Originally posted by Starletz:
Hi Peepz.... never knew I'll need someone to talk to. Now here goes... Recently, I'm in a new relationship. A total different from the rest relationships..... I used to be victimised... or end up being the upset and totally hurt one. Now with this new guy, I'm happy. Things are just day by day and we laughed together at the silliest things... With him, I did things that I used to dream about and I didn't even need to tell him. It just happened. Honeymoon period still... of course but it seem like ages we've been together for. My sister told me that I should take things as they come and not think so much but I am scared.... I am scared that all these happiness will juz come and go so quickly. I'm a little haunted by my old relationships of coz. Badly that I got scared. with him.. there wasn't a break. I just ended my relatonship with this other guy when my heart died and my current bf was just there for me. sigh... I also dunno why but I feel scared... everyday. Is it normal for me to think that it's ok to be happy and blissful? Are all relationships like this? Can someone share with me how you feel when you are in a normal relationship? Coz I really dunno what it is like to be in a normal one.
You got to realise that every relationship is unique.
And because they are different, they all have different ending (positive or negative) and therefore, different experience.
Being haunted by old relationship is a sign which signify a lack of self understanding why your previous relationship is abominable. You are haunted because you fear such scenario would recreate themselves into your present Love - but have you learn those lessons, this fear wouldn't even brought forth into your relationship because understanding would have made you stronger and grown up.
And because you are so afraid, you will unconsciously behave in such a way that it REPEATS what has happen into the present and in turn, create a reiterated future. It is like you using the same key to make the same trigger - your behaviour is the key and the trigger is a self-fulfilling prophesy that comes true based on the SAME key you used in the past.
Those enigma that we hid in our subconscious, do not be afraid to tackle them head-on. These past issues must be handled properly and appeased the tension from within, so that you can enjoy the fruit of your relationship and NOT having to worries incessantly while leading a new relationship during its honeymoon period.
Apply what you thought you have learn from your previous relationship to avoid costly mistake. But at the same time, give yourself a break. Don't take everything too personal and serious that it hinders your progression in your relationship. Until when you hit something, just sit back and revel in the ride.
Cheers
Sunday, April 30, 2006
Aunt Agony 300406 (Continue from AA 290406)
Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):
huh?? bo lah.. my case is not i dun dare to trust... it's no one wan mi lah..my flings is for the physically needs lah..i dun mind to have a perm one.. but just no gal wan to marry mi now lor
No one want you?
I think it's a psychological stand which you have constantly inbuilt into your system that cause your mind to delude the fact that it is NOT that nobody wants you, rather you don't allow the condition for people to have a fulfilling relationship with yourself and making yourself a GOOD condition for people to have a fulfilling relationship with you.
And because you kept feeding yourself with this ideology, it 'appear' like everything wasn't part of the cause-and-effect plan, but in fact, it is.
I encounter many cases like yours; people who tell themselves who are doomed to be alone/unmarriagable, when in fact, they are attractive people with personality that could draw. One good example is my Pisces best friend: she has a HORDE of suitor craving for her affection and she could tell me like what you did: nobody-wants-me sort of reply.
And interestingly, the guys she chose are people who are:
I) Jerks
II) Unavailable (Married/attached/etc)
III) Practice certain form of abuse/neglect.
What kind of result can we derive from here?
A forlorn flirt? An oxymoron.
It's usually the mindset that determine how well you will fare in relationship and nor circumstances that you fall into. Your mindset SHAPES your circumstances and if it became the other way round, you could probably see a degenerative path towards Love and Relationship.
The very fact that you are involved in several relationships already means that you are not Saturn-centered isolation issue (Astrology). The reason you gave yourself is pretty much insubstantial, if you actually do some reflection and look along my direction.
I think I have spoken enough. Maybe until you are ready to mature emotionally, if not, my post still stands.
Cheers
huh?? bo lah.. my case is not i dun dare to trust... it's no one wan mi lah..my flings is for the physically needs lah..i dun mind to have a perm one.. but just no gal wan to marry mi now lor
No one want you?
I think it's a psychological stand which you have constantly inbuilt into your system that cause your mind to delude the fact that it is NOT that nobody wants you, rather you don't allow the condition for people to have a fulfilling relationship with yourself and making yourself a GOOD condition for people to have a fulfilling relationship with you.
And because you kept feeding yourself with this ideology, it 'appear' like everything wasn't part of the cause-and-effect plan, but in fact, it is.
I encounter many cases like yours; people who tell themselves who are doomed to be alone/unmarriagable, when in fact, they are attractive people with personality that could draw. One good example is my Pisces best friend: she has a HORDE of suitor craving for her affection and she could tell me like what you did: nobody-wants-me sort of reply.
And interestingly, the guys she chose are people who are:
I) Jerks
II) Unavailable (Married/attached/etc)
III) Practice certain form of abuse/neglect.
What kind of result can we derive from here?
A forlorn flirt? An oxymoron.
It's usually the mindset that determine how well you will fare in relationship and nor circumstances that you fall into. Your mindset SHAPES your circumstances and if it became the other way round, you could probably see a degenerative path towards Love and Relationship.
The very fact that you are involved in several relationships already means that you are not Saturn-centered isolation issue (Astrology). The reason you gave yourself is pretty much insubstantial, if you actually do some reflection and look along my direction.
I think I have spoken enough. Maybe until you are ready to mature emotionally, if not, my post still stands.
Cheers
Saturday, April 29, 2006
Aunt Agony 290406
Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):
why har??? never really happy recently...even when my colleague is throwing mi party after party... but i go there like an empty shell.. my mind is totally not there.. just go there to pay the bill nia.. sighz.. why why why?? it is possible coz increment is about 10% plus only.. or just still havent recover from my 3mth business trip in italy?.... anyone feel the same as mi b4???? or dun tell mi is mid life crisis already?? or instinct telling mi to settle down and start a family to share all this with?..
got 1 lover, 1 sex partner and 1 dunno how to define one....still not enough meh? what i am short of now?? sighz....why i am unhappy?
I think that is the problem.
You are empty because your relationship is as empty as void.
