Aunt Agony 110706

Originally posted by anti.flirt:
I feel scared when i fall in love with someone.i chose to escape,i dare not face the one i am in love wif and aloof in the relationship.I feel so weird and sad, is this the side effect that i was once badly hurted from someone i trust and deeply loved?

Does anyone encounter in this situation before?

Am i never fall in love again?It seem like i'm mentally disordered..i feel so helpless..can anyone give me some advice?


You can secure yourself with fear, until the day when you have the wisdom to understand that to love means having to open yourself to 'infection'. And there is always that risk, since you open your soul to a complete stranger with the advent of Love.

You can be overly self protective, but at the end of your day, your growth is minimal.

The only person who has never encounter failure in relationships are those who never try.

You may have craved to love and be loved deep inside, but your automatic thoughts for the fear of hurt may be stronger than your desire to be in a fulfilling relationship.

Nurse your wounds from within - four years is a long time to be dwelling over past issues. Don't waste another four years being overly affected by the past because it may come a day when there is someone suitable, but because you are unstable, you bring on your instability onto her/relationship and cause emotional fissure.

Cheers