Aunt Agony 090808

Originally posted by jfund:

which would u choose? to go overseas to further studies for a good future and risk ur relationship? or stay, keep the relationship and sacrifice ur future? pls dont give answers like 'long-distance will work if the couple is truely in love...' thanks!


You have already limit yourself with absolute possibilities - for the choice of one must be a sacrificial of another.

Why should that always be the case?

You know, in this post-modern society, we are so caught up in the concept of rationality that we literally engage this rational sense of ours in all aspects of our life and submerged ourselves in calculation of what's the most 'profitable choice' at the end of the day. Like the scenario you have presented: furthering your studies for a good future verse keeping your relationship and 'sacrifice' your future?

Firstly, your future is not sacrificed even if you don't go overseas and study. This is already a gross mispresentation. It's not as if you are sentenced to sixteen years jail during your prime years and screwed up your future in that sense.

The risk factor you have advocated is nothing but the existence of fear where Love absolutely cannot tolerate. Hence, it began to chip at your relationship until the cleft becomes a hole and before you realize it, you have lost the relationship to some self-generated fear, topple with adverse circumstances.

In Love, so what if the relationship fails? What's with this obsession with a failing relationship anyway? Have we become so rationalized with obtaining 'perfect scores' and 'good results' that we cannot have the imagination and higher understanding that there are times in love (and life) when we must fall in the beginning to win later?

Failure suggested growth and not degeneration - the latter often revealed an unevolved soul.
The irony of Love is that why focus on the fact that a relationship would fail when one should focus on leading the relationship while it last and make the best out of it?

Interestingly, you don't always lose when you have lost your relationship.

Think about it.

Cheers