Having three partners doesn't equate to fulfillment. In fact, it blatantly revealed how vulnerable your emotions are to insecurity and the fear of Love/commitment. People who fear Love often attempt to gather more partners so as just 'reassure' themselves and acts as a contingency plan in case one partner 'fails' him. They do not have to face the situation of a complete lost and could actually carry on and cling their unhealthy love mindset onto the other remaining few.
All these relationship you have created are as unstable as MLM. The minute this grand 'edifice' collapse, you see how weak the structure of this model is. And an unconscious truth is that: you are constantly recreating your feared scenario - the fear and lack of faith towards love commitment:
Fear commitment - create unstable model that it wouldn't last - realise it is unstable - create MORE of such unstable models - gradually some fails - recreate more - generate greater fear of commitment - repeat cycle with greater intensity.
If you call that fulfilling, then you are likely to deceive yourself through strong delusional reinforcing.
[quote]or dun tell mi is mid life crisis already?? or instinct telling mi to settle down and start a family to share all this with?.. sighz..... [/quote]
You have already expressed your greatest fear here and the novelty of flings is dying for you.
I think it's time for you to mature emotionally.
Cheers
why har??? never really happy recently...even when my colleague is throwing mi party after party... but i go there like an empty shell.. my mind is totally not there.. just go there to pay the bill nia.. sighz.. why why why?? it is possible coz increment is about 10% plus only.. or just still havent recover from my 3mth business trip in italy?.... anyone feel the same as mi b4???? or dun tell mi is mid life crisis already?? or instinct telling mi to settle down and start a family to share all this with?..
got 1 lover, 1 sex partner and 1 dunno how to define one....still not enough meh? what i am short of now?? sighz....why i am unhappy?
I think that is the problem.
You are empty because your relationship is as empty as void.
Having three partners doesn't equate to fulfillment. In fact, it blatantly revealed how vulnerable your emotions are to insecurity and the fear of Love/commitment. People who fear Love often attempt to gather more partners so as just 'reassure' themselves and acts as a contingency plan in case one partner 'fails' him. They do not have to face the situation of a complete lost and could actually carry on and cling their unhealthy love mindset onto the other remaining few.
All these relationship you have created are as unstable as MLM. The minute this grand 'edifice' collapse, you see how weak the structure of this model is. And an unconscious truth is that: you are constantly recreating your feared scenario - the fear and lack of faith towards love commitment:
Fear commitment - create unstable model that it wouldn't last - realise it is unstable - create MORE of such unstable models - gradually some fails - recreate more - generate greater fear of commitment - repeat cycle with greater intensity.
If you call that fulfilling, then you are likely to deceive yourself through strong delusional reinforcing.
[quote]or dun tell mi is mid life crisis already?? or instinct telling mi to settle down and start a family to share all this with?.. sighz..... [/quote]
You have already expressed your greatest fear here and the novelty of flings is dying for you.
I think it's time for you to mature emotionally.
Cheers
Wednesday, April 26, 2006
(Karmic notes... again)
TO DEVIL:
You can love someone without being in a relationship and vice versa. Being in a relationship is entirely freewill... a choice made by yourself and your partner, while Love is something out of the boundary of freewill. Relationship is bounded by the First Law of Love - it is we who choose our partners, not the other way round. Love is boundless.
(Just to nag a little more) LOL!
Every relationship carries some form of bonds (although it is possible for someone to create new bonds this lifetime through freewill. Then the relationship would likely be radical and raw) and bonds are divided into benefic or malefic ones. Regardless, the inherent essence of what 'RELATIONSHIP' does is merely to impart cosmic lessons to the parties involved.
A 'bad' relationship - namely karmic relationship - brings on heavy lessons. So heavy that we thought we could never escape the clutches of our karmic debts. The excellent plot played by our karmic relationship is usually made in such a way that either alternatives means suffering... to accept or not to accept. And usually the option so desired by our hearts often carry a heavier sentence.
We have all the powers in the world to avoid sinking into those karmic relationship, but chances are, human justify the use of 'Love' to accept those challenges, without first applying higher wisdom to understand those challenges are means to understand the end and not the end itself.
I cannot say Karmic Relationship is bad, because like our disciplinary Father who has been rigid and strict with our conduct, a karmic relationship do keep us in check with our attitude and personality with regards to Love. People with glitch in emotional mindset: verdant or veteran, usually suffer the deepest.
Cheers
You can love someone without being in a relationship and vice versa. Being in a relationship is entirely freewill... a choice made by yourself and your partner, while Love is something out of the boundary of freewill. Relationship is bounded by the First Law of Love - it is we who choose our partners, not the other way round. Love is boundless.
(Just to nag a little more) LOL!
Every relationship carries some form of bonds (although it is possible for someone to create new bonds this lifetime through freewill. Then the relationship would likely be radical and raw) and bonds are divided into benefic or malefic ones. Regardless, the inherent essence of what 'RELATIONSHIP' does is merely to impart cosmic lessons to the parties involved.
A 'bad' relationship - namely karmic relationship - brings on heavy lessons. So heavy that we thought we could never escape the clutches of our karmic debts. The excellent plot played by our karmic relationship is usually made in such a way that either alternatives means suffering... to accept or not to accept. And usually the option so desired by our hearts often carry a heavier sentence.
We have all the powers in the world to avoid sinking into those karmic relationship, but chances are, human justify the use of 'Love' to accept those challenges, without first applying higher wisdom to understand those challenges are means to understand the end and not the end itself.
I cannot say Karmic Relationship is bad, because like our disciplinary Father who has been rigid and strict with our conduct, a karmic relationship do keep us in check with our attitude and personality with regards to Love. People with glitch in emotional mindset: verdant or veteran, usually suffer the deepest.
Cheers
Tuesday, April 25, 2006
Aunt Agony 250406
Originally posted by cannonprinter:
Dear friends,
For months i've been having a problem.....a relationship with my cousin. Is it appropriate to fall in love with a relative? I do understand people have experience the same thing as me. I am afraid my family will disapprove...what should i do?
I am really in love with her, its true love....
