Showing posts with label General. Show all posts
Showing posts with label General. Show all posts

Sunday, May 27, 2012

I gotten my book!

After yesterday's trip at Kinokuniya, I finally found it. Was struggling to decide if I should order online.



Choice Theory Reality Therapy has always been my main form of clinical intervention with clients and Dr William Glasser, my great grand grandmaster mentor is da bomb of this century. He is still alive and Evelyn just went over to States recently to visit him.

And the book writes:

"Nothing has harmed the quality of individual life in modern society more than the misbegotten belief that human suffering is driven by biological and genetic causes and can be rectified by taking drugs or undergoing electroshock therapy."

:)

Friday, May 25, 2012

The more I know - the more I don't

Just came back from Phuket; an extremely crucial break for me before I embark on my grand project to service elderly folks in the community.

And as I looked back into my lifespan thus far; it's interesting to note how 'I' have evolved: starting from the point where I dabbled in astrology and its related initial influence of Jung and Freud's nonsense, until the part where I fell in love with philosophy.

Sometimes people asked me where did I get all that understanding from. Frankly, I don't have answers to that question because I find myself perpetually a student. I don't, in fact, get all that understanding, which ironically made me realized the point about the more I know - the more I don't.


I have seen years of relationship crumbling down into a pile of painful sand overnight. Like my title suggested, the more they think that they understand about their relationship - the more they don't.

So... how well do you understand about your own relationship? :)

Thursday, March 15, 2012

Back to Reality

Sorry for the slow update - yunhaier just came back from overseas and buried under tons of work. There are some pending post that I am dying to blog about, so yup! I will post it up as soon as possible. :)


Back to reality! Damn it! I soo love holidays & traveling. :)

Sunday, November 20, 2011

You Are the Apple of My Eye (那些年,我們一起追的女孩)

I caught a midnight show (Apple of my Eye); wanted it partly because of social reasons and the huge influx of positive comments scattered across my FB wall by people who posted it on their status update, raving about how good the film is.

I watched and here are my thoughts: it was a funny-good show, though imho I don't think it was anything extraordinary (but hey, I guess it was intentional). The general theme is about flashback & regrets, portrayed in a simple way, which I reflected and thought that I would actually love the film if I was much younger. Categorically speaking, this film would likely to appeal to four kinds of people:

i) People who experienced regret in relationship and are now in the 'moving-on (or moved on) stage' already.

ii) People who are largely sentimental, apt to fall back on past memories or generally have a happier past relationship, which they now do not possess.

iii) People who are/were playing the script of the 'we-can't-be-together-but-I-wish-you-all-the-best-from-the-bottom-of-my-heart' role.

iv) Romantic fans who love all kinds of romance/love movies.

The show idolize the concept of 'waiting' with 'greater-good love'. Somehow the two condition could be artistically enmeshed without difficulty from a film's perspective, but in reality, such combination often reeks of misery for people suffering from such predicament. The subtle message is in fact more important (if anyone caught it): that we must eventually move on at some point in our life, even if there are regrets we cannot resolve completely. The male lead kissing the groom at the end was explained as part of his perceived quirky personality, which she knew since secondary school days. Though it was a projection of his hidden affection, he did nothing to her and there was space in between them talking - it symbolize mutual respect and boundary.

The film perspective centered largely from the male lead, which he had unfinished business and his female lead, seemingly sharing this unfinished business with him - albeit she has already agreed to marry the man who would take care of her for the rest of his life. In reality, the brides at their wedding would have no recollection of such past at the moment when they don their wedding dress. In fact, the fatigue of preparation would preoccupy most of their concern. Also, the female perspective is largely missing (since it is 九把刀 reflection of his teenage years, he would not know what is truly going on in the mind of his crush): juxtapose similar context in reality, any woman would have already moved a distance so far in her love life that this episode, no matter how poignant and dramatic, would have been cast aside into the depth of her subconscious, only to resurface briefly during random all girls' night and talks.

In reality, a woman/man would acknowledge the affection that she/he has in the past, but that is probably all about it.

No intense kisses. No meteor. No rainbow. No nothing.

My conclusion?

Find your own lead in life to begin writing chapters of your love life and not wasting it by indulging in relationship that was never meant to be yours in the first place. It may seemed glorious to revel in those 'unmeant' relationship, but it is meaningless when you become far too self absorbed in attaching meaning to something has already cease to exist.

Then it becomes an obsession and no longer possess the quality of love.

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Watch this Space

Sorry for the lack of updates - it has truly been a arduous and busy period for Yunnie.

I am going probably going to have major revamp on this blog very soon after 12 Nov 2011.

Watch this space. :)

Monday, December 13, 2010

Feeling Unworthy?

I would think that today's dialogue has come to some interesting (though not surprising) conclusion, which I would like share:

Nobody can make us feel unworthy unless we give them to permission to do so.

I would think that it is only normal for one to feel extremely screwed up after a break up and honestly, the 'natural' direction our thoughts would automatically lead us is usually the point about us probably being 'fucked up', hence the 'punishment' of being ditched or cheated on is 'acceptable', especially if the separation was initiated by the other person or if he/she cheated on you with someone else.

