Aunt Agony 170705

Originally posted by drx:
An ugly guy loves a girl. After being friends for 2 years, they becomes lovers and girl just after 1 year the girl left him. He uses 100% of his love for the girl and was shock at what she done. He had given tender loving care to her in the end she left him for another man.

So did he do a bad judgement ?



100% effort = 100% result? It never happens.

So ?% must be given to give at least 80% result? In the first place, what's 80% result we are talking about? For all you know, the scenario that happens could be THE 80%, for if we could rewind time, the relationship could probably be even shorter and less fulfilling if the percentage of giving is less.

Then again, throughout your post, the whole entire chunk of essay you have written, is so heavily saturated with the guy's opinion, thoughts and preception of what goodness in a relationship is all about. There is little information about what he knows about the actual emotional realm of his love.

Losing a relationship without understanding why... very bad.

Regarding your seven listed points of a 100% love from the guy... What makes you think this whole list is WHAT the girl is looking for? You are SO sure that these points are somewhere near her actual needs? And how much does this guy knows about her? We are talking about emotional sense; how much does he knows?

To fight a war without intelligence network is to die without knowing why.

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Seriously, it's hard to pinpoint exactly what went wrong with the relationship because chances are, this guy may not truely know the woman he has gotten for a year. And because he don't really know the woman the way he ought to and if this wasn't communicated, he probably thinks what he is doing is 'on the right track' and thus continued whatosever way he always do.

The woman may gradually realise that the man, despite being very nice guy, isn't the kind of man she would seek transitory or ultimately. This is NOT a question of 100% giving, nice guy or whatever - this is the question of suitability and needs. Say I dislike eating pasta, although eating pasta will definitely fill my stomach, but that doesn't mean I must eat pasta because I know it can fill my stomach. (Nice guy is nice, but that doesn't mean her needs is such that she would desire a nice guy... understand?)

And before you go 'Ok, I am going to become a bad guy (in whatsoever definition you thought of a 'bad guy') - its useless as you are trending on foreign land. That region is completely alien to you and if you try to walk that path, you end up belonging to nowhere (In marketing sense, you merely spolit your branding - you can't have mix messages in your branding). Just lookout for ladies that appreciate nice guys. Full stop. It's as simple as that - someone who could see your goodness and qualities as part of her essential needs.

Cheers