From the above statement, it really worries me. Not exactly about your cousin-relationship, rather the advent of some egregious karmic relationship.
Love is never wrong; just that you got to learn to analysis your emotions carefully. Not every single emotion equates to Love and NOT all love is suitable breeding ground for relationship.
CloUdiSm states: Love and Relationship is but two separate entities.
Environment cannot stop two souls, truly in love, from being in love. But chances are, yours belong to deceptive tricks spun from the heart that made you thought so.
True Love?
I reckon you better reconsider your decision.
Cheers
Dear friends,
For months i've been having a problem.....a relationship with my cousin. Is it appropriate to fall in love with a relative? I do understand people have experience the same thing as me. I am afraid my family will disapprove...what should i do?
I am really in love with her, its true love....
From the above statement, it really worries me. Not exactly about your cousin-relationship, rather the advent of some egregious karmic relationship.
Love is never wrong; just that you got to learn to analysis your emotions carefully. Not every single emotion equates to Love and NOT all love is suitable breeding ground for relationship.
CloUdiSm states: Love and Relationship is but two separate entities.
Environment cannot stop two souls, truly in love, from being in love. But chances are, yours belong to deceptive tricks spun from the heart that made you thought so.
True Love?
I reckon you better reconsider your decision.
Cheers
Sunday, April 23, 2006
Aunt Agony II 230406
Originally posted by jam on a bread:
Ok, first of all, i'm a girl with little confidence. You know how the society tend to judge a girl by her looks. No looks=nothing. Aiya, that's why I have no friends (yes you are right, no friends, not even one that goes out with me) so I tend to do things all alone. No boyfriends (got one guy likes me but kena swayed by his friends opinions until dun like me liao).
A lot of ppl dun like me because they dun like my looks. Last time, I have a so-called friend. She said im disgusting because of my teeth. She even avoid sharing food with me for she dun want to know that my teeth have sank into it.
Thinking back, a lot of ppl vent on me or pick on me for no reason because my looks doesn't measure up. I got rejected by a guy and been called a freak. I ask for a stranger guy direction and he gave me a 'disgusted' look. My father keeps saying my legs is disgusting. Last time, I finally found a job and my manager told me to do sales (asking people to buy the products) He told me not to go to the guys for fear I might disgust them. And lots of insecure girls comparing their looks to mine cause they know I don't measure up anyways..
It's not that I dun want to make an effort to become much better, but I have no money! Everything costs like hundred bucks!! girls shld know those facial, hair and all those cost like a bomb! Help people!! it's ruining my life! my social life! I am now tearing while typing this..btw i'm just a student and I know looks is like everything to a girl!! Ahhhhhh!!! no wonde I have nothing at all!! I am given no chance!!!
You have a bruised self perception and have been constantly reinforced by the negative environment you are in. And the interesting part is you gave yourself excuses to believe in so that you will not attempt to change your status quo and dwell in this pool of depressing perception, like you are destined to remain like that forever.
You are effectively fueling yourself to think the way you wanted yourself to indulge in - you thought poorly of yourself and unconsciously breed those condition and reason why you are lousy.
'Wah.. I am so poor... but working is so hard... aiya I am just poor, so I will be poor...'
The truth is: you made yourself into such position and gradually believe your own propaganda.
Based on your last paragraph, it is clear that you have done minimal homework on the subject of 'physical beauty'. The reason for your passiveness, despite the need to improve, is very simple: you fear to confront your flaws directly. You are feeding yourself with self-made beliefs to make a huge contour of your problem without touching the actual subject.
Imagine your problem being the glass ball and you are walking round and round this glass ball, devoid of the courage to even hold the glass ball in your hands.
This is you: knowing what's wrong, ranting what's wrong and leaving it there.
Until the day you really want to change your status quo, then maybe somebody here could help, otherwise, this is merely your rant topic. The desire to change comes with the price of hard work. But firstly, if you can't even bear looking at the REAL you and telling yourself that you are an art that needs the effort to develop into one, then you can always push it into your subconscious mind and avoid like what you have been doing all these while.
The worst thing you could tell yourself is: 'I can't do it...'
Always ask 'How do I achieve it...'
When you use 'How' - you forced yourself to think of ways to achieve and not eliminate your chance completely to self and trust me, you will devise a way to achieve your 'How' and not avoid facing your flaws.
***
Physical beauty is not about the money - that's probably a quarter of the picture. You need intensive knowledge about WHAT and WHERE to improve yourself at good cost-value equation. You are probably thinking of what? Expression to lose weight? Slim Fit to enhance assets? Jean Yip beauty consultant? Lasik surgery to restore perfect vision? Haach Body and Skin care?
Woman are so insecure with themselves that these business exploit those vulnerability to their advantage, creating desires, needs and in the end, actions with paying for those services. I always believe there are alternatives to those premium services - it depends on whether you want to spent additional effort in research and to pursue them, if you don't have the money.
Woman who gym heavily, hardly find a need for slimming session and the cost they save is like more than 10 times the amount?
Then comes dress sense; you don't need designer brands to make you look beautiful. In fact, they don't. You wear the clothes and not having your clothes to wear you. You just need to know your strength/flaws and dress to either
I) Exploit on strength.
II) Hide flaws.
You will need to know what look good with you and how can you achieve them. You will need experiment and experiment comes from various decisions. And good decision comes from bad judgment. You will probably make some fashion mistake, but still, who gives a damn. You will gradually evolve and understand your niche/style.
Third come personality. Some people don't look fantastic physically, but they have an attracting personality that 'made' people thought that they are charming in some manner. You influence people to 'think' that you are beautiful will indirectly make you feel that you are indeed beautiful (Don't know if you get what I mean).
Cheers
Ok, first of all, i'm a girl with little confidence. You know how the society tend to judge a girl by her looks. No looks=nothing. Aiya, that's why I have no friends (yes you are right, no friends, not even one that goes out with me) so I tend to do things all alone. No boyfriends (got one guy likes me but kena swayed by his friends opinions until dun like me liao).
A lot of ppl dun like me because they dun like my looks. Last time, I have a so-called friend. She said im disgusting because of my teeth. She even avoid sharing food with me for she dun want to know that my teeth have sank into it.
