Flashback 190506

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Originally posted by jayne:
i dun wana hate him, really.. but seems like if i dun, i find it real hard to get on wif mi daes.. cos smtimes memories will js cm flooding bck to mi, & i find it difficult to get bck on mi feet again.. smtimes i js wana hide & cry till mi tears turn red..

yes, i admit im too posessive.. i hope he can spent his free time wif mi.. but i am ok if he needs to go out wif frens, js let mi noe 1st so i dun plan anythg..

i got feedbck fr one of his ex-colleagues smtime ago tt smtimes he sees him very stress.. he says tt smtimes work requires OT & he has to choose b/w work & mi.. i admit i dun quite like him working too late cos he has bck problems but if he chooses work instead of meeting mi, i will respect his choice, thou i will kick a fuss..

i admit im a fuss maker, hard to pls.. but 4 yrs has past, he din say a thg.. but i noe miself.. i tried to change a few times, but i guess it wasnt wat he wanted.. so he packed up & left..

i cant believe he went to the extend as to move, cut his line & change job, js to avoid mi.. i cant believe he nv even consider mi feelings! he said in his last msg tt he knew i wld cry, but hes sori.. nvm abt the past, dun matter who rite who wrong, js move on.. he aso says he cant provide 4 mi, cos he has his aged parents at home to feed.. so js let go..

That's the EXACT fault of virtually most couple out there - by keeping mum or not saying anything DOESN'T mean it wouldn't affect the relationship. He could be silent about his feelings on this issue because it's like compromising on his part (although silent compromising is one of the least appreciated qualities around).

Remember that fat kid we used to 'suan' when we were younger? About his size and all? You THINK it wouldn't affect him? He could be cool about it, but it actually does affect his esteem.

No difference.

It seemed that your ex-boyfriend might want the relationship, yet doesn't really know what he truly wants or how he might want to steer the relationship. In the past (possibly now as well, not time has not pass to confirm this), he created a series of drama just to stimulate this thinking. It's so classic. Every guy out there who is having this problem, WILL artifically inject certain tension in the relationship just to stimulate thinking.

Then, he got his answer. He may decide his course now: the course to leave you. There are infinite reasons and of course, you and I know that these are bullsh!ts. The actual reason lies with his ego and his psyche.

I) The Ego of a man who is unable to provide very much for his love will in turn reject love to allow her to seek for greener pasture. When Uranus is strong and afflict Sun, this ego is difficult to manage. There are many man with relatively lower esteem will see themselves as 'no future' man. They want their partner to have better life, but failed to see this as a motivating factor to excel in life.

II) His love for you may have vanished long ago OR the desire to leave the relationship. But there are simply no great deal of a reason for him to end it. He may be dragging it, thus always opting for your exam period to annouce the news. Reason is simple: you will be too busy to find him and he could also avoid seeing you this period.

Do you remember this overly used phrase 'You can't force love unto someone'? IF he is not willing to be in a relationship (regardless of the length of time together), then its completely unneccessary to play 'catching' and go through the extra miles just to catch him back. The rules of 'Catching' only applies to THOSE who WANTS to play them; try catching those bystander who happen to pass by - they will NOT follow you to 'jail'.

P.S: If you got to move, you got to move. You can't wait for circumstances to force movement into you (Esp. Taurus, Scorpio, Leo, Aquarius). If that ever happenes, you would either bleed to death or your tears will fill a river.

Cheers