Aunt Agony 300509

Originally posted by maxcp:
Where will be a good place for a 40 years old guy to find a lifetime partner ?


One can never seek love, looking for lifetime partners. For love, at times, doesn't provide lifetime partners.

I don't blame you for looking what you seek, as our biological age and cosmic lesson are vastly different. Even if I am 40 and unmarried, I will tell myself so be it. Probably throw myself into spiritual learning in substitute for relationship deficiency.

At that age, you will probably be desperate. Age is catching up and it seemed that any relationship you land on would immediately view as a potential for marriage, regardless of how it seemed like. This poise a dangerous thought indeed, as relationship at 40 is the same as relationship at 20. Those constant never changes.

I remembered an old case where this man remarried thrice. Checking him out, it was discovered that his mindsets plays a huge reason why those marriages never last (apart from serious astrological affliction in Love and Marriage). I don’t know you, but marriage should only come during the apex of your Love. Any marriage due to biological/other reasons place a cap on fulfilment and contentment gain from the Love. This man became so desperate that any girl he hook up, he thought of marriage, even if they are unsuitable.

He thought he was running out of time, only to realise that he has delayed himself longer through his failing marriage.

What is running out of time? What was he trying to run away from? Age?

A state of mind.

He created the sense of urgency... he got killed in his sense of urgency.

Can love be rushed and artificially made?

I suggest the same thing as I would to a 20+ young lad - to expand social circle, adopt new interest and do alot of reflection. I may not understand you as much as yourself, so WHY have you landed in this state, this enlightenment may save you alot of time on repeat lessons that ought to learnt ages ago.

There is no short-cut to Love and when do it that way, you get compromised quality of your own relationship

Cheers