Originally posted by Wulus:
I know a girl for 6 month...
always hang out together, people thought we are an item...She is single so do i...
We always call each other out have fun together, sharing the same thoughts, same hobbies...
There are some hinting and flirting in our conversation but i know very well if i ask her to be my gf the answer is yes...
Just got myself a diploma but getting a low pay job, she is still in poly...
I am not ready...
I willing to wait for her and i dun mind remain single....Just to focus on my career first...
Both are too young...
I love the friendship more than getting into a relationship...
She can't wait...what should i do?
Being thru 1 relationship...One and only that hurt me most
Not wroth being together end up not the one i spend my lifetime with....
You are the guy who thinks too much.
You are constantly fed with thoughts of inadequacy that you will never feel 'enough'.
You will tell yourself, there is still NS, probably after NS first. Then probably comes higher education.. probably after that bah. Then comes work... probably after a while bah. Then comes money... probably abit more bah...
As you aged, you will come to realise that Love is not something that automatically comes to you when you are finally 'prepared'. And what makes you think that the ones that came to you are the ones you are seeking?
It seemed to me you are more fearful of the repercussion of risky relationship at this age, more than anything else.
Don't get me wrong; I don't want you to step into a relationship for the sake of it. Rather, understand that your reason of not accepting and acknowledging this Love is out of fear, not because you thought it was more rational and logical to build a career first.
I have a friend who had your sort of thinking; his first gf came when he was around 32-33.
And then it also failed, despite feeling decently 'enough'.
Some things won't change in Love - your amount of lessons needed for 'graduation'.
When you are enough? Chances are, you will never be.
Cheers
Tuesday, February 28, 2006
Monday, February 27, 2006
Aunt Agony 270206
Originally posted by Fey Mae:
but what if im talking about a 100 kg type? must look past alot of fats before you see the inner beauty wor.
and usually im very sensitive towards people but of late im starting to doubt myself. a guy i like (no not fat, fairly decent looking, tall, dark atheletic type) asked me out :? (whos fat and unattractive) is it possible he is just feeling bad cos im so obviously nice to him that hes just giving me a treat only. he did not specify his intentions :oops: and im not sure if his oblivious to my feellings and still continue to mislead me or he actually liked me.
Our self perception is almighty. If we reckon and believe that we are somewhat inferior compared to others, when in fact we possess the same human nature and parts, we will always have very poor image of ourselves.
This will affect our attitude and definition towards all form of love relationship, which in turn, affects the so called 'destiny' in love.
I only believe in evolving.
If there is something stultifying your journey to a better self image, do what you must to restore those lost esteem within constructive means.
People who tell you that others must accept you for who you are... do not understand your plight.
YOU must inculcate a robust motivation to create positive changes that would gradually mould your esteem.
You may not realise, but you have ALL the power in YOUR HANDS to deliver and see those changes in yourself.
***
I came across a real story, about this woman 80-90kg, who ended up with this man. Even though the man loved her for who she was, she decide to shed those weight so as to reinforce, through concrete action, that his decision to be with her will NOT be a mistake right from the beginning.
Love mould her... love conjured the frenzy motivation.
She is 45-48 now.
***
Love is about understanding ourselves. Never mind about whether he is interested in you or not. When you understood the essence of what I want to drive across and implement them, you will discover that attraction power doesn't come with physical outlook - it comes with HOW we see ourselves through our own vision. If we are unable to achieve that perception, we work hard to enable us to.
Cheers
but what if im talking about a 100 kg type? must look past alot of fats before you see the inner beauty wor.
and usually im very sensitive towards people but of late im starting to doubt myself. a guy i like (no not fat, fairly decent looking, tall, dark atheletic type) asked me out :? (whos fat and unattractive) is it possible he is just feeling bad cos im so obviously nice to him that hes just giving me a treat only. he did not specify his intentions :oops: and im not sure if his oblivious to my feellings and still continue to mislead me or he actually liked me.
Our self perception is almighty. If we reckon and believe that we are somewhat inferior compared to others, when in fact we possess the same human nature and parts, we will always have very poor image of ourselves.
This will affect our attitude and definition towards all form of love relationship, which in turn, affects the so called 'destiny' in love.
I only believe in evolving.
If there is something stultifying your journey to a better self image, do what you must to restore those lost esteem within constructive means.
People who tell you that others must accept you for who you are... do not understand your plight.
YOU must inculcate a robust motivation to create positive changes that would gradually mould your esteem.
You may not realise, but you have ALL the power in YOUR HANDS to deliver and see those changes in yourself.
***
I came across a real story, about this woman 80-90kg, who ended up with this man. Even though the man loved her for who she was, she decide to shed those weight so as to reinforce, through concrete action, that his decision to be with her will NOT be a mistake right from the beginning.
Love mould her... love conjured the frenzy motivation.
She is 45-48 now.
***
Love is about understanding ourselves. Never mind about whether he is interested in you or not. When you understood the essence of what I want to drive across and implement them, you will discover that attraction power doesn't come with physical outlook - it comes with HOW we see ourselves through our own vision. If we are unable to achieve that perception, we work hard to enable us to.
Cheers
Thursday, February 23, 2006
Aunt Agony II 230206
Originally posted by Agenda:
last time got tis gal lor.. tis I always listen 2 ur sorrows and her nagging all those den go makan wif her or pei her til her friends come.. then she go wif tis other guy :(
NO MORE MR.NICE GUY!!!!!!!
Then after she broke up wif her stead still wan 2 msg me and den duno say wat until I oso no mood reply and den msg me abt 4 times I dulan turn off hp.. LUCKY NV COME FIND ME :twisted: :twisted:
Tis type of gal say wan find nice guy den always go ahead be heartbroken den come crawling bak 2 the 1 that truly love them
So my advice, DON'T BE TOO NICE MAYBE LISTEN 2 THEM ONCE IN A WHILE AND ASK ABOUT THEM!!!
RAWR!!!! :evil: :evil:
Finally got that out, Ok I can move on wif my life liao :D
There is this thing about most guys; they cannot be an emotional companion, save for people they are interested in. Sometimes, because there is a hidden agenda to their action - being 'nice' is but a facade.
If your friends are emotionally down, you mean they must be romantically involved with you to 'compensate' for your 'kindness'? Especially when you Love him/her?