Thinking back, a lot of ppl vent on me or pick on me for no reason because my looks doesn't measure up. I got rejected by a guy and been called a freak. I ask for a stranger guy direction and he gave me a 'disgusted' look. My father keeps saying my legs is disgusting. Last time, I finally found a job and my manager told me to do sales (asking people to buy the products) He told me not to go to the guys for fear I might disgust them. And lots of insecure girls comparing their looks to mine cause they know I don't measure up anyways..
It's not that I dun want to make an effort to become much better, but I have no money! Everything costs like hundred bucks!! girls shld know those facial, hair and all those cost like a bomb! Help people!! it's ruining my life! my social life! I am now tearing while typing this..btw i'm just a student and I know looks is like everything to a girl!! Ahhhhhh!!! no wonde I have nothing at all!! I am given no chance!!!
You have a bruised self perception and have been constantly reinforced by the negative environment you are in. And the interesting part is you gave yourself excuses to believe in so that you will not attempt to change your status quo and dwell in this pool of depressing perception, like you are destined to remain like that forever.
You are effectively fueling yourself to think the way you wanted yourself to indulge in - you thought poorly of yourself and unconsciously breed those condition and reason why you are lousy.
'Wah.. I am so poor... but working is so hard... aiya I am just poor, so I will be poor...'
The truth is: you made yourself into such position and gradually believe your own propaganda.
Based on your last paragraph, it is clear that you have done minimal homework on the subject of 'physical beauty'. The reason for your passiveness, despite the need to improve, is very simple: you fear to confront your flaws directly. You are feeding yourself with self-made beliefs to make a huge contour of your problem without touching the actual subject.
Imagine your problem being the glass ball and you are walking round and round this glass ball, devoid of the courage to even hold the glass ball in your hands.
This is you: knowing what's wrong, ranting what's wrong and leaving it there.
Until the day you really want to change your status quo, then maybe somebody here could help, otherwise, this is merely your rant topic. The desire to change comes with the price of hard work. But firstly, if you can't even bear looking at the REAL you and telling yourself that you are an art that needs the effort to develop into one, then you can always push it into your subconscious mind and avoid like what you have been doing all these while.
The worst thing you could tell yourself is: 'I can't do it...'
Always ask 'How do I achieve it...'
When you use 'How' - you forced yourself to think of ways to achieve and not eliminate your chance completely to self and trust me, you will devise a way to achieve your 'How' and not avoid facing your flaws.
***
Physical beauty is not about the money - that's probably a quarter of the picture. You need intensive knowledge about WHAT and WHERE to improve yourself at good cost-value equation. You are probably thinking of what? Expression to lose weight? Slim Fit to enhance assets? Jean Yip beauty consultant? Lasik surgery to restore perfect vision? Haach Body and Skin care?
Woman are so insecure with themselves that these business exploit those vulnerability to their advantage, creating desires, needs and in the end, actions with paying for those services. I always believe there are alternatives to those premium services - it depends on whether you want to spent additional effort in research and to pursue them, if you don't have the money.
Woman who gym heavily, hardly find a need for slimming session and the cost they save is like more than 10 times the amount?
Then comes dress sense; you don't need designer brands to make you look beautiful. In fact, they don't. You wear the clothes and not having your clothes to wear you. You just need to know your strength/flaws and dress to either
I) Exploit on strength.
II) Hide flaws.
You will need to know what look good with you and how can you achieve them. You will need experiment and experiment comes from various decisions. And good decision comes from bad judgment. You will probably make some fashion mistake, but still, who gives a damn. You will gradually evolve and understand your niche/style.
Third come personality. Some people don't look fantastic physically, but they have an attracting personality that 'made' people thought that they are charming in some manner. You influence people to 'think' that you are beautiful will indirectly make you feel that you are indeed beautiful (Don't know if you get what I mean).
Cheers
Aunt Agony 230406
Originally posted by ILPSY:
I do agree that the first impression counts when you meet for the first time.
When you look sloppy, unpresentable or ugly, most likely, you won't get the second look, let alone generate others' interest in you to start a relationship.
However, if you do have a pretty face, it does not guarentee that you will have tons of boyfriends too... Actually, a pretty face becomes an obstacle! Some pretty gals end up with no boyfriend at all even if their character is nice.
Why so? This is so perplexing...
I know of pretty looking people, ironically, feeling inferior.
And also those who thought that they looked great, but I beg to differ.
In the end, it's how powerful you want to believe in your own self perception. I know most will claim to detest those people in the second category above, but seriously, your words meant nothing to them. They have a strong self perception that other's thoughts cannot influence them to think otherwise.
***
The dynamic structure of Love is much more than just physical appearance - Love spells that clearly. Love is truly an isolated aspect in our life, which is also heavily integrated with other aspects of our life to achieve an harmonious equilibrium.
Physical appearance is merely a tool exploited by humans (especially woman) to achieve the certain advantage over the game of Love. But truly, it's only one aspect of the game.
Cheers
I do agree that the first impression counts when you meet for the first time.
When you look sloppy, unpresentable or ugly, most likely, you won't get the second look, let alone generate others' interest in you to start a relationship.
However, if you do have a pretty face, it does not guarentee that you will have tons of boyfriends too... Actually, a pretty face becomes an obstacle! Some pretty gals end up with no boyfriend at all even if their character is nice.
Why so? This is so perplexing...
I know of pretty looking people, ironically, feeling inferior.
And also those who thought that they looked great, but I beg to differ.
In the end, it's how powerful you want to believe in your own self perception. I know most will claim to detest those people in the second category above, but seriously, your words meant nothing to them. They have a strong self perception that other's thoughts cannot influence them to think otherwise.
***
The dynamic structure of Love is much more than just physical appearance - Love spells that clearly. Love is truly an isolated aspect in our life, which is also heavily integrated with other aspects of our life to achieve an harmonious equilibrium.
Physical appearance is merely a tool exploited by humans (especially woman) to achieve the certain advantage over the game of Love. But truly, it's only one aspect of the game.