This inward directed self blame does insane amount of damage to ourselves because we fail to comprehend the reason for the perishment, thus resorting to us thinking that we must be unlovable. CloUdiSm would have think that the end of our cosmic lessons in love naturally brings about the death of the relationship, which is slightly different from the fatalistic perspective because there is a accounted reason/s and not conceding to the rationale of 'what will be, will be'.

When there is no more life, naturally there will be no more breath. Life is an essence, not something that you can 'see' or capture it in a bottle. Yet it is critical, in some ways, that keeps our mortality 'alive'. Thus in my framework, cosmic lesson represent the life that maintains the relationship and when you complete them, it dies and leaves behind a tale we termed as memories.

Some changes are critical for our own growth and may seemed to be negative as first, but take comfort in the fact that the darker the night, the brighter the dawn.

Sometimes we need to lose first, in order to win.

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Eureka!

I think it's totally crazy; am suppose to be working on my assignments but I ended up studying Buddhism because I have to do some sharing soon. Now I had to blog this post because I am totally amazed at how profound the philosophy of Buddhism is - I think this realization is Eureka!

Non-dogmatic alignment with reason, logic and science - that belief is true belief, subjected nothing to blind faith.

I think I have just widen my perspective by a huge width.

Friday, September 10, 2010

Security or Love?



Interestingly I have been called an idealist when I thought it was basically fundamental. Perhaps, my definition of what's fundamental might be classified as idealistic, but I would still stick to my guns on this.

The folkways effect on being single in modern Singapore is quite apparent. There seemed to be somewhat a pressure on getting people hitched, especially if you are on the road to be of a 'marriageable age'. Somewhat socially, we are conformed to believe that we must be attached in order to achieve some sort of stability, so as to ensure certain level of self worth and certainty that we are loved and wanted. This is especially pronounced in that of a woman than a man, but it affects both ways equally.

Ironically, the concept of 'single' equates to 'being alone' or 'unwanted', instead of enjoying life while actively looking out for someone who could complement you. What happens in reality is that people choose existing pool of potentials from their social circle and often decide upon mates that don't exactly fit very well. These are what I call the 2nd/3rd order partners, which serve as a function to negate the perspective of being 'unwanted' to 'wanted' - but deep within their subconscious, they don't exactly love their chosen partner/s in a deeper sense, other than the need to appease this insecurity.

It wouldn't surprise me that a significant number of woman end up marrying for security and not for love. It doesn't matter whether they are dissatisfied or unhappy, because at the end of the day, they are still 'wanted' and being alone or seen to be alone is a devil greater than being in a unhappy/dissatisfied relationship.

Which is why one out of every three marriage will end up in divorce. It is not because the love wasn't strong - it is because the fundamentals is already wrong in the first place.

P.S: The teleology in love can be so profound insofar that they cannot be understood merely by the context of the love in which they express through the interaction of the relationship. Sometimes, we need to deal with our own fear of loneliness, so that we are able to lead the relationship in a less suppressive manner.

Saturday, August 07, 2010

Job Satisfaction

Today, I truly experienced what it is like to have job satisfaction.

It is nothing like I had experienced before.

The strong sense of purpose and knowing what you are doing and where does it leads to is insanely important.

Without those components, we are just mondays-dreader waiting for friday-after-6pm.

Sunday, July 04, 2010

冤家路窄

冤家路窄

Personally, I hate to see what I detest to see.

I have no thoughts about it - just annoyed like how a buzzing fly would have pissed me.

I was glad that I stood tall with dignity and honour. I renewed my personal promise that I will evolved ten times stronger & better than what I was a year ago.

I will succeed.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Monkhood

I feel like going to some mountain and meditate.

I realized that a lot of things don't satisfy me anymore... or as much as I would like it to be.

I think my contemplation of being a monk might one day just come true.

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Nearing the Finishing Line

I am already close to putting a closure on my three years liability; tomorrow is my last lesson for this term.

By the end of this year, I must be working full force on CloUdiSm.

All my plans are bending according to my will.

Monday, April 12, 2010

Changes

Some things changed and they are never the same again.

We are never the same again because some things changed.

Thursday, April 08, 2010

Mobbed

This youth kept pestering me to sign on his foolscap paper. Yes. Sign my big signature on it like some random superstar. Then he kept pestering me for my mobile number.

Seriously, the thought of it damn funny because usually only lesbians are that 'interested' in me. ROFLMAO!

Then later, I kanna mobbed by my group of youths (imps) at the end of the outreach until AL saved me.

I think I might have to moderate my aura of people-being-comfortable-with-me or I will get killed someday.

