Aunt Agony 140407

Originally posted by Nuad:
i have talked to many of my friends, alot of them seem to comment that singapore girls are now very wild, most of them complain that they (s'pore girls) are all now very materialistic, and um "open".

obviously this is generalizing, and i didnt really agree with them. until a few incidents concerning some female friends of mine.

well A , she was my good friend in secondary school, i actually liked A back then, its a ultra cliche liking-my-best-friend story (which was not successful). but i digress

i used to think she was angelic and the perfect girl next door.

its about 4 years later and we still are in contact, but some time last year when i was in camp(ns) for an open house, i was doing some duties when i recieved a call from a mutual friend of ours, he told me he needed to borrow some money, about $500, it was 530 in the morning, i was tired and pissed so i immediately refused. then i asked him why, he told me A was pregnant. his tone was serious, and i immediately squatted down on the ground and was thinking "WHAT!?" or "GAH!" i cant really remember.

well my mind linked it all up, to be pregnant , youd have to have had sex,
IMPOSSIBLE, i thought that was not possible with her, even worse i found out that she had gotten pregnant with an ex boyfriend, after they had broken up some months ago.

well its naive of me to think that she wouldnt have sex, but for me its shocking because i always picture her as the girl in secondary school.

but this may have happened because of lingering feelings with her ex, or so i thought, until oneday i went out with sec school pals for a gathering, i was walking with her in east coast, and she was telling me her escapades in clubs (i shall not elaborate), i was listening bewildered, what had possesed this once sweet girl?

then alchohol came, she started throwing herself at a guy. one of my good friends.

i took some of my friends who were more in contact with her aside, they said when they went clubbing with her once, she was dirty dancing with 2 guys at once, strangers.

and apparently she had went pretty far with that guy she was throwing herself at, at a chalet once held.

i slowly let it sink in, and the image of that girl i had once was destroyed no matter how i wanted to deny it.

so im wondering, are my friends right? are singapore girls like this? this is only one instance i admit, but she was the last i would expect that would be this way.and there i have other female friends like this too, perhaps i am too naive and this is the common thing?
or was i just holding some fantasy of her perfectness too much in my mind?



Beheld her as a woman embodied with angelic quality and perfection, but that's merely your perception. I am dead sure that your 'still-kept-in-contact' is but causal and superficial. Nothing too deep inside.

Chances are, you are not very close to her as well.

And that goes to show that you probably know next to nothing about her inner self, growth, experience and development of four years after graduation from secondary school.

Many things would have happen within this time frame and your perception of her is still the little girl at the age of sixteen. Of course there's much 'impression discrepancy' which you would need to update.

P.S: This has nothing to do with Singaporean Girls. Logically speaking, she cannot represent the entire woman folk as this is another isolated case. You may have a more prudent way of what woman should be and I am sure some woman wouldn't disagree with you, but that doesn't mean that your view is absolute to everyone.

Different people have different cosmic lessons in their life. That's how it always has been and will be.

Cheers