Aunt Agony 080206

Originally posted by The Emperor:
All right guys.. i need some help, finally.

U see, i'm currently in a relationship (LDR) and i'm very committed in this relationship and i'm still attracted to this girl i'm in love with.

However, recently, i've met a colleague in my work place, whom i am a little bit attracted to her, cos we are quite close and she never fails to brighten up my day whenever we are together. i thought perhaps i should give myself some time to get over this feeling, but since it's still there, i'm not sure how am i going to handle this myself.

i can't afford to avoid her as we would be bound to meet each other at work, so there's no other choice. i can't quit my job as i want to keep this job very badly.

now, i'm in love with one girl and kinda attracted to another. damn.. any remedies guys? feow feow? mc? haiz... my head's spinning now. :(



This is the vulnerability of a LDR and this factor alone is usually enough to consume the relationship - physical distance.

The vast distance usually loses the appeal to people that are around you. It has nothing to do with weak Love, just that in reality, it is difficult to sustain relationship based on blind faith, imagination and conscious discipline.

An analogy would be: your current relationship is a premium brand, but it is at a premium cost. You fancy this brand very much, but it is draining your finance quite abit. Now you have a substitute brand... a new brand. It will cost you much less, ease this financial burden and probably satisfied what you may be looking in a product that this new brand is selling you.

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If we say that three quarter of our communication comes from our non-verbals, it is safe to say that in an LDR, the expression of affection/to communicate our Love is severely limited to the final quarter, because we are not there physically to demonstrate or relate our non-verbals.

However, at the end of the day, the result still lies in...

I) What you want?

II) What are you looking for?

III) What will you do?

Remember, it's not really the brand that matters - they all sell the same product. It is whether you feel connected with the brand before you see yourself as a loyal customer.

Cheers