Aunt Agony 090807

Originally posted by pinkroses:
Hi. I am a girl studying in a junior college. Recently, i feel very stressed up and i tend to get agitated easily. It started with this. Me and my three other friends went to the same junior college and we go to school together sometimes in the morning if they are not late, we will meet each other. We seldom talk nowadays and i realise i have nothing to talk to them. I start to think that i am a boring person.

One of them is in the same class as me. Recently, she stopped talking to me in school. I felt hurt, didn't know what was wrong even i asked her many times. Then, one of this friend told me her emotions backfired. I could not understand what was that and i just cried in school. Then, she told me she needs space but she continues to talk to others, just not me.

Nowadays, i only talk to friends whom i started to know in jc. We have a common interest in gaming but all we talk about is that, and it gets boring and we will be quiet once it stops.

Promos are coming but i just cannot focus with the numberous problems on my mind. They tell me to leave her alone but i just can't do it. I have many failed friendships in secondary school. One ended because i was too possessive. I tried to overcome it but i just couldn't. And my friend who does not talk to me in school keeps telling me she like this other friend in our clique whom i think she is getting very close to. I feel jealous and hurt and hatred somehow seem to build up. I don't know what to do. Everyone's giving different comments and i just get upset easily.

Please enlighten me on what i should do.


In this lifetime, if we can name 5 true friends, I think that's already very good.

Some people can't even name one.

Our journey in life is to seek out those true friends.

Most of the people we encounter do not belong to this category; they are more likely to be transitory in nature, appearing like glorious sunrise and vanished as quickly like sunset.

Your source of suffering isn't due to the natural shift of cycle in human relationship, but lies in your perception of possession. Your need to cling and hold onto status quo generated much unhappiness from within because you are unable to embrace the fact that nothing in life is absolute and the only constant thing in life is changes itself.

It's only human to feel depress when our friendship with someone, whom we deemed important, degenerates. But on the other hand, it probably means that they might not be the people who will walk through your life as true friends at the end of the road.

You can't coerce someone to be your true friend if this person simply isn't.

Why force a wrong key into the keyhole? The key will just crack inside as you turn it.

Cheers