Aunt Agony 170507

Originally posted by FBI:
starpup shld know this gal..

anyway.

Knew this gal from a close fren.. and almost half a year. A v nice person.. from wat i observed is that she's always busy.. but there are still some space left for me and her friends.

lets call this gal "v"

recently this close fren told me that the class dislikes her and bla bla..

lied to him that i never like her but in my heart i do.. i dunno why i'm lying to myself

She's the type of gal where there are lots of guys after her (from wat i observed from her friendster)..

This is this guy that likes her for quite some time.. aite lets call him "F".

"F" have been wooing her for half a year? and still going. but the thing is "v" doesn't like "f" and she likes another guy (for quite a long time too).

and how abt me? i do like her abit.. nono i think is quite alot.

BUT!! i didn't confess to her.

Actually we can b considered best friends.. she shares her prob with me especially that "f" guy.

"f" is a v stubborn and persistent dude. Even thou got rejected by "v" and she even told him that she has someone else.. "f" doesn't give up! At times i do tell 'v" that.. "hey jus accept him?" but "v" doesn't like someone who keeps bugging her.

So i asked "v" abt that guy she likes.. i told her to drop him some hints and stuff so that he knows.. sort of encouraging her. Well i don understand why i am encouraging her.. is it because i'm her best fren thats y i don wish to see her sad or is it because i like her thats y i think that as long as she is happy with that guy, i am too?

Told me b4 that right now only studies and relationship after her "o" level.

Actually i'm not wooing her at all.. i don think that i will confess to her.. i think is because i felt low confidence? or mayb my competitors were too strong. So i felt that she will b happier with other guys rather then me.

That guy she likes:

1. is tall

2. study in poly

3. quite handsome

4. able to give her happiness rather then me (IMO)

but me?

i'm short, doens't have any good future (for now).

Sometimes she's jus emo.. abt the guy she likes.. abt why that guy didn't really bother her and stuff..

how i wish i can tell that guy to stop hurting her anymore.. i don wish to see her sad.

"yi bei zi de hao peng you hai shi yong gan de qu zhuo ta de lin yi ban?"


Thanks for reading.



Man's ego always hinders one's progression in love; I am citing your passé and extremely cliché point four: somebody else is able to give her happiness better than you do.

I heard that excuse a thousand times and I am seriously interested in knowing how are you going to gauge and decide if it was true in the first place?

In introspection, isn't this claim a product of your inferior complex rather than reflecting an actual truth?

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This is a choice between security and freedom.

People like you opt for security - you are a best friend and wouldn't want to do anything that would jeopardise your status quo. In familiar wavelength, it's the same with an employee mindset - earning a decent salary and already warming up a good seat in the corporate hierarchy.

Many often talk about starting their own business - who actually did?

Singaporeans often complained about the government, but ended up dropping votes for the very party they hate.

These are everyday analogies that effectively describe people who desire security much more than freedom.

And therefore asking that 'someone', who desire security, to move away from certainty and to pursue something risky is often justified with excuses like 'I think he can provide her better than I do/I got a family to feed and I can't start business/I hate the garmen, but I rather not take the risk by voting alternative party/etc.'

And the fact is that there is always a mountain taller than another. There's always someone else better than you do and someone even better than the next guy. The concept of 'providing' is but relative to our perception and mindset.

If I were to tell you that real love transforms people into strength and if you are unable feel the strength to experience metamorphosis and evolve into someone powerful, then perhaps, this love is pretty much surreal. You cannot say that this quiet affection for this lady is Love, other than plain admiration or young infatuation.

In Love, the battle is always against yourself - not people outside you.

Cheers