Officially Employed

I am gainfully employed.

Thank God!

This time, I gonna aim to be a private banker in the future.

*Look far and wink*

对不起，我们已经尽力了

对不起，我们已经尽力了

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EmoBoy

HAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA!

Sorry; I thought that was fucking funny.

Evermeet, Island of Elves

I know it's sinful, but I just can't help it.

I just spent another 17 bucks on a fantasy book.

Sigh

Cheers

Aunt Agony II 200307

Originally posted by redpixie:
He knows, he found out about a week ago. I wish we could be more than friends but the thing is...I have a boyfriend who loves me very much and he's in love with another girl who doesn't love him. I know i have to faithful to my boyfriend which is not hard at the moment since the guy i'm in love with doesn't love me, but i'm afraid that in the future when he gets over his current love things will be more complicated. We had a chance to become a couple long time ago but he let it slip away. Now i keep thinking what could have been. I try to support my boyfriend and give him as much love as he's given me over the past couple of years but my heart's not 100% in it. Every now and then i start thinking about my friend...How can i get over him?


I am afraid that logic and habitual reason/s won't sustain the relationship for long.

Yes indeed, it's logical to try to coerce yourself to love someone - albeit you don't really love - you called as boyfriend. But seriously, how long do you plan to maintain your relationship in this kind of logical equation that makes absolute sense, but doesn't add value emotionally?

Before I talk about your best friend, let's examine your current relationship.

(i) You spoke about the differences between you and your boyfriend, but do you perceived it as considerable incompatibility?

(ii) And if the answer is yes, then why, despite the incompatibility, do you even allow yourself to be in a relationship with him?

(iii) You mentioned 'years', what appears to be the real reason for sticking with him, if love wasn't the motivation behind the 'seeming harmonious' relationship?

(iv) You mentioned that there was a 'chance' your best friend might be with you instead; was this incident BEFORE or AFTER your current boyfriend made his appearance?

(v) I would like to know details of your relationship; how long you knew your bf before coming together? How did it happened? How long is the relationship? His personality? Your views on him? On this relationship? Your age?

Cheers

Aunt Agony 200307

Originally posted by Kens-:
Its a pity my first post has to be like this.. Recently I tried to jio my ex back..we had been together for 2 yrs but we separated 'temporarily' a few months ago because she was really busy working and studying part time and couldnt commit to the relationship.. i understand that.. and it didnt really affect me badly at that time.

But yesterday she told me over the phone to forget about her coz she claims that we have different thinking and she wants somebody who is more 'mature'. I nv felt so heart-broken in my life.. the working environment must have warped her adolescent mindset..

Its so painful to see someone u love deeply dump u while she seeks better opportunites elsewhere. I look back on all the good times we've had and realising that we'll never experience those again hurts me deeply. We had such a strong relationship.. everytime we had problems we will not let it linger. I seriously cant believe that all of it has to end like this because she changed..

I know i have to move on but i do not know how long it will take for me to recover. Yesterday i just dreamt of her.. Emptiness consume me everytime wen im alone and i cant help but cry utterly when my mind wanders off to an image of her face. Knowing the fact that she wants someone better has also led me to think that i am inferior. She was my only confidant.. and now that she is gone i dunno what to do.. Im so confuse.. i do not wish to harp on this anymore.. Sobs* :(




I see this as a transition - the working world did not warped her mindset; more likely, it served as a catalysis to instil courage for her to leave the relationship. Likely, she already had thoughts of leaving the relationship - though reasoning is around, courage to translate reasoning into action is missing.

Having to spent some time, without your presence, cleared her doubts and gave her the courage to act.

If you desire to constrain a woman inside a 'closed environment', so that you can preserve that 'adolescent mindset' forever, strangely, is that even love in the first? The minute your girlfriend tasted freedom outside, she fled faster than you could say 'please don't go.'

Chances are, she stayed on because of reasons OTHER than Love.

The minute any man and woman abolish freedom and liberty in their relationship, it becomes an effect of insecurity - not love. And this usually have various degree of adverse effect, depending on how intense the implementation is.

You are so affected because she is your ONLY confidant. This over dependency on your mate will likely to affect the process of your relationship and also slow the recovery of your emotional injuries inflicted.

Real love is when he/she have other choices and still choose you... and NOT because he/she have no other choice except you.

Cheers

Ferry Shot

Took a snap shot at the Ferry in Nic's car.




