Aunt Agony II 170607

Originally posted by Tian Long Jiu Bu:
I recently stead with a ger who like me since we was sec 2. Tat was like 3-4 yrs ago. We like each other last time. I try to hold her hand but she once like reject.
Then this yr, after we went to a classmate house for CNY, we realise we still have feeling for each others. So we started le. Until now, is abt 3 mth le. We keep thinking abt our future le. I put in alot effort in this relationship. But @ first, her mum disapprove of us. Cos the main reason is cos she is from JC and i am from ITE. But now, she is okay le. But can still see tat she is still a little sad ba. She say our education gap to big.
But she say if i continue into poly, then it will be alright. Which i am willing to do.

My gf is vv close toward her guy friend and everytime i noe, i wil get jealous. But i try to control le. Now a guy who once like her kep calling her and she nvr ans. But he just nvr stop de lo.. She told me everytime when he call her. Wad can i do?

Sometimes i felt tat she is happier when she is with her friend. But she say no. She was jus acting to be happy infront of them. She is the type who duno how to think abt others feeling. Jus do wad she feel like doing.

Got any advice on wad i can and should do?


Precisely - what can you do if your competitor tries to launch a 'marketing campaign' to promote themselves? Obviously you are insecure; not just because he is a competitor, but also, his positioning is probably perceived as 'better brand' than yours.

Seriously, don't fret over things that are beyond your control, namely external factors. Gather your resources and focus on what you could manipulate - which is yourself.

If you kept segmenting yourself as the bottom tier system of our screwed education system - ITE as It's The End - you will probably live in that brand for the rest of your life. Then when you get jealous due to insecurity, you are likely to tighten your grip on your love and over the time, this will hurt your relationship.

You might think that you are not good enough, but actually it's because you do not understand yourself well enough to play your cards strategically.

The ball is in your court - only you can make her see if she has made a right choice by sticking with you. And as long as it becomes a reality... as long as you gradually improve your 'brand' and become more 'marketable' - your positioning will improve.

Cheers