Aunt Agony IV (Continued from AA III 150307)

Originally posted by l0st-s0ul:

Hey, thanks for ur reply. I always knew u'll be here giving helpful advice. I would have to admit that I dont really understand women. My concerns are if she doesnt give a sign I wont know what to do next.

For example, if she thinks there's a possibility of progression, I would know what to do such as to give ourselves more time so that we really understand each other. It's really sad to know a relationship which has potential just fizzles out because both parties dont relate to each other. I also absolutely understand the need of time to establish a bond, it would be totally pointless in rushing into a relationship and breaking it the next week.

On the other hand, if she thinks there isnt any possiblity of being more than just friends, I would glady and gallantly back off like a gentleman and we'll just remain friends.

Right now it's like quite wierd to ask her out alone cause I think that's more than just being friends and in this case is what we are not. So is this friendship just gonna fizzle out like a can of coke left in the open?

Oh by the way, the metaphor u used "Before you know it, you might have accelerated out of control and lose grip of your situation like a malfunctioning motor bike crashing into a tree." gives me creeps cause I ride a bike and it's really scary. Touch Wood!



The flawed education system here screwed up the minds of Singaporeans (especially people of this generation). Everything is programmed subtly by this system to follow the chain of command/orders and being told what to do. They cannot function without first having a direction to the next step and generally fail badly in areas outside this safe zone.

But does love work this way? Obviously no.

Love never worked in an absolute manner - it's often the grey that it residue.

How would a friendship fizzle into nothingness if there wasn't a problem in the first place? (And we are not talking about the natural degeneration of bonds through time because you only knew her for a short period of time and that isn't really applicable in your situation)

You mentioned about your perception of a 'potential relationship' - have you ever thought of the possibility that although, it may appear as a 'potential relationship' to you, but it may not be so for her?

On whether you should remain as friends or to continue the pursue; analysis your own situation and make your own choice my dear. Because to me, both are equally feasible - it's only a matter of perception and decision. If she doesn't give you the cue to the next move, you strike out and plan your next move.

Only then you will learn through your experience and benefit.

Cheers