Cheers
Wednesday, April 19, 2006
Aunt Agony 190406
Originally posted by Princess livia:
haiz..wat's happenin?i dunno lo...i did no wrong worx..well maybe i did but i really dunnoo...is u isisted me 2 be ur on9 gf...den now lky tis? :cry:
(ive been talking to princess on msn and she has asked me to post here what is going on..............her and kai were together as online r/s,she didnt really wanna be in online r/s but he persuaded her.anyway......apparently he already had a gf in real life.......and princess found out about it.star puppy tried to warn kai not to play games, and to end it b4 anyone got hurt.......but he wouldnt listen...........now kai is apparently saying that its all princess' fault.shes very upset)
It's a real ironic to see people subjected to emotional suffering when in fact, the injury is almost as illusionary as the relationship itself.
It begins from nothing.
Proceeded from nothing.
Therefore ended up as nothing.
All this betrayal, deceits, half truth, drama and sort are almost as good as getting too personal with words seen on your monitor screen. It's like trying to conjure 'something' out of 'nothing'. I am not dismissing the fact that the internet is one tools of the modern era to make friends - but somehow it seemed to be that both of you have lionize the dramatic vibes of your cyber relationship.
The man actually persuaded the lady to have a cyber relationship with him, despite knowing that is attached. It speaks much about his hidden intention and what his relationship (in reality) meant to him. We all know that a cyber relationship is insubstantial - but his act of wanting this insubstantial relationship in the first place is a form emotional infidelity.
He puts himself in the grey area - he did not technically betray his gf in reality, but he is definitely unstable. The interesting thing is that he doesn't realise it himself.
When he moved and acted on from there, you see a clearer picture of his hidden intention. Then, he became to understand his initial agenda and trigger a conscience check.
fling=deep fling=love?
It wasn't something born out of yesterday - there was already a hidden desire and motive beneath the facade of simple flirting. It is so 'Neptune coated', that this relationship seemed to exude a powerful delusional enchantment that seemed to portray both of you of as some kind of star-crossed lovers.
A woman desiring to be loved or a break through from her dull routine of life.
A man desiring the life of a player or wanted a catalysis to break his current relationship.
A relationship that is basically nothing, made to become 'something'.
I see this reinforced connection here - especially the man, who has unconsciously unfold new chapters into this story by leading himself (the protagonist of his own story) entirely to his confusion. He was neither victim of his own circumstances nor environment; it was his own freewill who wanted the taste of it.
Princess livia: break the spell. The damage is illusional - it cannot harm you. If you continue to dwell in this spell, the illusionary damage will become a reality.
Cheers
haiz..wat's happenin?i dunno lo...i did no wrong worx..well maybe i did but i really dunnoo...is u isisted me 2 be ur on9 gf...den now lky tis? :cry:
(ive been talking to princess on msn and she has asked me to post here what is going on..............her and kai were together as online r/s,she didnt really wanna be in online r/s but he persuaded her.anyway......apparently he already had a gf in real life.......and princess found out about it.star puppy tried to warn kai not to play games, and to end it b4 anyone got hurt.......but he wouldnt listen...........now kai is apparently saying that its all princess' fault.shes very upset)
It's a real ironic to see people subjected to emotional suffering when in fact, the injury is almost as illusionary as the relationship itself.
It begins from nothing.
Proceeded from nothing.
Therefore ended up as nothing.
All this betrayal, deceits, half truth, drama and sort are almost as good as getting too personal with words seen on your monitor screen. It's like trying to conjure 'something' out of 'nothing'. I am not dismissing the fact that the internet is one tools of the modern era to make friends - but somehow it seemed to be that both of you have lionize the dramatic vibes of your cyber relationship.
The man actually persuaded the lady to have a cyber relationship with him, despite knowing that is attached. It speaks much about his hidden intention and what his relationship (in reality) meant to him. We all know that a cyber relationship is insubstantial - but his act of wanting this insubstantial relationship in the first place is a form emotional infidelity.
He puts himself in the grey area - he did not technically betray his gf in reality, but he is definitely unstable. The interesting thing is that he doesn't realise it himself.
When he moved and acted on from there, you see a clearer picture of his hidden intention. Then, he became to understand his initial agenda and trigger a conscience check.
fling=deep fling=love?
It wasn't something born out of yesterday - there was already a hidden desire and motive beneath the facade of simple flirting. It is so 'Neptune coated', that this relationship seemed to exude a powerful delusional enchantment that seemed to portray both of you of as some kind of star-crossed lovers.
A woman desiring to be loved or a break through from her dull routine of life.
A man desiring the life of a player or wanted a catalysis to break his current relationship.
A relationship that is basically nothing, made to become 'something'.
I see this reinforced connection here - especially the man, who has unconsciously unfold new chapters into this story by leading himself (the protagonist of his own story) entirely to his confusion. He was neither victim of his own circumstances nor environment; it was his own freewill who wanted the taste of it.
Princess livia: break the spell. The damage is illusional - it cannot harm you. If you continue to dwell in this spell, the illusionary damage will become a reality.
Cheers
Saturday, April 15, 2006
Aunt Agony 150406
Originally posted by isolation:
I am a 22 years old NSF who will be ORD on the August. Unlike most of the people in my age group, I have not gone into a relationship before in the past 22 years of life. :(
During the 4 years in my secondary school, there are 3 girls whom I tried to win their hearts (at the different period of course, I am not the kind who likes to step into 2 boats with 1 leg) but I failed.
Later during the 3 years in my poly, because I am studying electronics engineering in the poly and there are at most 3 girls in my class but all are none of my type. Furthermore I am worried that whether I can handle a relationship during my NS days in which our personal time are limited so I didn't pursue a relationship.
However during my NS days, there are quite a number of my army mates with a girlfriend and most of them, surprisingly can handle the relationship well.
Now I am left with less than 4 months to ORD and I feels that it might be the time for me to find a girlfriend as I am already 22 years old yet I have not gone into a relationship before. :( Furthermore if I continues to be single my parents and relatives will 'pressurise' me. :(
So how should I start to looking for a girlfriend or rather, what should I do next? :(
Leaving it to fate is as cliché as telling people to be yourself when relating to girls.