What does Love means to you then? Having a relationship being top of your priority? (Which again reinforced my first paragraph)
Does having a relationship automatically mean Love?
If you want to be there for someone, be there without expecting returns... and not setting your safety net to catch someone and cursed at the effort you took that has no returns.
Listening to someone is volunteering. It is not business.
Cheers
last time got tis gal lor.. tis I always listen 2 ur sorrows and her nagging all those den go makan wif her or pei her til her friends come.. then she go wif tis other guy :(
NO MORE MR.NICE GUY!!!!!!!
Then after she broke up wif her stead still wan 2 msg me and den duno say wat until I oso no mood reply and den msg me abt 4 times I dulan turn off hp.. LUCKY NV COME FIND ME :twisted: :twisted:
Tis type of gal say wan find nice guy den always go ahead be heartbroken den come crawling bak 2 the 1 that truly love them
So my advice, DON'T BE TOO NICE MAYBE LISTEN 2 THEM ONCE IN A WHILE AND ASK ABOUT THEM!!!
RAWR!!!! :evil: :evil:
Finally got that out, Ok I can move on wif my life liao :D
There is this thing about most guys; they cannot be an emotional companion, save for people they are interested in. Sometimes, because there is a hidden agenda to their action - being 'nice' is but a facade.
If your friends are emotionally down, you mean they must be romantically involved with you to 'compensate' for your 'kindness'? Especially when you Love him/her?
What does Love means to you then? Having a relationship being top of your priority? (Which again reinforced my first paragraph)
Does having a relationship automatically mean Love?
If you want to be there for someone, be there without expecting returns... and not setting your safety net to catch someone and cursed at the effort you took that has no returns.
Listening to someone is volunteering. It is not business.
Cheers
Aunt Agony 230206
Originally posted by sadboyboy:
hey guys. who can tolerate your gf cheating and lying to u?? i doubt anyone can tolerate it... my gf is always lying to me. i don't know for what reason. she has been lying to me since we were together. i really cannot take it soon. the word "BREAK" is always flashing on my mind. should i give up on this relationship? or there's something which i can do to help her change her attitude? but i really really love her a lot. i can't bear to give up on her. i really can't. my love for her is really very deep. but the things she did to me really hurts me a lot. it hurts~
When one become constantly untruthful, it creates barrier between the couple.
If Love means having to remain emotionally intimate, lying deny that experience.
If she has to lie about things, it posts a huge question on the integrity of her personality or possible 'double life'.
Cheer
Sunday, February 19, 2006
Aunt Agony 190206
Originally posted by SnowGiant:
I have not slept properly for the past 26 hours, so dont mind me
if I dont remember who is who..
but I do appreciate all the kind responses and the replies you all
have given me.. but you are not in my shoes, you cant feel wat
i am feeling either.
I feel.. lost.. numbed, and sometimes the pain shoots back into
my heart.. or watever is left of it.. and i have been stoning on
my windowstill for hours.. i stoned for.. 7 hours? I have yet eaten
anything.. i dont feel hungry.. nor thirsty.. my mind blanked most
of the time..
i still have the set of painkillers... 50 of them, mixed with 20 synflex..
stolen from my sis.. dunno will die properly if i swallow 70 of them..
will i even die.. ? dunno..
but then again, i tried to tink it positively, no use.. i cant even think
straight.
you guys really tried.. but failed le ba.. i still dun get it..
watever it is.. really, maybe im just not suited to be on earth anyway..
the pain is too great for me to bear... how can any girl be so harsh to
show you mms pics of her and another guy hugging jus like tat..
and added.. "i tink we shld not be together le ba.. we are still
friends.. :)" smiley face at the end...? wtf? break up mus go hug
other guy ah....
I told her i feel like dying.. she said "oh, dont jump off the building ar..
or else next day auntie will wash like siao de.. die also dun give people
trouble la.. ;p"
I was too hurt.. or even stunned to reply.. or rather, how to reply?
am i hurt? i dunno leh.. i dun even feel properly.. or is it hunger?
.... wat in the world... ... no logic... no sense.. im... wrong?
Im still locked in my room, i really mentalily shutting down le..
maybe i shld try to sleep.. for the 18th? 19th? time..
im tired.. im pretty sure.. my face looks crap.. maybe i shld sleep..
You wallop in so much self pity that you could probably drown an entire continent.
In fact, you are not a nice guy - you are an extremist.
You are so self absorbed, listening attentively to your biased POV and twisted theories of Love.
She may be wicked to reply you in that manner, but if you put some thoughts into them, you are 'threatening' her with hints of suicidal thoughts - obviously she would reply in such frivolous ways. What do you expect her to do? Play along with your nonsense?
You may have successful killed yourself and returned back to God; she may be guilty-stricken for about three months, then life is normal for her.
In the end, you achieve nothing as she ultimately find the 'right one' for herself and you DENYING yourself of one.
Nice guy don't talk about death; people who talks about death are extremist. (Afflicted Scorpiotic tendency).
***
In the game of Love, prepare to accept rejections and failures. If you can't accept them, don't get involved.
You are disillusioned.
Because in the first place, she isn't a good product to begin with.
It's like MLM - people holding blind faith and swear allegiance to this seemingly impeccable model that actually reeks of numerous flaws.
Snap out of it - thinking that she is your only one.
Love is about cosmic learning - you got to prepare yourself with all the 'learned lessons' and 'test' before you are ready for your eventual one. If you are going to tell yourself '...good game gentleman...'; you are going to miss out on this somebody, who has MUCH MORE worth, than her, of your Love.
P.S: Since MCsquare has already extended his hands, do pick up the offer if you can't handle it yourself. Almost wanted to say the same thing, but if he can't handle you eventually, I don't think I would attempt.
Cheers
I have not slept properly for the past 26 hours, so dont mind me
if I dont remember who is who..
but I do appreciate all the kind responses and the replies you all
have given me.. but you are not in my shoes, you cant feel wat
i am feeling either.
