[b]Because sex is always going to come into the friendship.
How true is this :?:
Case: Both Drunk... kissed and hugged... halted when it became anywhere further. Friendship in identity crisis.
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The question whether guys and girls can remain in PURE platonic friendship is highly subjective. To me, it is definitely possible because my life revolves quite a bit of platonic friends, but this doesn't apply to everyone else. In fact, based on my experience, some people actually made use of 'platonic friendship' as a facade to further their personal agenda because since a relationship is impossible in whatever context, the next best thing is probably such 'undefined' relationship.
He said he had the 'accidental intention' - I recalled two old theories, which probably explains the above phenomenon and gives you some insight about him.
I) Guys are unable to see themselves in a committed relationship with you because something pretty major, in you, that is missing (this is purely standing from his POV) and it is anti-seductive to him (not exactly a flaw in you, just an unacceptance in his view). And this causes them to be unable to bring themselves to settle in a relationship with you. Sometimes this 'major thingy' is due to certain external factor, but usually, it's from within. (This is classified under Charlie Factor in CloUdiSm remix III)
A big however is that a committed relationship works different from a non-committed version. He probably felt that IF it was the latter, something could work out. This theory has an ironic statement: '... Very often, guys could find themselves having causal sex with girls they have no feelings for, but when it comes to the one they truly love, they may hesitate...' (I won't be explaining the rational of this statement because it will be long and would be another topic altogether).
II) CloUdiSm state Ricocheted Love as Love after Lover's confession (also applicable to rapid disseminating of known news through others). It doesn't matter whether the seemingly confession is rejected or not. The effect of Ricocheted Love will take root after obvious signs of liking, by other party, is given. The one on the receiving end may not have any liking at all, but over a period of time, liking forms. (I also won't be explaining the rational and factors of why it will turn out this way because it will be long and would be another topic altogether).
Alcohol is the catalysis of what took place. When alcohol is overly consumed, our subconscious (Moon) takes control. Suppression, abstinence and social norms will vanish, when our subconscious takes over and it reveals a portion of our inner realm.
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In my opinion, this scenario isn't exactly too big of an issue. It didn't go out of hand and you are still in control. Put it behind you and smile because you learn something new about your 'platonic friend'.
Cheers
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