Aunt Agony 010505

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Originally posted by tiffanie:
Is it true that a 16 year old is definitely not mature enough to understand what exactly is love between a girl and a guy?

A 16 years old may know nuts about love, what makes you think a 24, 30, 44 or even older understand it? Your maturity and wisdom in love doesn't neccessary equate to your chronological age. Why? A 16 years old is more prone to deceptive relationship? Esp girl? Cheated of money and virginity? I am so sure you people have friends suffering from the above causes who are 20, 30 or even older; it's the individual's life, not exactly the age.

Seriously speaking, I suppose contrary to most people, I believe that 16 - 19 years old is a good time to explore the issue of love. The time to experience the reality of love and hurt cycle. Please note that likely, relationship at those age may not last, a fringing` big however is that we all have to begin from somewhere and who says anything about BGR to a marriage-a-must in the first place?

Singaporeans have this tendency to think too far into a relationship when they ought to learn to LOVE first and before the big M could be considered later. Generally, we have this similar-mindset of people entering into a relationship, thinking of marriage as some kind of main objective. Then when the BGR obviously show much stress and tension (e.g. heavy character conflicts or external factors and AIN'T solved within the framework of BGR) marriage still take place because 'it's to achieve that objective'.

What grave mistakes... which contributed much to the current rate of divorce. If the Lego bricks you are using can't finish your final product: either you change different tiles or change your final product. Don't FORCE these sets of different tiles in trying to build your original final product; you will never be able to create that foundation and outlook. It will fail outrageously.

Ok, pressure from your biological clock AND parents/relatives

/friends are influncing you into this thinking greatly: Love will ultimately lead to marriage which will produce happiness in the process. Yes, this IS the ideal love, but are we living in an ideal world? Can love be that simple? Embrace the new-age theory: Love is Love; marriage is the emotional & spirtual evolvement of love. If you can't even handle your basis cell block of marriage - namely the spirit of love in your relationship, there is simply no way you could talk about marriage.

P.S: To your question: yes, I doubt they are matured yet, but everyone is learning, at all age. Whether you think you are suitable for a relationship at 16, it's up to YOU as an individual, not exactly your age. if you think you are not, then you are not. Many a times, love's lessons is absolute, regardless of age, it just come and thrown right into your face.

Cheers