Aunt Agony 120705

Originally posted by Percussion_guy86:
Weve been together for 1yr,4mths and 3days.She`s from China and study in TP microelectronics(i`m SP).After about 6 7 mths,i decided to stay with her outside.Of course,my parents,shld say my mum totally opposed.My dad was very supportive as in i am big enough to be responsible for my own action(i`m 18 she`s 19).

So we happily moved in together.In the beginning,its always beautiful.Like many couples,we quarrelled,and patched.Then the process will repeat itself.I will always be the one to give in.Sometimes,her words can really stab your heart so hard that...that a big guy like me will cry in the middle of the night when she`s not looking.But,she`s like that,her...character...of course after so long,i can tell if she loves me or not...she does. :)

Things began to...turn sour?
For the past few days,we never talk.i was thinking...its over sooner or later....you can feel it.The tension is getting tighter and tighter...tense.They are many probles between us.The bniggest one is my family.

i often have to fork out money for my family.my brother is working very hard but he`s also staying with his stead.My sis is still very young and my mum is unable to work because of illness.Only left my dad.He`s not getting paid much and he`s reaching 65.Still cooking in a restaurant.The problem is my stead feels that i`m helping TOO MUCH.Sometimes she`s right...when my family needs mony,i can give to them and help,but when we need help,they cant help us.Because of this,i had rejected my family for many times...

The stress is building and building...my eyes is watery now as i type...because of this i often bury myself in music.i love playing drums...percussion freak in bugis...it really de-stress me(going later)...i have been thinking of breaking up with her but i jus cant let it go!!!i really love her...its been so long...many happy times.........i cant bear the feeling of leaving her and not seeing and holding her again...nut i know for the long term...its not gonna work out....f!ck...crying in com lab in school...

i never told my friends this...so i`m the bad guys in their eyes..."dumping your GF..."...its hard to let them know...we`re still staying together.but,i guess i`m gonna move out this few days...somemore exam coming...how to study?...hai...

WAT TO DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Why move out?

This is question number one.

You do NOT even have a completely WRECKED domestic environment where you are forced by circumstances to escape the hellhole. Your family faces financial difficulty, but that doesn't equate to a wrecked home. Many household are going through what your family is going through - your rebellious strike out is a choice that promise final despair, stress and dead end. Very loving to stay together in co-habitation? You soon realise that your level of love cannot cope with the pressing problems thrown at you constantly like whirling blades in air.

Logically speaking, you do not even have the finanicial ability to even maintain life, family and relationship all at a go. Furthermore, you are still studying - even if you push for part time, your income will barely be sufficient.

Moving out in your case is not a sign of maturity (or trying to be independent as you may thought of yourself), rather a form of escape to somewhere which you thought love could substitute whatsoever element that is missing in your home. You tried to build a 'home' of warmth and love in this new 'home' - so pray tell me how does this security of your new home work to keep itself stable? You can't... & you finally see the cracks and flaws of your great love-cohabitation idealogy, crumbles like a house of cards in face of cruel reality.

Standing at the crossroad, the future of your love looks bleak. Having to break up with your girlfriend is probably the same as having to admit all the willful decisions you made is a huge mistake afterall. Who would want to go through ALL THE MILES and end up coming back to square one?

You can continue your current way of life, although its probably not doing you any good... for if it does, you would never had to come here in the first place. How now brown cow? Do you still want to carry on false hope, impractical love and motes of delusion? Or would you chose to humble yourself, acknowledge your plight and work towards ending it, even if it means having to sacrifice?

P.S: You have been living in short-term vision, learn to equip with some foresight with wisdom. It can save your alot of tears and hurt in the long run. Make sensible decisions for your life NOT because it seemed great-at-the-moment - but exercise them with enlightenment.

Cheers