Originally posted by BleezeB:
ok long story...few years back..i posted a post about the girl who
i like but she only treat me as friend..then got another girl like me but is
way younger..we ended together for about 1year but we finish the relation
peacefully.
Girl A: girl i like since sec 2 (8years ago) (22yrs old)
Girl B: girl i am with for 1 year (18 yrs old)
Boy A: my friend since sec 2 (22yrs old)
Ever since sec 2 i like girl A and confess once dueing that year
but she told me it too sudden and did not say anything else.
We remain friend and at Poly year 3 i confess again and again she
did not say anything. I lied that i was drunk that why i send her that kind of
sms. Then she said nvm at least i am truthful to myself. Somemore she tell me
before to finish NS and study uni first.
Girl B then tell me she like me around that time. So before i
enlisted i accepted her and was very happy with her. Every book out go pei her
and go out and etc.
But after 1 year we suddenly realize we got no time to talk and go
out due to her studies and my NS. So we said give other a break for a while.
Then Girl A suddenly sms me once know i broke up and tell me to
cheer out. Ask me out and etc. I regain my hope for her and started to chase
her again.
Then about 5mths ago friends tell me Girl A like Boy A. I was
shocked and thought they joking. End up i begin to observe and rwalize that
they are really very close compare to last time.
Yesterday visited Girl A house and realize the famoly and relative
know Boy A. I felt as though like a knife pock into my heart.
I really dont know what to do. If you got read till here please
give me direction.
Girl A dont look pretty or sexy but somehow i just like her a lot
even now.
Girl B is cute looking and young and innocent. We still got hope
to tgt.
I dont know what to do now. Every month my sec schl clique meet
up. If Girl A and Boy A tgt then how i am to face them.
There is often a someone 'we couldn't have' and this entity
gradually transform into a question mark in our emotional mind. We could toy
with possible imaginations, but I am not sure where it would land you.
What's pretty certain is that if she hasn't put you onto the
consideration list, then it is unlikely that your position would drastically
change unless her perception of you alters. Largely because of that fact that
the essence of our looks, personality and behaviour towards people are usually
quite consistent - which are precisely the reasons why we are on or off the
chart.
Surely it must be a challenge facing the lady you fancy in the
same clique of friends; however, this is just one aspect of your challenge. The
real challenge lies in facing a very real possibility of waking up to a reality
that this is someone that you might never actually have. The fantasy stage of
affection can be rather addictive because everything appears surreal and
perfect - you might actually imagine her contacting you because she wants to
'give you a chance', but it is more likely to be one-sided on your end.
And in this fantasy world - we tends to minimize hard facts which
are suggestive of points that are contrary to your form of idealism.
***
Putting two women on the equation from your post only seem to
suggest to me that you perceived that A is a possible choice. What I mean is
that it is possible to like someone/something, while having the awareness that
possession is a different concept. For example, I could love Ferrari, but
purchasing one is way out of my financial ability. Harboring the thought about
having someone impossible is fantasy; the frustration and pain we experience is
likely due to the fact that we desperately want something we cannot get, while
maintaining the idea that it is within reach.
Love often gets buried itself under layers of other feelings; more
often than not, insecurity being the thickest lot. Using similar analogy, if my
friend bought a Ferrari and I get upset over it - perhaps the wisdom lies not
in avoiding my friend, but what can I do with myself so that I can also afford
one in the future.
Perhaps not the same model, but one that I can truly learn
to appreciate and love in reality - not just a piece of fantasy dream.
Cheers
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