I feel.. lost.. numbed, and sometimes the pain shoots back into
my heart.. or watever is left of it.. and i have been stoning on
my windowstill for hours.. i stoned for.. 7 hours? I have yet eaten
anything.. i dont feel hungry.. nor thirsty.. my mind blanked most
of the time..
i still have the set of painkillers... 50 of them, mixed with 20 synflex..
stolen from my sis.. dunno will die properly if i swallow 70 of them..
will i even die.. ? dunno..
but then again, i tried to tink it positively, no use.. i cant even think
straight.
you guys really tried.. but failed le ba.. i still dun get it..
watever it is.. really, maybe im just not suited to be on earth anyway..
the pain is too great for me to bear... how can any girl be so harsh to
show you mms pics of her and another guy hugging jus like tat..
and added.. "i tink we shld not be together le ba.. we are still
friends.. :)" smiley face at the end...? wtf? break up mus go hug
other guy ah....
I told her i feel like dying.. she said "oh, dont jump off the building ar..
or else next day auntie will wash like siao de.. die also dun give people
trouble la.. ;p"
I was too hurt.. or even stunned to reply.. or rather, how to reply?
am i hurt? i dunno leh.. i dun even feel properly.. or is it hunger?
.... wat in the world... ... no logic... no sense.. im... wrong?
Im still locked in my room, i really mentalily shutting down le..
maybe i shld try to sleep.. for the 18th? 19th? time..
im tired.. im pretty sure.. my face looks crap.. maybe i shld sleep..
You wallop in so much self pity that you could probably drown an entire continent.
In fact, you are not a nice guy - you are an extremist.
You are so self absorbed, listening attentively to your biased POV and twisted theories of Love.
She may be wicked to reply you in that manner, but if you put some thoughts into them, you are 'threatening' her with hints of suicidal thoughts - obviously she would reply in such frivolous ways. What do you expect her to do? Play along with your nonsense?
You may have successful killed yourself and returned back to God; she may be guilty-stricken for about three months, then life is normal for her.
In the end, you achieve nothing as she ultimately find the 'right one' for herself and you DENYING yourself of one.
Nice guy don't talk about death; people who talks about death are extremist. (Afflicted Scorpiotic tendency).
***
In the game of Love, prepare to accept rejections and failures. If you can't accept them, don't get involved.
You are disillusioned.
Because in the first place, she isn't a good product to begin with.
It's like MLM - people holding blind faith and swear allegiance to this seemingly impeccable model that actually reeks of numerous flaws.
Snap out of it - thinking that she is your only one.
Love is about cosmic learning - you got to prepare yourself with all the 'learned lessons' and 'test' before you are ready for your eventual one. If you are going to tell yourself '...good game gentleman...'; you are going to miss out on this somebody, who has MUCH MORE worth, than her, of your Love.
P.S: Since MCsquare has already extended his hands, do pick up the offer if you can't handle it yourself. Almost wanted to say the same thing, but if he can't handle you eventually, I don't think I would attempt.
Cheers
Saturday, February 18, 2006
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Aunt Agony 180206
Originally posted by SnowGiant:
Yo guys, finally, she is gone.
Over, gone, finished, and left.
she was beautiful, some people hated her for it..
But I had reasons ...
she took a fistful of soul out of my heart
put into a blender, and turn it on full speed..
I want to die..
I read this well written letter, was edited for me.. but I still
appreciate it.. T.T
Its called.. Ode to nice guys.
******************
Ode to the Nice Guys
******************
This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.
This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.
This is for that time she left 30 SMSes, 12 voicemails on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.
The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.
So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.
For now, I shall take my leave... time for me to commit suicde.. T.T
What makes you think that the 'nice guys' are really nice?
What makes you think that the jerk is complete jerk?
What makes you think that she will understand what 'nice guys' is before an encounter with a jerk?
You will not understand Good until you experience Evil.
***
I always hear nice guys lamenting about not getting the girls they want because they are simply too nice. The question is, nice guys LAMENT about how nice they are without analysizing what's wrong with them.
How nice is nice... before you become foolish?
If a salesman does aggressive sales tactics which coerced you into buying his product and having you regret a minute later, whose fault would it be?
Similarly, if you foolishly allow a woman to manipulate you, whose fault would it be?
If you desire someone who could appreciate the real you, find someone who actually does and NOT someone who doesn't find any interest in your 'brand' and rant how nice you are and wonder why would she go for 'inferior' brand. You could continuously attempt to give generous discount, but ultimately, you will bleed in your accounts
Cheers
Yo guys, finally, she is gone.
Over, gone, finished, and left.
she was beautiful, some people hated her for it..
But I had reasons ...
she took a fistful of soul out of my heart
put into a blender, and turn it on full speed..
I want to die..
I read this well written letter, was edited for me.. but I still
appreciate it.. T.T
Its called.. Ode to nice guys.
******************
Ode to the Nice Guys
******************
This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.
This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.
This is for that time she left 30 SMSes, 12 voicemails on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.
The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.
So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.
For now, I shall take my leave... time for me to commit suicde.. T.T
What makes you think that the 'nice guys' are really nice?
What makes you think that the jerk is complete jerk?
What makes you think that she will understand what 'nice guys' is before an encounter with a jerk?
You will not understand Good until you experience Evil.
***
I always hear nice guys lamenting about not getting the girls they want because they are simply too nice. The question is, nice guys LAMENT about how nice they are without analysizing what's wrong with them.
How nice is nice... before you become foolish?
If a salesman does aggressive sales tactics which coerced you into buying his product and having you regret a minute later, whose fault would it be?
Similarly, if you foolishly allow a woman to manipulate you, whose fault would it be?
