Aunt Agony 120511

Originally posted by MilkyZ

Hi Guys.. I Need Help Here.. My Girlfriend And I Broke Up.. She Wants to broke up with me.. saying she wanted to be single, she said she dont have much feelings for me.. we been tgt for 1 yr 3 months, broke up on the day after her birthday.. i was so sad and depressed.. cause during those days, she known a guy for 4 days, and she is interested in that guy. broke up with me after knowing that guy for about a week.. after we break up for 8 days. she is tgt with that guy.. until its been 1 month since we broke up. i read all post and i inititated no contact till now. hoping she will miss me and contact me.. but she didnt contact or txt me at all.. like she nv even miss me ?? i still got check her fb sometimes.. i can't help it.. the feelings still there.. is not easy to get over with.. both of them , their facebook profile keep having those loving messages and stuffs.. and now she put into a relationship with that guy.. she said she wanted TO B E SINGLE !? is she lying to me ?! That time we talk which is our last talk where the break up comes.. she said if i love her i should let her go ! cause she wanted to be single so i let her go cause i still love her.. but now i still think of her and want her back.. she is my 1st love and i still have feelings for her.. guys . what should i do to make her miss me and regret it ??And i just saw her facebook uploaded the both of them, their pictures.. the kissing and hugging parts.. fucking fucked up.. the guy is even worse looking than me.. i really had nothing to say..

Hmm Guys.. I nv treated Her Badly.. ?? I Know myself I treated her damn good.. i also did go for work.. i even bought her a lot of things.. and especially her birthday.. even i left $300 i spend almost $200 +..

Even her friends are all touched by me when i give her the final blow which is an SK jewellry necklace.. ALL her friends said that i am very good to her.. Best to her.. And They All Helped Me Saying my Ex.. I Just Dun Know What Is So Attractive About That Guy.. An ITE With a Gpa of 3.0 .. Face Like Gay.. Pie Kia.. Long Hair.. Zz..

Just That He started Learning Martial Arts ?? And During inside that 1 week .. my ex chiong cab down to clarke just to meet that guy for half an hour.. And I Confirmed That she know that guy 1 week only during that time cause she work at CANON for 4 days nia.. That's How She Knew Him.. Guys I seriously Dun Understand Why She Changed So Fast ?? I Am Also Her 1st love.. how can she so easily moved on ?? This Feeling Really Fucked Up Siazz.. Is Not I wanna Be EMO or sad.. i just keep thinking and missing her when i don't want to !!

any guys can advices or help out ??


Sometimes, I wondered if the reasons given are important to process the break up or the break up itself is a reason suffices to decide that probably this person is not really the one to begin with. You have two prominent issues; (1) you are grieving over the lost of your 1 year odd relationship, (2) you are angry over the fact that she ended up with someone else almost instantly after breaking up with you.

To grief over a lost relationship is natural; the epiphany is almost as if a part of you died along with your divine soul and it can be witnessed in your daily functioning activities (e.g. mourning for the lost, no one to meet up over the weekends, nobody to hold hands, etc). Most people detest major changes because relationship often seek to maintain its homeostasis - simply refers to its 'natural balance' where status quo prevail over possible new changes, in which some level of uncomfortable adjustment has to be made and be accommodated.

Your anger seemed justified; with facebook pictures depicting her new relationship in intimate poses; certainly it can be hard for anyone to accept it in a point-blank fashion. The additional frustration also adds weight as you relate how nicely you treated her, despite making personal sacrifices. The attempt was futile in saving the relationship though, but honestly, a part of me wonders how much of the relationship is actually salvageable in the first place.

When someone is diagnosed with final stage pancreatic cancer (most fatal type of cancer); chances are, death is inevitable. The knowledge of being diagnosed as pancreatic cancer (category type) in its final stage (time frame) makes load of difference as compared to another who is only told that he is clinically suffering from cancer. If you know that you have no chance of being cured, you will probably try to improve the quality of your life because that is probably the only way you could end on a higher note given the same outcome.

What I am trying to say is that for your case: ‘death’ has already occurred. Understandably, the reason of death means little to our emotional mind because it is as painful as it could get for anyone to lose someone they love. It is indeed a struggle to move along. However the question remains for you: what level of note would you want to end for yourself?

If you know that the breakup is due to the absence of love; is this something that you perceive you could do ‘something’ about it to get it back?

Could you force love out of someone who doesn’t have it anymore?

Even if you could – will it turn out to be the same?

Cheers