A tough question indeed. I remember I had supervision the other day and one of my colleague's main struggle is to help her client figure out a way to understand 'love', in reference to how self image and self love would somehow affect her relationship.
It is a hard question isn't it? Asking people what is an abstract quality of a value or a concept.
The point is that we will never be able to know what love is. It is same with reality. We do not know what reality really is. All we know and understanding about reality is merely through our senses. Hence, our understanding of reality is but an edited version of reality.
We only have perceived reality.
In the same argument, we cannot know the nature of love. In fact, drilling into an unfathomable nature of love leads to derangement and is ultimately meaningless. We only know of love through the properties it surface. For example, when my mother cooks for the family, it is one property of love (act of services). When a couple goes overseas and having fun together, it is also one property of love (quality time). So on and so forth.
When you combined all these acquired experience, one is likely to conclude a few ideas about love, in which it would naturally transform into a belief, since some of these experience probably reinforce a particular ideology.
But is this ideology of ours, formed about love, the universal truth?
Tinted glasses and selective perception.
After all, we only know of a perceived reality. We do not know what reality really is.
I only have one reflective question for those who happen to stumble upon my article; how has retaining your own belief (whatever it is) help or not help you to experience love as it is?
If it does not help you, it is something that you want to change?
What do you think? :)
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