If you desire someone who could appreciate the real you, find someone who actually does and NOT someone who doesn't find any interest in your 'brand' and rant how nice you are and wonder why would she go for 'inferior' brand. You could continuously attempt to give generous discount, but ultimately, you will bleed in your accounts
Cheers
Thursday, February 16, 2006
Aunt Agony II 160206
Originally posted by bravo82:
oh dear..dunno i do wrong or not.. but u see my gf broke up with me some time ago..abt 3 weeks ago. its she who wanted to break up citing several reasons. and i decided to let things go. now almost once every 2-3 days she will call me to chat n sms me. when i tried patching back she said just frenz oni.. so i was like 'ok..just frenz"
then when she find out i haf been widening my social circle..meeting with other gals..guys..ex schmates bla bla.. she gets real upset that i am moving on maybe?
n today on valentine's day she msgs me saying that she watching movie alone...feeling weird tt kind of thing . then now she just came bk ard 2am..n she called n told me what she did etc. then i just kept quiet as i just woke up. she the nask if i got anything to say so i was like "nothing much to say .. last time can just cook up anything to chat with u..but now since tt breakup i haf nothing to say to u" with that she got offended n put down the fone n say wont contact me again. in a way i feel sad coz i dun want her to NOT contact me.. just hate it when she always ask me if i got nothing to say when she calls me up. come on la.. u call me then u end up sking me if i got nothing to say? n i just spoke to u 8 hrs ago!! hw to everytime tok?
so i told her that i cant just go abt calling any fren up n toking to them when she asked me y i never call her bla bla. with this she got offended n put the fone down.
yes i do love her alot.. but seems like we will not be together ever again. well.. i wont accept her even if she wanna come back though i do love her still. so i m trying real hard to move on u know. n here she is always making me confused. just wanna know did i hurt her real bad by saying all those un-wise comments? she is the one who is always wanting to break up in all her relationships n i was the latest. n now this kinda unexpected behaviour from her? i'm confused.. n i tot that i would be the one deeply affected as she has been my only gf..
There are couple of possibilities here, but the root of WHY this is happening... MCsquare made an accurate point regarding her needs to prevent you-from-moving-before-she does, so as to achieve the best of both world result with or without having a relationship.
I have always told my friends '... the best revenge is to move on faster than your ex...'
Which is exactly what is happening to you now.
You know about the negative herd mentality?
If I am not, you shall not be. I shall use an analogy below (Please don't debate with me over this issue because I am seeing this from ONE point of view and using that view as an analogy):
***
Know why the NS defaulter made such huge headline?
Because most have served their national liability and he managed to escape. All the disgruntlement is because he had managed to escape... with a small fine.
All the new heavier punishments are signs to reassure public '...don't worry, we are tightening up... so no one else could escape that easily... Everyone else will be the same...'
Negative herd mentality.
Would it have remove the hell and sacrifice you have gone through IF he was jailed... or even made to serve NS?
I am not saying that what he did was right; in the eyes of law, he wasn't.
And if we think carefully, is he the only one defaulting?
Of course not.
Would these defaulters endanger or risk national security due to under-maning or whatsoever... just because he didn't serve?
Of course not.
In percentage wise, is it a significant amount?
Of course not.
... But we just want him to be the same as us...
***
To move on is a sign of maturity from past lesson. We all have to move on some checkpoint in life because we have lost the reason to remain in them.
CloUdiSm final law of Love states '... Love is not forever...'
If we have several relationships in our life, logically how can all those love be forever?
In the end, we grow up from the 'non-forevers'.
Cheers
oh dear..dunno i do wrong or not.. but u see my gf broke up with me some time ago..abt 3 weeks ago. its she who wanted to break up citing several reasons. and i decided to let things go. now almost once every 2-3 days she will call me to chat n sms me. when i tried patching back she said just frenz oni.. so i was like 'ok..just frenz"
then when she find out i haf been widening my social circle..meeting with other gals..guys..ex schmates bla bla.. she gets real upset that i am moving on maybe?
n today on valentine's day she msgs me saying that she watching movie alone...feeling weird tt kind of thing . then now she just came bk ard 2am..n she called n told me what she did etc. then i just kept quiet as i just woke up. she the nask if i got anything to say so i was like "nothing much to say .. last time can just cook up anything to chat with u..but now since tt breakup i haf nothing to say to u" with that she got offended n put down the fone n say wont contact me again. in a way i feel sad coz i dun want her to NOT contact me.. just hate it when she always ask me if i got nothing to say when she calls me up. come on la.. u call me then u end up sking me if i got nothing to say? n i just spoke to u 8 hrs ago!! hw to everytime tok?
so i told her that i cant just go abt calling any fren up n toking to them when she asked me y i never call her bla bla. with this she got offended n put the fone down.
yes i do love her alot.. but seems like we will not be together ever again. well.. i wont accept her even if she wanna come back though i do love her still. so i m trying real hard to move on u know. n here she is always making me confused. just wanna know did i hurt her real bad by saying all those un-wise comments? she is the one who is always wanting to break up in all her relationships n i was the latest. n now this kinda unexpected behaviour from her? i'm confused.. n i tot that i would be the one deeply affected as she has been my only gf..
There are couple of possibilities here, but the root of WHY this is happening... MCsquare made an accurate point regarding her needs to prevent you-from-moving-before-she does, so as to achieve the best of both world result with or without having a relationship.
I have always told my friends '... the best revenge is to move on faster than your ex...'
Which is exactly what is happening to you now.
You know about the negative herd mentality?
If I am not, you shall not be. I shall use an analogy below (Please don't debate with me over this issue because I am seeing this from ONE point of view and using that view as an analogy):
***
Know why the NS defaulter made such huge headline?
Because most have served their national liability and he managed to escape. All the disgruntlement is because he had managed to escape... with a small fine.
All the new heavier punishments are signs to reassure public '...don't worry, we are tightening up... so no one else could escape that easily... Everyone else will be the same...'
Negative herd mentality.
Would it have remove the hell and sacrifice you have gone through IF he was jailed... or even made to serve NS?
I am not saying that what he did was right; in the eyes of law, he wasn't.
And if we think carefully, is he the only one defaulting?
Of course not.
Would these defaulters endanger or risk national security due to under-maning or whatsoever... just because he didn't serve?
Of course not.
In percentage wise, is it a significant amount?
Of course not.
... But we just want him to be the same as us...
***
To move on is a sign of maturity from past lesson. We all have to move on some checkpoint in life because we have lost the reason to remain in them.
CloUdiSm final law of Love states '... Love is not forever...'
If we have several relationships in our life, logically how can all those love be forever?
In the end, we grow up from the 'non-forevers'.
Cheers
Aunt Agony 160206
Originally posted by zeny:
Have you guys ever encouter the times when you love someone so much until the stage where you almost lost yourself.
On one hand you are scare that if you hold on too much she will run.
On the other hand if you let go too much she will feel unloved.
As a guy you are given the task of balancing out how much should you control the love to be given to the girl you love.
Why must it be this way?
If you let it go then the girl would just walk away...
Is this how love should be ?