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Aunt Agony 170307

Originally posted by LoStGuY:
Hi everyone. This is my 1st post here. Hope someone can give me good advice on my situation.
There's this gal who I have known for around 4 yrs. During this period, there were times when I wanted to ask her be my gf but due to reasons I didnt find tell her. Recently, I found out indirectly that she has a bf for about 2 mths. Since then, I feel I have been a fool. I should have tell her I like her. But now...I don't know should I remain as close frens wif her or should I tell her I like her. Her birthday is coming close. Any advice anyone? :(


I used to walk passed this shop, totally awed by this one particular shoe. Talked about it all day and my good friend even bought the shoe in another colour. But because the price is quite steep, I decided to hold on to my purchase (even I had the money to spend. Don't know why, just decided to hold on).

When I have decided to buy, the shoe is gone forever - no more size.

Even till now, I still think fondly of that shoe.

Given the chance, if someone wanted to sell the shoe, would I buy it?

Yes (Provided it's deadstock or the condition is very good).

But meanwhile, have I stop buying shoes?

Not really. In fact after that, I have gotten three other pairs of shoes spread over a period of time.

P.S: People are always interested in things they don't have. Ironically, that doesn't mean they would not settle for something better in the future.

Cheers

Aunt Agony 170307

Originally posted by T.Ryousuke:
How often does your gf didn't respond to your SMS or call?
If she always care to explain who is she with, eg go out with gal friends to shop or drink, after sometime do you feel fishy?



If one has the intention to cheat, he/she will cheat, insofar as to do whatsoever possible to keep it hidden (although with time, everything will be known eventually).

It's not about girls; in fact, it's about the personality of the person. Some people do not feel the need to report their SMS/calls when they out with a group of friends - I used to be like that. Of course if you are not pleased with such behaviour, you have to talk to her about your insecurities.

It's always possible to manage personal space and 'couple's regulation' harmoniously. But if her previous relationship was like that, it would probably take a couple of years’ worth of communication, understanding and compromising before a lasting, viable solution will be in place.

The key is to keep communicating.

Cheers

Aunt Agony IV (Continued from AA III 150307)

Originally posted by l0st-s0ul:

Hey, thanks for ur reply. I always knew u'll be here giving helpful advice. I would have to admit that I dont really understand women. My concerns are if she doesnt give a sign I wont know what to do next.

For example, if she thinks there's a possibility of progression, I would know what to do such as to give ourselves more time so that we really understand each other. It's really sad to know a relationship which has potential just fizzles out because both parties dont relate to each other. I also absolutely understand the need of time to establish a bond, it would be totally pointless in rushing into a relationship and breaking it the next week.

On the other hand, if she thinks there isnt any possiblity of being more than just friends, I would glady and gallantly back off like a gentleman and we'll just remain friends.

Right now it's like quite wierd to ask her out alone cause I think that's more than just being friends and in this case is what we are not. So is this friendship just gonna fizzle out like a can of coke left in the open?

Oh by the way, the metaphor u used "Before you know it, you might have accelerated out of control and lose grip of your situation like a malfunctioning motor bike crashing into a tree." gives me creeps cause I ride a bike and it's really scary. Touch Wood!



The flawed education system here screwed up the minds of Singaporeans (especially people of this generation). Everything is programmed subtly by this system to follow the chain of command/orders and being told what to do. They cannot function without first having a direction to the next step and generally fail badly in areas outside this safe zone.

But does love work this way? Obviously no.

Love never worked in an absolute manner - it's often the grey that it residue.

How would a friendship fizzle into nothingness if there wasn't a problem in the first place? (And we are not talking about the natural degeneration of bonds through time because you only knew her for a short period of time and that isn't really applicable in your situation)

You mentioned about your perception of a 'potential relationship' - have you ever thought of the possibility that although, it may appear as a 'potential relationship' to you, but it may not be so for her?

On whether you should remain as friends or to continue the pursue; analysis your own situation and make your own choice my dear. Because to me, both are equally feasible - it's only a matter of perception and decision. If she doesn't give you the cue to the next move, you strike out and plan your next move.

Only then you will learn through your experience and benefit.

Cheers

Aunt Agony III 150307

Originally posted by l0st-s0ul:
Dear Aunt Agony, Im so lost.

I have met this girl a few weeks ago. We have chatted and smsed and we get along fine. So far, we have gone out on 2 dates. However, after the dates, I find that she seems different from before, she isnt as warm as before. U must be wondering what I did or tried to do during the outing. Seriously, I did nothing extraordinary, neither was it ordinarily boring.

I dont really know what Im so attracted to her about. I wont say she's hot nor a head-turner. But to me she is nice. The worst part is, I dont know what about her is nice. Maybe it's just her.

