Aunt Agony 130905

Originally posted by missingJ:
bcoz of work, we met in feb tis year, we din communicate much.... till late july he started sms mi... (juz chit chat) after first few sms, he msg mi " I Like U" , then my reply is " i have feelings for u too, but i wan to kno more abt u 1st"

august, after e 1st date, his sms bcum "can u kiss me?", "do u love me?" :?

is he too fast or am i too slow?

actually, really wanted to build up nice friendship wif him 1st, sigh,
mi now scared by him leh...

talking to him, face to face n thru sms, r like communicating wif 2 different person...



Seriously, that's so anti-seductive; if I was you, I will definitely get turn off man. On a full hundred scale, that would probably cost him about 15-20 points.

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When you have feelings for someone, usually this feeling is innate, breed and grown out of proportion until you cannot control your emotions. Because it is innate, how it grow, depends on what is 'fed' to it. Most of the time, it is our imagination and fantasy (or AOS technical term: 'Insinuation'), which fuel this little infatuation.

You probably want a friendship (at least initially), while he probably see you as a girlfriend material and looking at you in view of a potential.

Your natural womanly instincts trigger off and signal a warning. This clashes with your little liking, which is far too green to stand firm. It activated your security alarm and you subconsciously see yourself retrograding.

This is natural.

P.S: Take one step at a time. You got all the time to play around and check him out. If he cannot prove himself to make you feel comfortable and at ease with, he only have himself to blame for hastening the chase and spoilt the banquet.

Cheers