Always putting yourself in the line for someone when you just fall once and you are never given a second chance.
Love like you never have to think about losing them.
Why bother to WORRY about losing a relationship when you ought to spend those precious moments appreciating and loving your relationship?
Every moment spent in fear barred fulfilment from entering.
When you have gone beyond retaining and losing BGR - you will see Love in new light.
P.S: You don’t cook like an expert with your first experience; it gets better with every attempt.
Cheers
Have you guys ever encouter the times when you love someone so much until the stage where you almost lost yourself.
On one hand you are scare that if you hold on too much she will run.
On the other hand if you let go too much she will feel unloved.
As a guy you are given the task of balancing out how much should you control the love to be given to the girl you love.
Why must it be this way?
If you let it go then the girl would just walk away...
Is this how love should be ?
Always putting yourself in the line for someone when you just fall once and you are never given a second chance.
Love like you never have to think about losing them.
Why bother to WORRY about losing a relationship when you ought to spend those precious moments appreciating and loving your relationship?
Every moment spent in fear barred fulfilment from entering.
When you have gone beyond retaining and losing BGR - you will see Love in new light.
P.S: You don’t cook like an expert with your first experience; it gets better with every attempt.
Cheers
Sunday, February 12, 2006
Valentine's Day
Actually I don't really fancy vday.
Because it is too commercialised.
Have you seen it?
People doing aggressive selling... all sort of lovely thingy that costs a bomb. (Although money is not an issue to me, but that day has lost much of its original meaning that spending that money makes no emotional sense. It seemed that you must be a willing victim to be [i]tok [/i]by people in order to demonstrate your love and affection).
People worrying about being seen alone.
I seen people, spent hundreds of dollars and more.
Buy this buy that.
In the end, their relationship still fail.
Interestingly, people in this era are willing to splurge the money they probably saved for a long time; ironically, they refuse spent that little effort to work out differences in relationship, which actually goes a MUCH longer way in their relationship than flowers and chocolates.
Maybe like me, money may not be an issue to you.
Similar to you having ten dollars and giving one dollar may seemed nothing.
But like me, is your relationship important to you?
Everyday is a valentine's day when your relationship is strong and passionate.
Everyday HAS to be a valentine's day, if you want your relationship to bloom like flowers in spring.
Guys with girls and girls with flower = norm.
But when you have hundreds and thousands of couple with the same combination, it has become = statistic.
Read today's Newpaper (120206) a Spore's Valentine Story.
I don't know... it touched my Aries Moon.
These people have very little, but they gave all.
Similar to them having forty cents and giving forty cents.
I remember when I was in Church (I am not a Christian, but I was there when I was little), there are people who gave alot for tithing. I see notes after notes.
I was like amazed by the amount they could give.
Someone told me 'Actually, it is because they have alot, so it actually means nothing to them.'
I only have a couple of cents.
And I dropped it in.
'It's only a small amount, but it is all I have...'
They are fighting WITH their relationship... literally.
The day when couples are indulging in hedonistic pleasure, these people are struggling with sheer love and willpower through their daily living.
Is your relationship another statistic... where it is measure by how much you wealth you bleed on vday?
Or is yours like the sick, old couples: measure through conviction, faith and power of love?
Cheers
Because it is too commercialised.
Have you seen it?
People doing aggressive selling... all sort of lovely thingy that costs a bomb. (Although money is not an issue to me, but that day has lost much of its original meaning that spending that money makes no emotional sense. It seemed that you must be a willing victim to be [i]tok [/i]by people in order to demonstrate your love and affection).
People worrying about being seen alone.
I seen people, spent hundreds of dollars and more.
Buy this buy that.
In the end, their relationship still fail.
Interestingly, people in this era are willing to splurge the money they probably saved for a long time; ironically, they refuse spent that little effort to work out differences in relationship, which actually goes a MUCH longer way in their relationship than flowers and chocolates.
Maybe like me, money may not be an issue to you.
Similar to you having ten dollars and giving one dollar may seemed nothing.
But like me, is your relationship important to you?
Everyday is a valentine's day when your relationship is strong and passionate.
Everyday HAS to be a valentine's day, if you want your relationship to bloom like flowers in spring.
Guys with girls and girls with flower = norm.
But when you have hundreds and thousands of couple with the same combination, it has become = statistic.
Read today's Newpaper (120206) a Spore's Valentine Story.
I don't know... it touched my Aries Moon.
These people have very little, but they gave all.
Similar to them having forty cents and giving forty cents.
I remember when I was in Church (I am not a Christian, but I was there when I was little), there are people who gave alot for tithing. I see notes after notes.
I was like amazed by the amount they could give.
Someone told me 'Actually, it is because they have alot, so it actually means nothing to them.'
I only have a couple of cents.
And I dropped it in.
'It's only a small amount, but it is all I have...'
They are fighting WITH their relationship... literally.
The day when couples are indulging in hedonistic pleasure, these people are struggling with sheer love and willpower through their daily living.
Is your relationship another statistic... where it is measure by how much you wealth you bleed on vday?
Or is yours like the sick, old couples: measure through conviction, faith and power of love?
Cheers
Aunt Agony 120206
Originally posted by siongs:
Man~~i m so lost ...i dunno wat i want......well there is 1 gal tat really like me n i dunno i love her or not ! i mean really dunno yea !well we get together alrdy she is really gud n pretty ! n da problem is i dun hav da feel with her ya noe....n i dun wan to hurt her......i accepted her bcoz during tat time i still very confuse tats y i accepted her...i noe i m an asshole but.... i really dunno man !
wat should i do nw ? if i broke up with her ..tiz will hurt her so much !! man~~~i dun wan any gal sad bcoz of me n i definitely dun wan to hurt her.....tel me wat to do !! or i juz keep quiet n continue wih tiz relationship ?......Dizzy man !!
You don't want it, but feel a pity to let it go (Liu zi wu yong, qi shi ke si).
You want the best of both world, you suffer the consequence of leading someone.
You want to make no decision and let it run naturally... you suffer the consequence of leading someone.
You want to remain in a relationship with someone you have no feelings for... you suffer the consequence of leading someone.
