Aunt Agony 181207

Originally posted by Allen.Iverson:

i like this girl who is older than me by a year. been goin out with her and i like her. shes interested in me as well. but we always run out of things to talk about and there will always be awkward moments of silence.

furthermore, i feel that i lack the ability to make her laugh alot. girls like guys who can make them laugh but i cant make her do so often. how can i not appear to be so dull towards her?

pls dont tell me that its who i am and i shouldnt change the way i am cos i believe that it is a personality trait that can be improved upon and is highly beneficial.

need help!! please!!

Love per se isn't some mutually exclusive entity living on its own dimension - in fact, it's very much interwoven with one's life.

I see this as two possibilities:

I) You are naturally weak in communication, self expression and delivery (Mercury-detrimental).

II) Your lacklustre life doesn't give you enough variety to keep conversation going.

And chances are, it's likely to be a mix of both because these two pointers are highly intertwined.

Personality trait can be an acquired skill if you reiterate enough to behaviour to infuse it as part of your core value. But you must first understand where this defect lies and if you are equipped with the strength and wisdom to strike out and start a human revolution.

A dull person is languid because the way they lead their life probably doesn't give them the opportunity to expand on human interaction. These people are likely to invest their time in solitary activities that usually doesn't require much personal interaction between people.

And the flourish of internet probably worsens this issue, if people start reckoning that it's a good substitute for reality.

Love is not a miracle that dissolves all problems into nothingness; ironically, being in Love is like looking into a magical mirror of truth: it expose all our inner negativity and coerced us to face directly with our weakness, especially our personality.

Only through the eyes of Love, would we understand how much 'defects' we have developed unconsciously over the years.

A person who doesn't know how to speak must learn to challenge himself to talk. Albeit he might not be the best speaker, but at the very least, he learns to speak, which is paramount to one's spiritual growth. The growth doesn't lies with the ability to speak, but rather, the notion of having to surmount his weakness.

A dull life is but a transitory condition that can be shattered by having to invest your life, effort and time into something more worthwhile that could enhance your personality and life, especially if it involves an assembly of people, in which one must interact in such social setting.

One can be insipid, but one doesn't have to accept the fate of a dull life for everyday, there's always 24 hours for all. The difference between one from another is the time used by them individually.

In summary: one cannot be a dull person that is interesting or an interesting person that is dull. Being in love doesn't make you an interesting person automatically - if your current life doesn't allow you the condition to be interesting, you will always feel inadequate in conversation because your vocabulary is limited.

Cheers