U must be thinking that this is ridiculous, knowing a girl for only a few weeks it must be infatuation. Well, before u hit the back button of ur browers or prepare to type +1, I too sincerely hope it's just merely infatuation and nothing more.

Recently, I hinted to her if we could be more than just friends. The gist of her reply was to take things naturally, but dont rule out the possibility. And dont take it too hard if we become together or not.

I think females are the most complex species in the universe. If u had asked the question above to a male, it would be simply either yes if I like her or no if I dont like her. Asking a female, would bring about a whole lot of theories and calculations before finally coming up with an relatively ambiguous answer. I have studied cryptoanalysis and understand the algorithm behind DES, AES, MD5, SHA-1, etc. However, the answers females give are sometimes beyond mind boggling. I believe that the strongest, uncrackable algorithm would the female mind.

In my next thread, I'll talk more about the 4 letter word which women absoultely love, while the men dont.

Well, lets not get out of topic. So, Aunt Agony, does this mean it's time for me to move on?


You sure you never do anything? Or is it just that you don't know what you have done that might have causes you the marks in the impression quotient?

Taking things too fast and furious often revealed bad consequences. Before you know it, you might have accelerated out of control and lose grip of your situation like a malfunctioning motor bike crashing into a tree.

Man often lament how they don't understand woman to make an effective chase; I throw the question back at you - do you even understand yourself enough to win over your woman? Employing wrong strategies is enough to kill most chase - you don't have to break the 'woman's code' before you could succeed in the chase (although it's significantly easier).

I have always equated your kind of situation to bad selling. A good salesman doesn't always have to study the module - Consumer Behaviour - before he's certified as an excellent salesman. Selling has several different aspects, from preparation to post mortem. But eventually - what' matter most is your delivery.

Have you encounter cases where the product is excellent, but the delivery/presentation of the salesman simply turns you off and eventually no sale/s is made?

I asked the retailer before and this is what he told me.

'Aiya, one look I know they won't buy one.'

A classic excuse often used by retailer.

Are you like the retailer?

[quote] Originally posted by l0st-s0ul:
...I think females are the most complex species in the universe. If u had asked the question above to a male, it would be simply either yes if I like her or no if I dont like her. Asking a female, would bring about a whole lot of theories and calculations before finally coming up with an relatively ambiguous answer. I have studied cryptoanalysis and understand the algorithm behind DES, AES, MD5, SHA-1, etc. However, the answers females give are sometimes beyond mind boggling. I believe that the strongest, uncrackable algorithm would the female mind.

Does your failure stem from your lack of understanding about woman?

Think about it.

Cheers

Aunt Agony II 150307

Originally posted by James1:
juz ended my half a yr relationship with my gf about a week ago and find it hard to accept the fact that she want to be a faithful christian to her church, want more time to do what she want and also she think i need to be more mature enough.
The day when she decided to break up, I was totally devastated and was demoralized, she told me in front of my face and was shocked till my face almost turned pale, sorry if I was a little "Kua Zhang" is because i want to let you guys understand how I feel, I begging her minute by minute, hour by hour to take me back but she refused. We had lots of quarrel as we hardly give in to one another and as the time goes by, she said, "quarrelling something allow us to understand each other better." so I think it's all right to quarrel so I carried on for months till now.
As I know the moment when I beg her, she felt honor being pleased, I think it's common for all human being.
A few days after the broke up, I was thinking of returning back the stuff which she bought for me such as t-shirt, bags and etc. Do you think it's childish to do that? Because I think it can erase off the pain she gave me....


I think Christianity is merely a red herring; incompatibility is the real stuff.

Quarrels are good only if it's constructive arguments and that there must always be 'cushions' to prevent acrid aftermath and bitterness.

Argue for the sake of arguments very often drains the energy of relationship rapidly.

Hope you do learn something out from this ordeal.

Cheers

Aunt Agony 150307

Originally posted by woohooooo:
I used to have few gfs and I chased them effortlessly. They would accept whatever I asked them whether it was meeting up or chatting on the phone without being reluctant. Things came my way easily then. However now the situation seems to have changed. Nowadays, it's not so easy anymore. It's been 3 years since my last relationship. Perhaps I am no longer young and relationships are more complicated.

Right now there's this girl I would like to chase. She seems lukewarm to my responses though. When I tried to get her number in front of the friends, she keep asking me to get it from someone we know. Yet I heard from my friend she don't mind giving me her number and was smiling afterwards. When I called her, we chatted a while and because she's not at home I told her I wouldn't to disturb her and call her later. She said don't call cos want to bath and sleep. Both of us working so don't know if she's tired?

