Aunt Agony 290606

Originally posted by twenty47:
my gf and me is walking towards our 10th month together and i am loving her as much as the 1st day we are together.

we chat almost everynight on msn since we started and i always try to make our conversation interesting, stress free, fun and always trying to be as accomodating/gentle to her as possible and always initiating topics so that we can chat about.

but recently, it seems we have a problem carrying on with our conversation. for example, when i tell her something that i've done today or something that i just saw, she gives me 1 word replies like, "orh", "ic", "ok" which is making it really tough for me to carry on talking. then we'll just remain quiet till i talk to her again about some other topics. recently, she just simply types "i go sleep le. nitez." and goes offline immediately without even giving me a chance to wish her goodnight which is a habit of mine. last time, it was always sweet and she will type things like "goodnight lao gong" and such.

is this normal between you and your partner? is it a sign saying that she sees it as the end of our honeymoon period? is it an indication that she is tired of me? all these questions are bothering me and i do hope the kind folks here will be able to give me some guidance. i treasure her but now i am in pain...


Causal communication is not a commitment.

You don't call and chat just because it seemed like a duty to do so.

It makes relationship seemed more like a liability than a natural flow.

What you are facing is the reality side of relationship - you won't find a couple chatting with one another everyday, for hours, without losing the reason to chat (even the most compatible couple with powerful mercury synastry will face planet retrograding at times).

You must hop your relationship to the next level - where you share mutual interest and hobbies, so has to facilitate causal conversation as well. Nothing beats doing something together - it will strengthen your bonds and introduce lifestyle integration.

Cheers