Sunday, March 14, 2010

Jobs Opening

Anyone interested? Just leave a tag on my blog. :)

Position Openings:

1. Designation : Senior Manager-YAH!

Requirements : Bachelor Degree with relevant management/training
experience

-Team player with good organizational, communication & interpersonal skills

- Effectively bilingual (English/Chinese)

- Work experience in a training institute is a plus

Job Description : To be in-charge of the management & operation of the YAH!
Community College




2. Designation : Marketing Executive-YAH!

Requirements : -Bachelor Degree in Mass Communications, Marketing or
equivalent qualifications with at least 2 years of

relevant experience.

-Diploma holders with at least 5 years of relevant experience would also be
considered.

-Team player with good organizational, communication & interpersonal skills

- Effectively bilingual (English/Chinese)

Job Description : To develop marketing plans and strategies to promote
programmes in YAH.



The closing date for this recruitment is 31 March 2010.

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

2/3 of the Race is finished

I have finished 2/3 of my academic race and thankfully, a break until end Jan next year.

Lots of stuff to do, especially reading.

I promised myself to go through the writings of Nichiren Daishonin during this term break. If I can go through at least 40 letters (which is a fifth of his entire writing) - that would fulfil my religious objective for this term break.

Next I need to catch up on my philosophical pursuit and to work on CloUdiSm. The crazy thing is that the more things I learn, the more dumbass I feel. This has become an addiction: I have this insatiable hunger for knowledge - the more I gorge myself with it, the less satisfied I feel. The less satisfied I feel, the more I will gorge myself. (Freaking SM).

I also promise myself to learn about value investing.

For dance - self work on techniques and if got time, I wanna go class!

P.S: And it's time to initiate my search for a more-related job. Must constantly remind myself that I cannot stay in SH all my life.

Cheers

Sunday, November 15, 2009

Irony of Communication and The One

People tend to take things a lot harder as they grow older.

Start to realize that people around me are showing signs of acute (I certainly hope it isn't chronic) clinical depression. Where are the days where emo days are gone after a couple of meaningful dialogues and chilling out - even when we were once poor students with little luxury of life and have to resort to old school style communication?

In the present world we lived in: we have total mobility in communication - MSN, Facebook, mobile, HSPA+ etc. Previously, I only had a freaking pager that could only allow me 1 minute to alpha numeric on public phones before it cuts me off entirely.

Ironically, although we are more interconnected now, but strangely, the quality of our communication deteriorates. The prospect of this interconnectivity actually makes us less 'connected' with one another on a grander scale and it's just so ironic.

Maybe people are depressed not because they are not connected with one another - but because the quality of our support is weakening. Psychologically, somehow, we are much weaker than when we first begin, even though the rest of our body matured into full-blown adults. We came into society with hopes and dreams of our own bright future, only to be dulled by the soot of our drudgery circumstances, which are evidences of our poor grasping and learning in our own personal life developments.

In life, our primary perceived support are also gelded by the 'busy' reality of life. We realized we have less time for one another. And unfortunately, it's not because we are so caught up with our own problems, but because we are now intensively focus on gaining material wealth and accumulating surplus, at the expense of our own emotional, mental and spiritual wealth.

We have more, but we are not as happy.

In love, we used to date people just for the fun of it because we are able to let go things better. As we grow older, we begin to insist that love must run the way we want it to be and if it doesn't, we learn to cling onto love that mask itself as karmic relationship, thinking that he/she must be 'the one'.

People always asked me 'Yun, help to see if he/she is the one?'

Who the hell is 'The One?'

What is 'The One?'

The One can eat or not?

The only one I know is Jet Li and therefore nobody else is The One other than him. Bona Fide.



Nobody, even I, can tell you who 'The One' is - but certainly you and me can tell who is definitely NOT.

The only problem in the latter is convincing yourself.

“One doesn’t discover new lands without losing sight of the shore.”
- Andre Gide

Tuesday, November 03, 2009

Between Compassion and Production

Had never battled so many instances of flashfloods gushing out from the eyes of others. So many things just happened. Totally deranged.

But I was glad that I made certain choices in life. You know... like placed on a spiritual test to choose between compassion and production... between good friend and work. Gawd, it was kinda difficult because I had just finished a massive event and there are much backlog waiting for me to clear (on top of all the urgent stuff). And the thing is that my sort of shit is the kind of shit that if I don't clear them regularly, it just piles up - nobody could help me to clear them anyway.

When I received the emergency button, I just paused for a moment. Yes I actually paused.

Then I started reasoning with myself.

"FUCK! Not like SH is paying you millions of dollars! Not like that additional 5 hours of work will rake in million of lines for the company. That 5 hours probably won't even stir a shit... but it will make tremedous difference to someone else."

My choice becomes apparent.

Sunday, October 25, 2009

Realization

Interesting to see how Progressed Sun triggers the entire T-square, involving 4th, 11th and 7th house (with Venus, Moon and Uranus).

8 years ago when progressed Moon triggered the exact T-square, by conjunction of progressed Moon with Uranus at hard aspect - it wasn't easy as well.

What a realization!

Saturday, October 17, 2009

东山再起

人一定会东山再起

Same goes for the blog.

New skin.

New life.

New beginning.

P.S: Business as usual from today onwards.

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