In the past, when I get "hints" of disinterest, I would give up and not bother witht that girl anymore. I know this is wrong but I'm a person who gives up easily. So what should I do as I have no experience in perseverance?


I think the problem lies in your mindset. Previously, all is easily won. But now, the game of pursue is no longer simple. It seemed that getting the woman you want requires more than just plain chatting on the phone or dinner at classic places.

Ladies do grow up too you know.

And as they grow wiser, they are more resistant to 'tricks' employed by guys that might easily score well with less experienced ladies. Also, they are often so overly exposed to interesting tales of BGR stories from their girl friends that they learned some things from here and there. The more experienced ones are even worst; they anticipated your thoughts even before you date them out.

You craved for instant gratification... instant affection... instant answer... like instant noodles; allow me to encourage you to see the beauty of patience. There are things in life which you got to work for and these things are often worth the effort. And working towards this goal requires time and patience. Like brewing a pot of chicken soup, if you shorten the time to brew it, it probably doesn't taste as good as if you allowed all the time needed to make it an excellent pot of soup.

Cheers

Aunt Agony 140307

Originally posted by Prince Cumming:
If there’s one problem which I’ve been wrestling for the past 4-5 years, it’s this pervasive sense of loneliness and rejection.
Many times when I wake up in the morning or when I’m in the midst of doing something, my mind will be filled with this “What is wrong with me??!!” thoughts… so much so that I’ll sink into a depressive state…

My personal life has been like down in a slump for years… I’ve only a very few friends whom contact me once in a while and apart from that, absolutely no relationships, no connection it seems with anyone

My greatest problem is this increasingly strong feeling that No one is remotely interested in me --- it’s like people hardly ever contact me, from the gals I tried to date to even my current classmates… everybody is just plainly nonchalant towards me.

I’ve tried… from joining classmates for lunch after lectures, studying with them, even taking up a hobby. So now my only form of social interaction comes from “formal activities” like attending classes (and then chatting a little with my classmates in the process). Other than that, during most weekends and holiday, I’ll virtually be without any friends or relationship with anyone… it’s like not a normal nor healthy phenomenon but one that I can do little about....



I agree with Devil about the contacting them part; it never hurt trying to hook people up, date them and organise outing.

One way is to work towards a common interest; people are less likely to reject dates/outing when there is a common interest/subject. I think there's a need for you to find that core interest to pursue because from there, you will inevitable find people of similar mindset/interest and forge great friendship.

I made friends from several sources. Obviously not all of them will turn out to be great friends, but when you scatter your seeds randomly all over the place, surely, a few will develop well, albeit most might just perish.

Let me try to form a logical picture/equation in your mind:

In school, you would probably have your school clique. These are some friends.

If you go to church and is decently active in church activities, you would have your religion clique.

Then when you expand slightly more; if you are involved in dance as CCA, you would have some dance clique.

You get the idea.

The more interest you pursue, the more people you will know from those activities and the higher the chance you will find good friends. If you want to improve/retain your chance of making meaningful friends beyond that of just 'good', you also got to work on your personality so that people will find you comfortable, interesting and most importantly, natural. Then they will include you into their life/group/clique/etc.

P.S: People often want to be around people they feel comfortable with. And to make them comfortable, firstly, they got to accept/like your character first before they will be comfortable with your presence in their life.

Cheers

CDG Flagship Store

I finally went down to Commes Des Garcons flagship store in Bukit Merah View, Blk 113




Yeah!

But unfortunately, they got no 'Play' series tee.

I guessed I got to settle for Club21 or BWS (Bape Workshop)

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MINT

Went to the Toy Museum. Finally.

And nope, it wasn't FOC. Had to pay a toll fee of 7.50 SGD before we were allowed in.

An old poster of the galaxy.

Old toy robots

Popeye the sailorman

Hopscotch



An overview

A small portion of the entire collection

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Aunt Agony 130307

Originally posted by love?:
Why? Why can't I just have the things I want for once in my life? Why is it always so ironic? Why is it when I want something, it always run away? Why is it so hard to find someone to love?

Why is it so hard to woo someone when it gets older? I have decided to ask her out purely as friends and she accepted the first date without any hesitation. After the first date, I find her a very nice lady but right now I have asked her out 2 times and both times got those "see how" first reply.

What have I done that have gone wrong? Why all these years my luck with girls are so bad? So many girls yet none stayed. Am I only suitable yo be good friends and not a lover? In the past, it was not like that. I had 3 gfs before and ever since the last one when I decided to settle down I could not find anyone.

