Aunt Agony 090606

Originally posted by ducktan:
i treat her like a princess. give in to her when quarrel. but she, everytime when we quarrel, she never fails to break her promises. she promised not to keep quiet. promised not to be so attitude. but when i tell her that she broke her promises, she will reply a ' SO? ' then i also have got nothing to say. there are times when we quarrel till very jialat i will suddenly give in and apologize. then she will then admit her mistakes and promise not to repeat. but again and again she repeats them. i know she loves me. but she doesn't show she that she treasures me. i'm really tired of giving in to her. but if i don't do so, i'm afraid that i will lose her. very afraid. now we have just quarreled. and the same thing repeats itself. i told her recently that this is the last chance i give her to prove that she treasures me. but just now. she just don't want to reply. hang the phone. and i said i wanted a break. she just cry. complains that i don't love her. and i have to call her again and again. people please tell me what to do? i don't want to be the one always to give in. i don't want her attitude and she always breaking her promises. lastly, i don't want to lose her.

thanks for reading. sincere replies please


You are giving in because you fear to lose her. You lost to fear.

She is not learning because she understands that you fear to lose her and would do whatever necessary to upkeep her nonsense. She preyed on your weak strength of character.

What sort of relationship would you want to see yourself falling into? A relationship that fools around with the 'break-up' stance whenever argument arises?

If your Love only understands companionship, then you will probably have to tolerate the 'what's not' until you crumble emotionally.

So you demand changes? And if somebody is not learning, you can't use the same equation to solve the same problem because you will be getting the same result.

What if the way for her to change is for you to be out of the picture? Would you have the courage to walk that route?

This is probably the third case (involving man with weak Mars) we have here. I shall repeat again: When you strive to treat a woman like a princess, at best, you become the best jester in town. Evolve your woman to a queen and you being her rightful king. Then you shall see equality and not lose your dynamic and foundation of your relationship to fear.

Cheers