Originally posted by tek_koh:
We got together about 5 years ago, she was sweet, gentle and innocent. I didnt really chase after her, we just got together, and we are really close, spending most of our times together.
As study years progressed she got quite competitive, and sometimes character changed abit. I became the one supporting her from the back, but sometimes its really hard and tiring to do so.
We have been through hard times together, but still loved each other even though we know that we are not really compatible.
Recently she went for overseas internship and said she found what she really want.
I meet a nice lady. We chatted alot and i found out that she has lots of similarities with me and i am comfortable with her company. Not sure of her feelings with me though, but we are good friends i guess. Much better den the current one
I dunno what lies ahead with me and current girlfriend but we really love each other alot. to Stay or to go?
I believe it is more of a 'because-it's-5-years-relationship' that contributed largely to this great reluctance to drop the relationship. This relationship is probably akin to a drunken stupor, running on marginal consciousness despite experiencing little growth.
Your relationship is merely being pulled along by sheer force - the moment anyone of you stop pulling it, your Love will perish with immediate effect.
Already, as it seemed to me, there are signs of a mutual desire in wanting out, but is hindered apparently for some unspoken reason/s. You have found someone comfortable and she has found what she wants in life - then, shouldn't the both of you pursue what you two reckoned that could provide the happiness each of you seek?
Without growth in relationship, often, there's little to look forward in Love.
Time change & people change; therefore needs change. True Love might be a constant, but our needs change as our inner self develops. Love may stay, but needs change because our Self condition will not remain forever in the same state as it did five years ago.
Surely there are reasons why you two ended up together five years back, but when we spiritually and emotionally start to evolve subconsciously - what that began the same, might one day diverge and grow differently.
Because Love is truly not about looking at each other, but in one collective direction. The minute the relationship loses this vision, it loses its soul to function.
Perhaps you might want to discuss with her if there is a possibility of this shared vision and how you want your relationship to move in the future. If there isn't a common goal, then perhaps, it might be beneficial for the both of you to come to a mutual agreement to null this relationship and end this amicably.
Why delay the inevitable? Reminded me of a Chinese Proverb - liu zi wu yong, qi zi ke xi (Mundane to keep, but pity to throw).
You don't have many 'five years more' to consider - especially your girlfriend.
Cheers
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