What is 'Leaving it to fate'? or 'Be yourself'? How do you exactly work that out?
If fate is catalysis, you got to allow an experiment where you could fuse it with fate to create a chain reaction.
And the primary condition is You.
You are telling me that you are twenty two years old and haven't gotten yourself a girlfriend. And yes, I do believe that you are indeed a nice chap, good person, etc.
But nothing has change when you are in secondary school, in poly nor in NS.
In fact, the variables are still the same.
And because the variables never evolve much, nothing happens.
***
Spent quality time to condition yourself in better position. (improve yourself)
Spent quality time to increase your 'chances of a reaction' (improve your social life).
Cheers
I am a 22 years old NSF who will be ORD on the August. Unlike most of the people in my age group, I have not gone into a relationship before in the past 22 years of life. :(
During the 4 years in my secondary school, there are 3 girls whom I tried to win their hearts (at the different period of course, I am not the kind who likes to step into 2 boats with 1 leg) but I failed.
Later during the 3 years in my poly, because I am studying electronics engineering in the poly and there are at most 3 girls in my class but all are none of my type. Furthermore I am worried that whether I can handle a relationship during my NS days in which our personal time are limited so I didn't pursue a relationship.
However during my NS days, there are quite a number of my army mates with a girlfriend and most of them, surprisingly can handle the relationship well.
Now I am left with less than 4 months to ORD and I feels that it might be the time for me to find a girlfriend as I am already 22 years old yet I have not gone into a relationship before. :( Furthermore if I continues to be single my parents and relatives will 'pressurise' me. :(
So how should I start to looking for a girlfriend or rather, what should I do next? :(
Leaving it to fate is as cliché as telling people to be yourself when relating to girls.
What is 'Leaving it to fate'? or 'Be yourself'? How do you exactly work that out?
If fate is catalysis, you got to allow an experiment where you could fuse it with fate to create a chain reaction.
And the primary condition is You.
You are telling me that you are twenty two years old and haven't gotten yourself a girlfriend. And yes, I do believe that you are indeed a nice chap, good person, etc.
But nothing has change when you are in secondary school, in poly nor in NS.
In fact, the variables are still the same.
And because the variables never evolve much, nothing happens.
***
Spent quality time to condition yourself in better position. (improve yourself)
Spent quality time to increase your 'chances of a reaction' (improve your social life).
Cheers
Wednesday, April 12, 2006
Before I sleep....
Went through SGF and saw this topic that intrigue me.
It was titled 'Love' and self wrote a whole piece of long winding essay.
I read it and I thought it terribly lack depth.
Interestingly, someone asked if the writer had been in a relationship before.
He said yes.
But prior, he revealed himself as single, at the point when he is writing his essay, which was one day ago.
Blatantly lying or thought that I was a fool and obviously I exposed him.
不攻自破的谎言， 不得让我觉得你不只是好无聊， 既然还要装一幅情圣的漠样。(To read, please Encode to Unicode)
It reminded me so much... so much... so much... of...
....zzz...斯凯文.....
Talking about Guiding Star, finally 键盘仙子 is on TV le! 人因梦想而伟大。。。 LOL! Although me, Candy and Duck thought that her new hairdo was difficult to accept.... Hahahhahahahahah!
A bit of advertising here: Vote for 'AMBER' for SuperBand competition, telecast every Monday 7.30 p.m. =)
Cheers
It was titled 'Love' and self wrote a whole piece of long winding essay.
I read it and I thought it terribly lack depth.
Interestingly, someone asked if the writer had been in a relationship before.
He said yes.
But prior, he revealed himself as single, at the point when he is writing his essay, which was one day ago.
Blatantly lying or thought that I was a fool and obviously I exposed him.
不攻自破的谎言， 不得让我觉得你不只是好无聊， 既然还要装一幅情圣的漠样。(To read, please Encode to Unicode)
It reminded me so much... so much... so much... of...
....zzz...斯凯文.....
Talking about Guiding Star, finally 键盘仙子 is on TV le! 人因梦想而伟大。。。 LOL! Although me, Candy and Duck thought that her new hairdo was difficult to accept.... Hahahhahahahahah!
A bit of advertising here: Vote for 'AMBER' for SuperBand competition, telecast every Monday 7.30 p.m. =)
Cheers
Sunday, April 09, 2006
Aunt Agony 090406
Originally posted by cloud00:
Not really a regular of sgforums but would really appreciate if some advice is given ....
One mth ago i started to get on more gd terms with a ger but we were casual friends for abt 2 years . During this one mth , we would go out for movies , dinner and other stuffs . I thought that the green signal is on cause during meals she would like feed me and i would feed her sweets ... etc
Then a few nites ago , i told her that i really like her a lot and perhaps would it be possible to take our friendship to the next level ~ but she tells me that " Dun you think its a bit too fast ??? " I agree with her so i told her that perhaps we should be friends first and give each another more time
Never did i know its going to be the end of everything cause she starts to avoid me and never reply my sms *sign
I dun know the reason for it but it may be cause i am not physically attractive enuff cause my weight is like 88 although my height is like 175cm ....
so the question is
(a) shld i just let it go ... treat everything just as like it never happen Or
(b) go on a diet casue i look presentable when i dun look fat , after which let her regret for her decision
(c) go on a diet and use all ways and methods to make her feel touched , let her know i do everything just for her and then after which dump her ~
Hai~ actually i feel like just forget everything but i feel real sad ... i dunno whether if i got the wrong signals but y cant we still be friends ???
Anyway its been 2 days since i went on a crash diet and my weight has dropped to 84Kg~
You thought that the reason was because of your weight.
It was an assumption based on how inferior you felt when you spoke about your size.
The automatic thought immediately sprung up, telling you that it must be your weight, for if it isn't, why would she reject my affection?
Have you ever thought of the fact that what she was saying may be true? Everything was too hasty... the emotions, the advancement, the chase and such? PLUS... she's probably a woman who doesn't know how to handle rejecting-of-somebody?
If you were to scroll through some previous AA cases, you will uncover similar cases like yours - being avoided after confession.
