Aunt Agony 060705

Originally posted by macjoe: What is marriage supposed to do for/to two people that they can't doas singles outside of marriage these days?
Married vs Single-single status
1. Married can buy house - single-single can liao so buy next to each other.2. Married can have sex - single-single can also mah.3. Married divorces - no such thing for single-single4. Married can have babies - single-single can adopt.5. Wife maintenance, Husband no maintenance - none for two split singles
So please tell me the benefit of marriage that many seek to enter?
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BENEFITS of a marriage? Ironically, you people are asking THE BENEFITS of a marriage when in actual fact, a marriage brings NOTHING but merely a recognition of the next phrase the couples' love has evolved, in which the ultimate quality of sacrifice makes much better sense and worth than in BGR, which has it's limit during test date phrase - the couple sacrifice much more, in all dimensions, in a marriage than BGR.

Tell you the truth, you can't see those so called 'benefits' because you are using different yardsticks to measure those intangibles. You are trying to equate the goodness of marriage via material/dollars sense, which completely makes no sense. The same way anyone could have tell you that love is completely redundant because even without it, technically speaking, you could still survive, breathe and live. Worst still, you could get hurt very badly, so why get involved at all?

Own the world, but loses its soul?

Generally, there are three forms of marriage (sometimes, a mixture of two or even three):

Cirumstances: Forced by circumstances, a marriage happens without much choices. People generally marry because of reasons other than Love. Shot-gun marriage, eyeing on fortune, etc.

Biological/Chronological: People get married because it's the time to get married. Gently pushed by biological clock, people plan and get married when they feel that 'it's time' - whatever it means to them. Sometimes people get married because they are together 'too long' and felt that they needed to induce something to revive the stagnant love.

Spiritual: People get married because they want to spend the rest of their life together. Simple and truthful.

The following contrast you have shown above, merely shows the alternatives a couple could have without the marriage commitment. But then again, it makes no sense to have something just for the SAKE of having. One good example is the babies example you quoted. Obviously, people can adopt - however, for people who truely love little ones, there is a VAST world of difference between their OWN child and adopted ones, especially since they could conceive naturally. What about house? Anyone can own a house - it's WHO you are living with that makes the difference. You can stay in any house of your dream...alone and you will feel worst than one staying in a 3-room flat with love and laughter.

What you are trying to do is measuring the intangibles through tangibles means, which I stress again, makes zero sense.

I don't blame you because you are not there yet. And because you have yet to reach that level, you are highly subjected to people who THOUGHT they are there, but sadly, nowhere near actually. These 'people' impart their negativity to you and you accepted their mindsets. Then again, but makes you think their view is the true meaning it holds?

P.S (Astro): Certain people's horoscope birthchart are more resilient to marriage (Esp. Saturn in 7th house). A powerful Uranus transition cum progression can trigger a divorce BUT that has to be promised by your birth chart in the first place. Some people do not have divorce aspects in their charts, instead, their charts shown a need to learn the areas of love and relationship through alot of cosmic learning. Through freewill, they might temporary break up or whatsoever, but the bonds never seemed to sever completely.

Cheers