Originally posted by twenty47:
your partner if she have this habit of bottling up her feelings? As in she is reluctant to tell you the things that have upsetted her and just cries in the middle of the night.
Only when things build up then she tells u everything and its only then u found out that most of what had made her sad are things that are what "she feels that I am thinking like this" but not what u actually was thinking at that point of time.
I've told her that i am always here to listen, for her to question my actions if it had upsetted her but she says that its her way of releasing stress (crying) and its not her habit to thrash things out.
What can i, as a boyfriend do to help? I don't wish to see her being upset over things that can be settled if clarified.... i don't want to see her cry in the middle of the night... please help...
It's not about helping; probably it’s about changing a mindset and personality.
It will probably take years, even if you are doing it right.
Never stop relating yourself or sharing of emotional information; this is the only way to induce her out of her ivory tower, bit by bit.
P.S: There seemed to be some negative-vibes/issues during her early childhood development, which contributed to her 'style' of communication. Although there must be an understanding that not all things are said, but suppressing everything within doesn't classify under that category. In fact, it has probably become an emotional disorder, which will definitely affect the way she runs the relationship.
Cheers
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