***
Your topic isn't about rejection; it's about your tender self worth being wounded once again.
If losing weight is needed to restore your confidence and esteem, by all means, just do it. It doesn't only improve your psychological state, it keeps you healthy as well.
You must first understand the fundamental of self Love before you can extend this outside of yourself. It's difficult to love somebody without having the same love for yourself - somewhat like a preacher who doesn't do what he preaches. Love comes from within and radiate outwardly and not leech Love outwardly and try to fill voids in your inner realm.
Cheers
Not really a regular of sgforums but would really appreciate if some advice is given ....
One mth ago i started to get on more gd terms with a ger but we were casual friends for abt 2 years . During this one mth , we would go out for movies , dinner and other stuffs . I thought that the green signal is on cause during meals she would like feed me and i would feed her sweets ... etc
Then a few nites ago , i told her that i really like her a lot and perhaps would it be possible to take our friendship to the next level ~ but she tells me that " Dun you think its a bit too fast ??? " I agree with her so i told her that perhaps we should be friends first and give each another more time
Never did i know its going to be the end of everything cause she starts to avoid me and never reply my sms *sign
I dun know the reason for it but it may be cause i am not physically attractive enuff cause my weight is like 88 although my height is like 175cm ....
so the question is
(a) shld i just let it go ... treat everything just as like it never happen Or
(b) go on a diet casue i look presentable when i dun look fat , after which let her regret for her decision
(c) go on a diet and use all ways and methods to make her feel touched , let her know i do everything just for her and then after which dump her ~
Hai~ actually i feel like just forget everything but i feel real sad ... i dunno whether if i got the wrong signals but y cant we still be friends ???
Anyway its been 2 days since i went on a crash diet and my weight has dropped to 84Kg~
You thought that the reason was because of your weight.
It was an assumption based on how inferior you felt when you spoke about your size.
The automatic thought immediately sprung up, telling you that it must be your weight, for if it isn't, why would she reject my affection?
Have you ever thought of the fact that what she was saying may be true? Everything was too hasty... the emotions, the advancement, the chase and such? PLUS... she's probably a woman who doesn't know how to handle rejecting-of-somebody?
If you were to scroll through some previous AA cases, you will uncover similar cases like yours - being avoided after confession.
***
Your topic isn't about rejection; it's about your tender self worth being wounded once again.
If losing weight is needed to restore your confidence and esteem, by all means, just do it. It doesn't only improve your psychological state, it keeps you healthy as well.
You must first understand the fundamental of self Love before you can extend this outside of yourself. It's difficult to love somebody without having the same love for yourself - somewhat like a preacher who doesn't do what he preaches. Love comes from within and radiate outwardly and not leech Love outwardly and try to fill voids in your inner realm.
Cheers
Thursday, April 06, 2006
Aunt Agony III 060406
Originally posted by Xlashes:
In marriage, how do you know he or she is the one ? Are you prepared to live with him or her forever?
Some people are simply more 'marriageable' than others. It is because of their personality and characteristic they exude, which creates such phenomenon. Marriage is like putting two separate elements together and see how these different elements react upon mixing. If you put something that blends well with most elements, the product would be great or at least, it wouldn't cause a huge explosion. Trouble arises when two reactive elements are place together - you get a violent reaction.
Usually, those whom are less 'marriageable' are those Uranus-fueled people - people who believe in individualism. They will score well in achieving prestige, fame, glory and honor this world has to offer, but in sacrifice, they usually gave up 'mutual thinking' for Self.
You are asking if these two unknown elements would make a great final product; nobody truly knows unless you make the experiment happen and see how it goes.
Don't ask what marriage is all about without FIRST learning about Love.
P.S: If you want to reduce the chance of a 'failed experiment', make the effort to research those 'elements' you are dabbling with.
Cheers
In marriage, how do you know he or she is the one ? Are you prepared to live with him or her forever?
Some people are simply more 'marriageable' than others. It is because of their personality and characteristic they exude, which creates such phenomenon. Marriage is like putting two separate elements together and see how these different elements react upon mixing. If you put something that blends well with most elements, the product would be great or at least, it wouldn't cause a huge explosion. Trouble arises when two reactive elements are place together - you get a violent reaction.
Usually, those whom are less 'marriageable' are those Uranus-fueled people - people who believe in individualism. They will score well in achieving prestige, fame, glory and honor this world has to offer, but in sacrifice, they usually gave up 'mutual thinking' for Self.
You are asking if these two unknown elements would make a great final product; nobody truly knows unless you make the experiment happen and see how it goes.
Don't ask what marriage is all about without FIRST learning about Love.
P.S: If you want to reduce the chance of a 'failed experiment', make the effort to research those 'elements' you are dabbling with.
Cheers
Aunt Agony II 060406
Originally posted by K800i:
Hi , I am in a dilemma . I am 26 this year and there is this gal who is only 17 is in love with me. Her hints are pretty clear , I find her a nice companion to be with and I was thinking should I go ahead with the relationship even with her father doesnt approve of her having a relationship until she is 20 . She has already make it clear that she doesnt want to wait until 20. I was thinking if she's the one, by the time her marriage age comes, I will be more then ready to settle down ( I am thinking for the future as well) .
What do you guys think ?
I believe that it would classify you as her first love if she were to pursue this relationship with you. (First Love in this case is denotes as First Relationship).
If that was the case, I suggest that you shouldn't 'think' too far into the relationship other than enjoying each other's company and see how this relationship run.
Marriage?
This young lady probably knows next to nothing other than companionship in relationship. You got to allow that sort of natural, intangible learning to take place before the subject of marriage would make any sense to her.
If you were to pursue this relationship, born almost a decade difference, your needs, desires and wants are vastly different. Work that out first before planning anything else.
Cheers
Hi , I am in a dilemma . I am 26 this year and there is this gal who is only 17 is in love with me. Her hints are pretty clear , I find her a nice companion to be with and I was thinking should I go ahead with the relationship even with her father doesnt approve of her having a relationship until she is 20 . She has already make it clear that she doesnt want to wait until 20. I was thinking if she's the one, by the time her marriage age comes, I will be more then ready to settle down ( I am thinking for the future as well) .
