Time Factor

We probably heard variation of this before; how much time do you need to figure out what you want in your relationship?

Time is neutral in that sense; it does not provide anything other than some reasonable buffer before putting forth commitment on our choice. In every sense of the word, time only serve to delay the process of making a choice, which entails all responsibility of having a choice made internally and expressed externally.  Decision is indeed a scary process because one of the greatest emotional fear known to mankind is the fear of regret.

Nobody wants to regret anything in life simply because we cannot go back to our past and undo them.  

But then again, it is critical (in reality) that we 'cannot change our past' because if we could - life will degenerate into some low quality computer game, in which we can always save and reload later. On the flip side of the coin: let us not forget that some of the greatest things that could ever happen to us in life often require us to first accept initial unpleasant changes - hence it may not always lead to a bad thing. 

The point I am driving is that time does not solve problems - choices do. The escalating discomfort from having gradual dissatisfaction in life will accumulate to a point of realization that time is actually a convenient excuse we use to avoid answering certain difficult questions in life.

We ended up making a choice not to make a choice.