Cheers
Man~~i m so lost ...i dunno wat i want......well there is 1 gal tat really like me n i dunno i love her or not ! i mean really dunno yea !well we get together alrdy she is really gud n pretty ! n da problem is i dun hav da feel with her ya noe....n i dun wan to hurt her......i accepted her bcoz during tat time i still very confuse tats y i accepted her...i noe i m an asshole but.... i really dunno man !
wat should i do nw ? if i broke up with her ..tiz will hurt her so much !! man~~~i dun wan any gal sad bcoz of me n i definitely dun wan to hurt her.....tel me wat to do !! or i juz keep quiet n continue wih tiz relationship ?......Dizzy man !!
You don't want it, but feel a pity to let it go (Liu zi wu yong, qi shi ke si).
You want the best of both world, you suffer the consequence of leading someone.
You want to make no decision and let it run naturally... you suffer the consequence of leading someone.
You want to remain in a relationship with someone you have no feelings for... you suffer the consequence of leading someone.
Cheers
Saturday, February 11, 2006
Aunt Agony 110206
Originally posted by dakkon_blackblade:
Can you use astrology to calculate when is the "right condition" and what is the "right effort"???
When I talk about 'right condition', I am referring to yourself - the condition you are in... your current state.
If you know that you are inadequate, would you transform yourself to improve your personal branding?
When I talk about transformation,
I) To seek out the negativity or unloving thingy about yourself and tackle
them.
II) Self discovery and exploit your own strength.
III) Ability to accept rejection, failures or the unknowns and learn from them.
Would you do it? Or rather, would you maintain consistency?
Astrology cannot change what the mind is unable or unwilling to act upon. Even that, without endurance AND some degree of wisdom, there will be an enlightenment ceiling... putting a cap on the furthest you could achieve and understand about Love and relationship.
***
People often lament that Love don't come to them; the fact is that Love only come to people who are in the 'right condition'. You got to build YOURSELF first before you could extend anything outside of you. It doesn't matter how you 'build' yourself because ultimately, Love follows this Law impeccably: [u][b]we attract the qualities we exude[/b][/u]. The KIND of attraction DEPENDS on HOW you transform yourself.
Negative people attract negative lovers/partners.
The list goes on.
Sometimes, love just comes naturally to some... it seemed that they don't have to worry about potentials.
But if you are not those kind of people, you got to work hard on yourself, to set yourself in a 'better condition' before love could appear.
Self discovery is crucial; you need to know the self method that works for you.
People who have no problems in attracting Love doesn't always mean that it is given by the stars; it is because they have discovered what worked for them FASTER than you do.
Everyone has different level of enlightenment. Some people have the ability to absorb and implement love wisdom faster, while some have difficulty in assimilating them in their heart.
Even though I have some decent knowledge of astrology, I merely use astrology as a tool. And even though some people are kinda born with relationship difficulty, divorce aspect, loner tendency, etc, I don't see it as one's destiny. Every difficulty hides a learning lesson - you conquer them, you GAIN the 'treasure' beneath.
Western Astrology believes in freewill.
We can change our fate... if that is what we want.
P.S: yunhaier don't have time to calculate what you desire and my knowledge is not sufficiently decent to say I am accurate about timing. If you are really interested to know, you could seek Zacken99 or OCEANOS. These people knows more than me and could help you. (At a price though).
Cheers
Can you use astrology to calculate when is the "right condition" and what is the "right effort"???
When I talk about 'right condition', I am referring to yourself - the condition you are in... your current state.
If you know that you are inadequate, would you transform yourself to improve your personal branding?
When I talk about transformation,
I) To seek out the negativity or unloving thingy about yourself and tackle
them.
II) Self discovery and exploit your own strength.
III) Ability to accept rejection, failures or the unknowns and learn from them.
Would you do it? Or rather, would you maintain consistency?
Astrology cannot change what the mind is unable or unwilling to act upon. Even that, without endurance AND some degree of wisdom, there will be an enlightenment ceiling... putting a cap on the furthest you could achieve and understand about Love and relationship.
***
People often lament that Love don't come to them; the fact is that Love only come to people who are in the 'right condition'. You got to build YOURSELF first before you could extend anything outside of you. It doesn't matter how you 'build' yourself because ultimately, Love follows this Law impeccably: [u][b]we attract the qualities we exude[/b][/u]. The KIND of attraction DEPENDS on HOW you transform yourself.
Negative people attract negative lovers/partners.
The list goes on.
Sometimes, love just comes naturally to some... it seemed that they don't have to worry about potentials.
But if you are not those kind of people, you got to work hard on yourself, to set yourself in a 'better condition' before love could appear.
Self discovery is crucial; you need to know the self method that works for you.
People who have no problems in attracting Love doesn't always mean that it is given by the stars; it is because they have discovered what worked for them FASTER than you do.
Everyone has different level of enlightenment. Some people have the ability to absorb and implement love wisdom faster, while some have difficulty in assimilating them in their heart.
Even though I have some decent knowledge of astrology, I merely use astrology as a tool. And even though some people are kinda born with relationship difficulty, divorce aspect, loner tendency, etc, I don't see it as one's destiny. Every difficulty hides a learning lesson - you conquer them, you GAIN the 'treasure' beneath.
Western Astrology believes in freewill.
We can change our fate... if that is what we want.
P.S: yunhaier don't have time to calculate what you desire and my knowledge is not sufficiently decent to say I am accurate about timing. If you are really interested to know, you could seek Zacken99 or OCEANOS. These people knows more than me and could help you. (At a price though).
Cheers
Thursday, February 09, 2006
Aunt Agony 090206
Originally posted by Confused28:
Hi,
I'm feeling terribly confused over this for quite some time. I'm attached for 1yr+. Our relationship has been pretty good. We used to meet 3-4 times a week however 4 mths back, I got posted to do shift work and we can only meet once a week. Somehow this has put a strain on our relationship. She is someone that needs company. I still love her though.
I met this gal 1 mth+ back. We hitted it off very well. I could say that we had a crush on each other. The thing is, she is 4 yrs in a relationship too. We sorta started our underground relationship without our partner's knowledge. I have met her bf face to face before though.
Recently, I had a arguement with her coz I dun feel secure with her, mayb the crush has ended (thats what I thought) but she told me tat this is not a fling and she doesnt wanna stop here. She claims to love me and her bf just as I love her and my gf. We are both greedy fools. She could have ended it when we argued but instead she did not.