I have socially active and I join many activities and talk to many girls yet the most I can go is being friends. I am not ugly nor anti-social yet sometimes I find my friendliness taken for granted. When I care too much, nothing seems to work out. But when I become a bastard, I get what I want. Why is life so ironic?

In work, I always thought I would get a job where I would meet a good boss who saw potential in me. I don't consider myself stupid but yet all I get a job was simply an average paid job with no growth potential. Yet some of my peers who are academically lousier than me get a higher paid job than me. And worst of all I get a boss that is a joker and a job environment that emphasise on papers.

All I want is a simple and happy life but why am I getting the opposite? Is it really so difficult to find love in this materialistic country?



There's deep resentment about your life as you likely not making the right choices/decision to effectively spur changes... or should I say constructive improvements. There is this emotional anguish that is affecting your self worth, questioning and planting doubts of your ability and yourself.

My take is that you don't have to accept such a fate if you don't wish to. You just got to equip yourself with the correct mindset and courage to work towards a positive change.

For Love:

And think not you can, direct the course of love,
For love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course

For Career:

If you dislike an environment that focus on paper qualification, then seek for a company that at least appreciate talents/effort/hard work/etc.

IMHO, the easier of the two evil is definitely your career because you have a choice to change job anytime to avoid the curse of working in a company you detest. There's some degree of control in which you can manipulate, whereas in love, you are probably at the mercy of circumstances (Won't talk about AOS here though).

It's true that as people grow older, they might have more difficulty in seeking potential mates. Not exactly because of their age, but more likely due to their lifestyle. When you are younger, people are put into the school environment and it's easy to mingle around with people of your age and interest. But as we leave school, if your lifestyle doesn't allow you the opportunity to meet ladies, interact and know them, then your 'market share' is probably limited.

Next is about personality (and other factors). I don't know about you, but I do know people who are almost at brink of desperation in seeking mates, unknown to them, they actually emit that sort of desperation aura that turns people off. You mentioned about a first date, but was rejected a second/third one - doesn't it sound weird? Sure, you could give her the benefit of the doubt as she may be actually busy. But if it's a convenient excuse often heard when you requested for a second/third date, you know she's probably just being polite in rejection.

Chances are, that's because the comfort wasn't good enough with you at the conclusion of the first date and thus the reluctance and hesitation for the next one.

During the date, she has subconsciously evaluated you and you didn't pass. What has happened? It depends on how enlightened you are in reviewing your 'performance' for that particular date. Most guys in similar cases never understand why and thus they repeat history over and over again, citing poor luck in love, when in fact, it's actually about themselves.

Dating is not just about the person - it's a lot about yourself.

Dating is not just about the outing - it's about the strategy involved before, during and after the date.

And most importantly, dating is not about BGR relationship - it's about building bonds with people.

Cheers

Twin Head Dragon

Triple kill!

Ownage!

Period

'NBHD Flash Savage Drop' Day

Went out shortly after reading through the Saturday's paper, consumed two rolls of chee chong fun and a hasty cold bath. Planned to meet Nix so that I could hand her my Hard Drive to pass to Jason on my behalf and the stupid me forgot to bring it out last minute.

Wah rao eh! Simi Sai~

I guess I would have to delay my magic training once again (although I have more or less master Jumping Gemini).

Met HQ at Surrender and was surprised to see Destiny too, wearing a black Supreme x Neighbourhood Tee (which I thought it was better in white). Yeah, they were both eager to check out Neighbourhood Flash Savage (narrow cut), which was probably released on that day as well and retailed at $800-/ each. After lunch at FEP, we heeded down to Club21 and HQ ended up purchasing N9 music series tee at about more than $200+ (can't remember the exact amount).

And thus this look (which we forced him to change and take picture).

And of course, I saw my CDG play tee which I wanted, but I can only think of purchasing it AFTER I do get my confirmation for the job at Audemars Piguet (Please???? = )

Fast forwarded: Ended up in TCC after dinner for a chill session (before that we met Nick and Tan Chia at Heeren for ww's purchase of two horror 400% bearbrick). Three fringing` hours to spare before our movie begin - Stomp the Yard. Pretty decent show, although flow/plot of story is typical of a dance inspired movie. Still, it was good enough for me.

Time to tighten belt once again - squandered almost $50-/ today.

Kiks Tyo x Aki Hoshino (Air Jordan)

I think this release only available in Japan. Don't really fancy Air Jordan that much than the collaboration with Tiffany I owned.



Anyway, I got into Audemars Piguet second interview! ^_^

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