Aunt Agony 270706

Originally posted by risou:
im 25, shes 21.

initiated a breakup with her (2yr r/s) in 04, had been unable to endure the constant (trivial) quarrelling, and she always pulled out the 'breakup' word. Even then, i was still uncertain of my feelings...

since then we've kept in contact, mostly through sms/msn.

recently found out she found a bf whom she had known through her friends (for barely 2 weeks). He's 8 yrs older than her, owns a car and is a regular. She confided in me when they quarrelled and as much as i didnt want to know, she told me stuff about him/them, and his/his family's faults.

this was when i realised i may lose her forever... so i took action and met her a couple of times, where i really voiced out a lot of stuff and my feelings. From the time we were together, she had been for the most part my soulmate.

as her vacation was ending, she told me to wait for her decision as she would be busy with school stuff... and so i did. At that time... it seemed i stood a good chance. When we contacted again, she told me she had 'went back' to that guy during that time to see if it could still work out... it was heartbreaking as i didnt expect her to lie to me (or at least didnt say the truth).

we met again, but this time i was tired and not in the mood... and so the meetup passed by uneventfully with me being quiet mostly.

i duno what shes thinking but since then... she has been very cold towards me and told me to put everything aside for now...

due to -some- reason... i think she has gone to be with that guy. But i have not confirmed.

just posting this because tbh amongst my friends there isnt any really close one to confide in, and just duno what to do now. And there's still the financial problems to juggle...

p.s. after reading the 'old or new bf?' thread, realized its somewhat similar =/



You are the old, battered shoes kept in some forgotten corner of her cupboard.

Whenever she wore her new shoes and when it gave her foot sores, she will remember how comfortable the old shoes were, despite being old.

For a period, she may wear you.

But you know that your position has been displaced by the new shoes.

***

You hasten your chase just because you felt threatened over the appearance of this new guy - I believe it is a case of 'reserving' her and deciding your 'feelings' later. More likely, you are seeing it as a 'lost' in something than a mystical call from love which urged the chase.

You are looking back and she is moving forward.

If you wish to dwell in this any longer, you will probably become stagnant, while she enjoyed her new path in life. It may not necessary be a fulfilling relationship, but certainly, it will bring her new destination in love and life.

P.S: Remember, you both are once an item - love and relationship did blossom before. There isn't any regret to begin with; it's an ending to accept gracefully.

Cheers