Aunt Agony II 060307

Originally posted by sickandtired:
just felt like letting it out.

i was there for her when she was feeling down.
i helped her up everytime she fell.
i gave her all my attention even when others had appointments with me.
i sent her home everyday even though i stayed far away and had less than 3 hours sleep.
i was there to help her financially if she needed it.
i was there to console her everytime she complained and cried that she did something wrong at work.
i always put up with her tantrums and never once told her i wanted to break up.
i always let her know where i was or with whom and wat i was doing.
i always bought her clothes or other accessories but she never wore to let me see :(
even when we did break up once and she wanted to patch back and cried, i was always there for her during the break up and eventually decided to patch back
i never once put up any photos with other gals in any website


but now.. suddenly some guy comes in between us playing the good guy and gives her advise.
now she says she is confused suddenly about our love but she denies being interested in him.
she now just wants to enjoy life with her frenz partying it out
she puts pics of herself n her male colleagues..some of them with arms on her in a website.
she removed our pics together and claims that its nothing.
she never stores my hp no in her hp but stores that of that bastard.
she calls up my female frenz and creates probs and now my female frenz and me dun really tok

i just feel so bored with this relationship. she has a huge character flaw and all her previous 15 relationships didnt work out. her only 2 longest one was 3 month n 6 months. mine lasted 5 yrs with her. i endured all her crapz and complains and everything. now suddenly she says we are not compatible? why then did she wanna patch up after we broke up?i really gave my all and tried my best but now i just feel i have failed. all other gals i know just tell me that i haf done so much for her and they wish that someone would do the same for them. i really dunno where i haf done wrong. i am tired of always suffering and just want to let all this go. but truth is i am afraid. i am afraid to be lonely. afraid that i will not find another person to love or look after. she does things wrong but blames me and i haf to apologise. she brings up the past and when i elaborate about it, it becomes i brought the past up. i feel she will never be happy in life because she always believes i will turn out like her adulterous uncle. she always like to think of negative things. i am so sianz now.. :(

thanks for reading.



Seriously, I would have think twice if I know that my object of affection has a history of fifteen exes because that has blatantly revealed how fleeting her emotions are and how spiritually afflicted her love relationship is.

According to my study, all we need is between two - four serious relationship and we should encounter most of the cosmic lesson represented to us. Anything more than that are usually reiterated lessons. Fifteen exes? That's probably akin to retaining PSLE for ten times.

Her negative nature truly reflects the glooming aspect of her love relationship - emitting and attracting negative influence and people.

It's true that after those 'ordeals' she might have evolved, but seriously, from what you have described, I see none of it.

Your fear and happiness isn't because you have lost her - but because you are afraid to be alone. Probably this is the quality that got connected on higher subconscious level - negativity beget negativity. You have forgotten what's is like to trend forward and fight for a better future, therefore you rather endure the nonsense thrown precariously at you, than to understand the essence of what's better for yourself to make you move on.

It really makes me wonder is that even love in the first place.

You will be surprised that people remained in unfulfilling relationship for all sorts of reasons. And when you question them about love, they are unable to find them. Like clicking on the search option to find a missing file; there are always zero returns, even though the computer appeared to be working.

Many people complained about not getting the returns even after selling their entire soul into the relationship. The ultimate question is WHY are YOU even thinking that hard work equate success in love? I have addressed this before in previous topics - if hard work equal automatic success in relationship, then the most hardworking person would have all the love in the world.

Logically, it doesn't work that way and it will never be.

Therefore you always pick calculated battles that will advance you to the next level in love. You address the root of problem and not do things that merely appease short term. The rotten core will eventually spread its poison to the heart of your relationship and kills it. Merely polishing the exterior doesn't do anything to save it.

Cheers