Aunt Agony 060806

Originally posted by An0nym0us:
It seems to me as though the nicest time during a relationship for the female is only during courtship. After marriage, the man doesn't treat you as nicely anymore and might even look for better options. At least thats what I observed. How true do you think it is? :? and is it the majority of guys nature to be like that?


Sometimes woman thinks that love has vanished.

But chances are it may not be the case; love may have transformed into something else. Like energy, love cannot be destroyed nor created.

In marriage, chances are, the kind of passion and drive to romance a woman in a courtship has transformed into putting food on the table. This is intrinsically the primitive instinct of what a man would do when he has to shoulder additional burden of having a family.

This is primarily love to a man, when marriage is concern, because should one day he 'fails' in his duty - he probably sees that he has failed in his duty as a husband and father.

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In the Age of Aquarian and in this modern era, woman demands man to communicate in the same emotional wavelength as them, but however metrosexual a man is... a man is still a man. Our psyche and psychological built up is vastly different. Should he consciously 'forgot' to employ the feminine side of his whole, he revert back to himself.

We should never measure love according to the number of roses he got for you in valentine day (or the absence of it). What matters is that he loves you for who you are... is willing to accept your knowing flaws and still choose you.

When a stranger pays you a compliment, it holds greater weight than a compliment from people we know (a.k.a friends and love ones). This is because a stranger doesn't know our vulnerability and how imperfect we are, while the people we know are so emotionally close to us that a compliment from them has this diminished effect because they know us.

Many times, this is how infidelity first strikes - when a stranger focus more on what lovable about ourselves and our love ones are usually more flaw-centric.

Has love gone?

We must understand that in passion, we all love differently. We got to appreciate and acknowledge how our partner express their affection because that is uniquely his/her (that's of course IF it's not afflicted, twisted sort of affection).

Cheers