Aunt Agony 070905

Originally posted by Saint`:
ok .. 1stly i find myself falling for gals who r attached .. or almost attached .. i dunno y .. cos i looked back into my past .. almost all the serious ones r those who r either taken .. or on the rocks ... y such things happen to me ??

1st gal .. my jc yr 1 bestie , but when she was taken i felt a strong compelling regret ... somemore she confessed to me tat she had liked me b4 -.-
2nd gal .. i was a 3rd party .. >.<
3rdgal .. she was on the rocks with her bf .. n confide in me tat she actually has no feelings for him ... onli go steady with him out of gratitude n impulse

so now this is the 4th gal ...

i mus admit when i got to koe her .. i had the slightest idea to court her ... but then i didnt .. jus managed to maintain a platonic rls with her ... partly becos she was attached to someone of her sec sch.. n also from past experiences of being a 3rd party .. i wouldnt wan to do it again cos i koe hw bastard it could b n painful for all 3 ppl .. so i resist n back off ... but when i saw her with 1 of my not-so-close fren together .. i was quite taken aback .. cos i didnt koe she changed bf .. prehaps in my sub consicous .. i was wondering y i didnt take the chance when i was close with her(like with some occassions in the past) ..however i nv habour any feelings for this gal when i got to koe this

so now ... she n her bf broke up .. her bf is in the army .. n due to some bad reasons .. they ended up this way .. the funny thing was .. when she confided in me ... i felt so weird ... i told myself i shldnt like her .. but i dunno y n couldnt helped it but felt slightly drawn towards her ever since the day i koe she has broken up with her bf ...

well she hasnt really gotten over with him yet ... n the bf shown repentance n is willing to patch up ... i koe i might jus fall back to the same black hole again .. hw is it tat i m attracted to gals of such kinds .. i mean those like taken or semi-attached those kinds .. -.-

so i m wondering what shld i do ... i went out with her once to study n play ... i tried to cheer up her n i found myself showering her care n prehaps some bits of affection .. shld i continue this confused courtship ?? or wat ??... i will b having a major exam soon .. i really hope tat if i were to court her ... it would be good news for me .. if not .. a total void to even attempt ...



Usually when that happens to people I know, I will study him/her in details, as part of my everyday study. Somehow, you didn't choose or desire to be in that kinda of relationship, but heaven seemed to make sport of you.

A slight shift of preception: it may not be YOU with the tendency of falling for taken/semi-attached girls, rather, it seemed like unlearned lesson repeating its cycle. You said that you encounter situation where regrets sinks in, then your girl became unavailable and pressure you into a third party status.

Have you truely learn the pain of thorns when plucking the roses? I doubt so. You merely know the pain, but the deterrence is not enough for you to abstance.

Karmic relationship - created a carrot dangling infront of donkey situation. You are lure into them.

Seriously, I do not have much issues about people chasing after others who are currently attached. But what is accompanied by such relationship is usually a price, without a pricetag. We never know the extend of how much it will cost us until we decide to enter into that zone and move towards that direction.

Such is but self discovery and knowledge, on what is the best route to steer in Love.

Cheers