Aunt Agony 210607

Originally posted by snorlex:
recently i fall for a girl but i also have a girlfriend which is at oversea studying right now. we have been together bout 5 years. at first i tot the feeling for that girl is just temporary, after awhile it will fade. but never know that the feeling is getting stronger & stronger upon time. i consider & reconsider which side should i drop. both seem like really really important to me & i cant let go either 1 of them. i also dunno why i have such a strong feeling for that girl, she not pretty & nothing special. but when ever i see her just got the feeling like want to protect her something like that. is just feel great when being with her. for my girlfriend, she is just like my everything. i love her more than anything else. now me n the girl like calling each other dear but she not my girlfriend or anything. i got asked her if we can be togther b4 but she dun want coz i have a gf. one of the day i was like really drunk & she send me home then she kissed me on the lips wat does that mean? i really confuse now.. dunno wat to do. lost my direction.


It's easy to cheat on our partners - much more effortless if she is out of country.

What will you do if you know that you could cheat on her and still 'get away' with it? Because from the way your situation has flowed into, that could turn out to be a possibility eventually.

You are indeed playing with fire when you addressed her flagrantly as 'dear'. Flippant words may be cheap, but reiterated message over a period of time strengthens a belief gradually. Now that your worst nightmare has escalates beyond your control, look closer - probably this 'nightmare' might be a real wish after all.

I do understand your astronomical void and emotional restlessness when your Significant Other is not around physically to tender those sensitive needs. But from certain angles, this is exactly what differentiates a great relationship from 'the others'.

An LDR (long distance relationship) is relative difficult. In fact, it is a fallacious promise for any relationship to succeed in LDR, challenging even for the best of love. Sure, some might just barely kept their breath above water, but looking at statistics, your kind of plight is THE most common reason why LDR fails.

Do note that I am not advocating civil and moral lessons on the necessity to be loyal at all cost because it's a matter of choice. You have your own needs and such subconscious absence might prove to be a little too much for you to bear.

Retrograde and remain alone for the time being. You probably need that sort of environment to introspect and decide what you want. It's better to face your feelings right now, then to play passive and wait until everything implodes into some love tragedy.

You mentioned that you lost your direction? Who knows? In the process, you might have lost your heart too.

Cheers