Originally posted by jacqn:
my gal friend is going to get married.. Recently her close friend actually confessed to her he really like her.. he doesnt mind being her part time bf. he actually asked her to accept him as one! she is shocked of course, but deep down inside, i knew they have been closer than just friends. How should i advise her?
He's probably the kind of man with a 'vulture mindset' - doesn't want to get downright dirty insofar as to break her present relationship directly, preferring to wait for her relationship to crumble (equipped with the typical thinking that most BGR 'wouldn't last' type of perception).
Now that he realized he has lost the bet, he became desperate. And being desperate means he's willing to risk his foot by wedging it in between the 'closing door'... before she gets married.
His idea of a part time boyfriend suggested to me that very likely, he's keen on a non-committed sexual relationship, because even if he's emotionally depended on her, usually, that doesn't spark off the idea of a part time boyfriend in that context. A close friendship (platonic) would do just as well.
Why would her close guy friend make such a request? I supposed within their dubious friendship... she has probably suggested to him something, in which he has gotten the idea that your gal friend is probably into such sub rosa relationship.
I think the answer is pretty straightforward - if she is even having difficulty making a decision, I think she is not ready for marriage... emotionally.
Cheers
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