I'm totally confused and not happy abt this. I hope to have the courage to end it once and for all but yet I really do like her. I dunno why I'm having this feeling over 2 persons. I'm afraid I'll be unable to get out of it. I've told some of my frds abt my problem. All of them told me to call the r/s off and go back to my gf. Is that the only way?
Uncommitted relationship.
Each of you love your respective partners, just that chances are, you two are desensitized to your long going relationship. There is a vulnerability to everything fresh, willing and different.
There is a exchange of mutual needs based on same vulnerability. We attract the qualities we exude - people who always attract others who are technically not unavailable, will always find themselves having this problem - the uncommitted will attract the uncommitted (it doesn't matter if one is single. You can be single and find difficulty in commitment as well).
When you change the nature of your work and it affects your relationship, it creates an emotional instability. It so happened that your instability is re-channelled into your crush, which simultaneously, gain stability from your channelling (she was instable at the same time - two negative makes a positive).
Both of you knows that this sub-rosa relationship wouldn't work out. It is merely there to fulfil a certain self absorbed needs. You knew it, but your conscience probably work against you. She knew it, but she still prefer to indulge in it.
Let's not look into your crush; in fact, lets review your relationship.
I) What do you think has changed in your relationship when this girl came into the picture?
II) How do you think of your relationship now... ESPECIALLY when you have actually agreed to an underground relationship with someone else.
III) What is this scenario trying to tell you? And by knowing, what are you going to do with this knowledge?
When you are sure of the answers to the above questions, you should roughly know what is the best course of action.
Cheers
Hi,
I'm feeling terribly confused over this for quite some time. I'm attached for 1yr+. Our relationship has been pretty good. We used to meet 3-4 times a week however 4 mths back, I got posted to do shift work and we can only meet once a week. Somehow this has put a strain on our relationship. She is someone that needs company. I still love her though.
I met this gal 1 mth+ back. We hitted it off very well. I could say that we had a crush on each other. The thing is, she is 4 yrs in a relationship too. We sorta started our underground relationship without our partner's knowledge. I have met her bf face to face before though.
Recently, I had a arguement with her coz I dun feel secure with her, mayb the crush has ended (thats what I thought) but she told me tat this is not a fling and she doesnt wanna stop here. She claims to love me and her bf just as I love her and my gf. We are both greedy fools. She could have ended it when we argued but instead she did not.
I'm totally confused and not happy abt this. I hope to have the courage to end it once and for all but yet I really do like her. I dunno why I'm having this feeling over 2 persons. I'm afraid I'll be unable to get out of it. I've told some of my frds abt my problem. All of them told me to call the r/s off and go back to my gf. Is that the only way?
Uncommitted relationship.
Each of you love your respective partners, just that chances are, you two are desensitized to your long going relationship. There is a vulnerability to everything fresh, willing and different.
There is a exchange of mutual needs based on same vulnerability. We attract the qualities we exude - people who always attract others who are technically not unavailable, will always find themselves having this problem - the uncommitted will attract the uncommitted (it doesn't matter if one is single. You can be single and find difficulty in commitment as well).
When you change the nature of your work and it affects your relationship, it creates an emotional instability. It so happened that your instability is re-channelled into your crush, which simultaneously, gain stability from your channelling (she was instable at the same time - two negative makes a positive).
Both of you knows that this sub-rosa relationship wouldn't work out. It is merely there to fulfil a certain self absorbed needs. You knew it, but your conscience probably work against you. She knew it, but she still prefer to indulge in it.
Let's not look into your crush; in fact, lets review your relationship.
I) What do you think has changed in your relationship when this girl came into the picture?
II) How do you think of your relationship now... ESPECIALLY when you have actually agreed to an underground relationship with someone else.
III) What is this scenario trying to tell you? And by knowing, what are you going to do with this knowledge?
When you are sure of the answers to the above questions, you should roughly know what is the best course of action.
Cheers
Wednesday, February 08, 2006
Emotional Vampire
I happened to know of a recent case that took place to my good buddy and was quite horrified, though not surprised, by how sadistic, self absorbed and twisted ONE could be when love is in the picture. I seen this a couple of times; as the heart and mind had insidious theories, which was displayed through a series of vindictive behaviour and extremism.
It was incredible.... incredibly sick in the heart.
CloUdiSm record Emotional Vampires (EV).
You are probably an EV if:
I) You react physically when quarrel happens. You grab, you assault, or anything that is physical, REGARDLESS of how 'gentle' that could be to you.
II) You display signs of possessiveness/MCP.
III) You always speak with emotional tone and tried drowning your other partner. Your emotions are extremely one-sided, especially when your love wants to leave the relationship. You will emotionally locked her down (Love cannot be forced upon another is something alien to you) and react in extreme emotions.
IV) You attempt to stalk, make massive phone calls that is being ignored and all the sort of thingy to get the attention of your fleeting Love. In short, you haunt your love ubiquitously.
V) You make threats of some sort, REGARDLESS of whether you will fulfill those threats.
VI) Your temper runs wild easily OR this intensity is suppressed within your emotions. Very intense person.
VII) You keep harbouring thoughts that you have some 'ways' to get him/her back to you and may/may not exploit them. Please note that these 'ways' may not succeed and usually lengthen the misery to the people involved.
VIII) You practice HEAVY selective perception and is terribly self absorbed.
IX) You have severe affliction in love, astrologically.
I was quite taken aback when the victim herself was asked if she could leave this sick-in-the-heart man (SITH) through her own means, since it was CLEAR that love was gone and the relationship had gone meaningless... she said she wouldn't succeed and would probably remain with him. Afterall, he may change one day. (The current situation is that someone was introduced into the picture and the victim had left SITH... something quite heartening to hear).
WTF!
What do you mean by 'wouldn't succeed'?
Why wouldn't anyone succeed in breaking up a person successfully? (Heavy progression/Transit regarding Saturn/Pluto influence affliction, Tarot Card - Devil showed sign of bondage).
I guess her Sun sign and got it right - Taurus... the most FIXED sign among the zodiac.
And the extremist SITH?... Scorpio...
***
To ALL:
Understand the essence of TRUE BEAUTY in Love.
In which FREEDOM and LIBERATION is a mark of higher wisdom.
