.

Next time when you witness a large group of friends laugh together, watch carefully: you will realise that although the term 'laughter' is experienced by all - everybody will react differently to this experience, in terms of how they display their mirth.

Some will burst out in madness; some will tear; some will only giggle; some will remain cold; some will roll on the floor; some will only smile; some will cover their mouth when they laugh; some will appear like seizure; some will be clutching their chest... so on and so forth.

It's not about 'turning to be like these' as your title has suggested - it's probably part her to behave in such a manner in her most natural state and form. During honeymoon stage and the chase, most of us would attempt to conceal our flaws and negative aspects of our personality. It's only when we have led our relationship and given enough time, our blemish becomes clear.

Relationship is not a journey of perfect bliss. You have probably board the wrong train if you are expecting one.

It's how you uncover about each other's true personality, deal with them and grow from there. That takes years of effort to compromise, shape and evolve one another and especially to craft your relationship. Now that you know more about her and your relationship, start structuring basis communication - relating individual needs and definition of love. Try to blend indifference into something workable and learn to fine tune regularly to keep it in shape.

If you even perturbing over such minor roadblocks, I can only say: please anticipate more of such challenges, with greater intensity, thrown into your path.

Cheers