Aunt Agony II 280107

Originally posted by veronicatan:

i smsed him ytday afternoon, asking him if he think he is beginning to take me for granted. called me 1/2 hour later but i was attending to a customer, couldnt talk. called him 2 hours later during my dinner break but he was in a work thing. he didnt call me last night. this morning, saw him in msn. chatted for a while, but he didnt mention about the sms at all. is he really taking me for granted?

i know that is unhealthy or harmful for a relationship. but looking that the facts, he is always not free to sms/return call and when i asked that qn, he doesnt reply, is that a sign of taking for granted. i know people in relationship should be understanding tat partner are busy and etc, but isnt relationship also about making time for each other? as it is, we only talk when we have the time. for the past 8 days, we only talked 3 times in msn cos we 'run' into each other coincidentally. the fact is, i have been waiting in front of the laptop for him to go online. yes, btw, he is posted overseas to work for 3 mths, 1 mth has passed. he is now overseas. and there is no difference in timezone



I would say give him the benefit of the doubt, since he's on official purpose overseas and not there to make merry.

At least try to lower what's 'standard' to you during this three months. IF love wasn't an issue, he has probably some good reason/s why he isn't proactive in upkeeping communication. Of course, you might argue that he could have make time for it if he has the heart to, but I wouldn't not advocate your thinking along that direction since it probably spell unnecessary worries and fears.

I wouldn't say he is taking you for granted literally, as this is likely to be a small hurdle of three months. You might want to relate your experience to him personally when he comes back and talk about it. After all, should you condemn him for something, at least allow him the chance to explain or at least improve himself if it's troubling you.

Meanwhile, do what you can to improve things - leave the major talk for later... when he comes back.

Cheers