To LOSE a relationship is nothing than to LOSE yourself.
When you have deviated in name of Love... this is NOT Love, but karmic transformation, test and challenge.
Cheers
It was incredible.... incredibly sick in the heart.
CloUdiSm record Emotional Vampires (EV).
You are probably an EV if:
I) You react physically when quarrel happens. You grab, you assault, or anything that is physical, REGARDLESS of how 'gentle' that could be to you.
II) You display signs of possessiveness/MCP.
III) You always speak with emotional tone and tried drowning your other partner. Your emotions are extremely one-sided, especially when your love wants to leave the relationship. You will emotionally locked her down (Love cannot be forced upon another is something alien to you) and react in extreme emotions.
IV) You attempt to stalk, make massive phone calls that is being ignored and all the sort of thingy to get the attention of your fleeting Love. In short, you haunt your love ubiquitously.
V) You make threats of some sort, REGARDLESS of whether you will fulfill those threats.
VI) Your temper runs wild easily OR this intensity is suppressed within your emotions. Very intense person.
VII) You keep harbouring thoughts that you have some 'ways' to get him/her back to you and may/may not exploit them. Please note that these 'ways' may not succeed and usually lengthen the misery to the people involved.
VIII) You practice HEAVY selective perception and is terribly self absorbed.
IX) You have severe affliction in love, astrologically.
I was quite taken aback when the victim herself was asked if she could leave this sick-in-the-heart man (SITH) through her own means, since it was CLEAR that love was gone and the relationship had gone meaningless... she said she wouldn't succeed and would probably remain with him. Afterall, he may change one day. (The current situation is that someone was introduced into the picture and the victim had left SITH... something quite heartening to hear).
WTF!
What do you mean by 'wouldn't succeed'?
Why wouldn't anyone succeed in breaking up a person successfully? (Heavy progression/Transit regarding Saturn/Pluto influence affliction, Tarot Card - Devil showed sign of bondage).
I guess her Sun sign and got it right - Taurus... the most FIXED sign among the zodiac.
And the extremist SITH?... Scorpio...
***
To ALL:
Understand the essence of TRUE BEAUTY in Love.
In which FREEDOM and LIBERATION is a mark of higher wisdom.
To LOSE a relationship is nothing than to LOSE yourself.
When you have deviated in name of Love... this is NOT Love, but karmic transformation, test and challenge.
Cheers
Aunt Agony 080206
Originally posted by The Emperor:
All right guys.. i need some help, finally.
U see, i'm currently in a relationship (LDR) and i'm very committed in this relationship and i'm still attracted to this girl i'm in love with.
However, recently, i've met a colleague in my work place, whom i am a little bit attracted to her, cos we are quite close and she never fails to brighten up my day whenever we are together. i thought perhaps i should give myself some time to get over this feeling, but since it's still there, i'm not sure how am i going to handle this myself.
i can't afford to avoid her as we would be bound to meet each other at work, so there's no other choice. i can't quit my job as i want to keep this job very badly.
now, i'm in love with one girl and kinda attracted to another. damn.. any remedies guys? feow feow? mc? haiz... my head's spinning now. :(
This is the vulnerability of a LDR and this factor alone is usually enough to consume the relationship - physical distance.
The vast distance usually loses the appeal to people that are around you. It has nothing to do with weak Love, just that in reality, it is difficult to sustain relationship based on blind faith, imagination and conscious discipline.
An analogy would be: your current relationship is a premium brand, but it is at a premium cost. You fancy this brand very much, but it is draining your finance quite abit. Now you have a substitute brand... a new brand. It will cost you much less, ease this financial burden and probably satisfied what you may be looking in a product that this new brand is selling you.
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If we say that three quarter of our communication comes from our non-verbals, it is safe to say that in an LDR, the expression of affection/to communicate our Love is severely limited to the final quarter, because we are not there physically to demonstrate or relate our non-verbals.
However, at the end of the day, the result still lies in...
I) What you want?
II) What are you looking for?
III) What will you do?
Remember, it's not really the brand that matters - they all sell the same product. It is whether you feel connected with the brand before you see yourself as a loyal customer.
Cheers
All right guys.. i need some help, finally.
U see, i'm currently in a relationship (LDR) and i'm very committed in this relationship and i'm still attracted to this girl i'm in love with.
However, recently, i've met a colleague in my work place, whom i am a little bit attracted to her, cos we are quite close and she never fails to brighten up my day whenever we are together. i thought perhaps i should give myself some time to get over this feeling, but since it's still there, i'm not sure how am i going to handle this myself.
i can't afford to avoid her as we would be bound to meet each other at work, so there's no other choice. i can't quit my job as i want to keep this job very badly.
now, i'm in love with one girl and kinda attracted to another. damn.. any remedies guys? feow feow? mc? haiz... my head's spinning now. :(
This is the vulnerability of a LDR and this factor alone is usually enough to consume the relationship - physical distance.
The vast distance usually loses the appeal to people that are around you. It has nothing to do with weak Love, just that in reality, it is difficult to sustain relationship based on blind faith, imagination and conscious discipline.
An analogy would be: your current relationship is a premium brand, but it is at a premium cost. You fancy this brand very much, but it is draining your finance quite abit. Now you have a substitute brand... a new brand. It will cost you much less, ease this financial burden and probably satisfied what you may be looking in a product that this new brand is selling you.
***
If we say that three quarter of our communication comes from our non-verbals, it is safe to say that in an LDR, the expression of affection/to communicate our Love is severely limited to the final quarter, because we are not there physically to demonstrate or relate our non-verbals.
However, at the end of the day, the result still lies in...
I) What you want?
II) What are you looking for?
III) What will you do?
Remember, it's not really the brand that matters - they all sell the same product. It is whether you feel connected with the brand before you see yourself as a loyal customer.
Cheers
Thursday, February 02, 2006
Why?
Something is amiss.
I lost something.
Why do I feel a sense of emptiness?
What am I seeking?
What is it?
How do I restore?
I lost something.
Why do I feel a sense of emptiness?
What am I seeking?
What is it?
How do I restore?
Bathing Ape (Spring/Summer Collection 2006)
Got the following thingy from hypebeast. WoOhoo... IMHO, the girls rox more than the clothes.... I swear.... LOL!
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