What do you guys think ?
I believe that it would classify you as her first love if she were to pursue this relationship with you. (First Love in this case is denotes as First Relationship).
If that was the case, I suggest that you shouldn't 'think' too far into the relationship other than enjoying each other's company and see how this relationship run.
Marriage?
This young lady probably knows next to nothing other than companionship in relationship. You got to allow that sort of natural, intangible learning to take place before the subject of marriage would make any sense to her.
If you were to pursue this relationship, born almost a decade difference, your needs, desires and wants are vastly different. Work that out first before planning anything else.
Cheers
Aunt Agony 060406
Originally posted by T.Ryousuke:
I have gone through all those replies you posted about my problem.
To an extend, I appear to be holding too tight to the past. But one thing I don't understand?
I had married for 4 years plus 3 years courtship. All along there were many many quarrel between us about small small issues, seem like not compatable.
From the time I start mention about divorce till we sign the separation letter and till I sold our flat was about 4 mth, in between this time she didn't voice up any thing. That was already 1 1/2 year from now, until recently I call her to sign this very last document, then she like just wake up. Someone told me she might had a second though, thinking that we will be together again, although we have yet to sign the divorce doc. To me, this is not the way to handle a marriage. I told her:" you are treating this as a game or what?,if I said it, I mean it! ". Maybe I'm too harsh toward her, but I still feel that she is not mature yet.
Recently my friends told me that she called them afew times talking about me and also some other thing, cos she don't have friends to talk to. And this happened after I told her to sign the divorce paper in Jan this year.
For the past, what really gone missing here is the love she had for me, the kind of caring and concern which I needed. And that is the main reason I chose to divorce since we don't have any children yet. And due to work pressure we had, I think it need alot of hardwork to maintain a family with her.
Yunnie, what's wrong with me? Am I not being fair to her. I allow time for her to show me how much she care about us! And for 1 1/2 year she's still thinking there is hope without putting in any effort to save this marriage. To me, I feel all along I spoil her by doing all the house work and taking care of other major issue. She just sit there and waiting for me, and also maybe scare of me being angry somtime. I just need someone to be proactive that's all. Some say communication problem, or I being too sensitive?
Cheers
When she said she has second thoughts about the divorce... how does it occur to you? Minus the anger, do you still see yourself having feelings for her?
There may be some concerns regarding compatibility, however, if there was still a choice, would you still go on with the divorce?
There won't be any mistake in decision here, because the mistake was brought forth from the already unstable relationship onto marriage. Whether you divorce her in the end or decide another alternative, it is merely a route you pick for yourself to walk into.
Your needs... does she fully understand what your needs meant to you? Or is it a break-down in communication leading to a mind-reading scenario? Even if she doesn't says anything, what do you [i]really [/i]know inside her?
Gradually, becoming individualistic in attitude, behaviour and style of communication eats into your relationship.
[quote] I think it need alot of hardwork to maintain a family with her. [/quote]
You are entitled your own perception, but individualistic thoughts like this creates difficulty for marriage to thrive. Afterall, you made your decision to marry this woman. Whether she is matured or not in your definition - you took the option of marriage with her. Her behaviour is definitely a known thing and not something completely foreign altogether.
There are a lot of blame pushing and pin pointing here. If you feel that you want to salvage this marriage, like what she does probably wants - it will be good to cease the blame game and communicate without having the finger pointing.
P.S: Both of you probably have more to lose out after a divorce from a wrecked marriage. If there was still a choice, what that has happen would become learning modules for marriage.
Cheers
I have gone through all those replies you posted about my problem.
To an extend, I appear to be holding too tight to the past. But one thing I don't understand?
I had married for 4 years plus 3 years courtship. All along there were many many quarrel between us about small small issues, seem like not compatable.
From the time I start mention about divorce till we sign the separation letter and till I sold our flat was about 4 mth, in between this time she didn't voice up any thing. That was already 1 1/2 year from now, until recently I call her to sign this very last document, then she like just wake up. Someone told me she might had a second though, thinking that we will be together again, although we have yet to sign the divorce doc. To me, this is not the way to handle a marriage. I told her:" you are treating this as a game or what?,if I said it, I mean it! ". Maybe I'm too harsh toward her, but I still feel that she is not mature yet.
Recently my friends told me that she called them afew times talking about me and also some other thing, cos she don't have friends to talk to. And this happened after I told her to sign the divorce paper in Jan this year.
For the past, what really gone missing here is the love she had for me, the kind of caring and concern which I needed. And that is the main reason I chose to divorce since we don't have any children yet. And due to work pressure we had, I think it need alot of hardwork to maintain a family with her.
Yunnie, what's wrong with me? Am I not being fair to her. I allow time for her to show me how much she care about us! And for 1 1/2 year she's still thinking there is hope without putting in any effort to save this marriage. To me, I feel all along I spoil her by doing all the house work and taking care of other major issue. She just sit there and waiting for me, and also maybe scare of me being angry somtime. I just need someone to be proactive that's all. Some say communication problem, or I being too sensitive?
Cheers
When she said she has second thoughts about the divorce... how does it occur to you? Minus the anger, do you still see yourself having feelings for her?
There may be some concerns regarding compatibility, however, if there was still a choice, would you still go on with the divorce?
There won't be any mistake in decision here, because the mistake was brought forth from the already unstable relationship onto marriage. Whether you divorce her in the end or decide another alternative, it is merely a route you pick for yourself to walk into.
Your needs... does she fully understand what your needs meant to you? Or is it a break-down in communication leading to a mind-reading scenario? Even if she doesn't says anything, what do you [i]really [/i]know inside her?
Gradually, becoming individualistic in attitude, behaviour and style of communication eats into your relationship.
[quote] I think it need alot of hardwork to maintain a family with her. [/quote]
You are entitled your own perception, but individualistic thoughts like this creates difficulty for marriage to thrive. Afterall, you made your decision to marry this woman. Whether she is matured or not in your definition - you took the option of marriage with her. Her behaviour is definitely a known thing and not something completely foreign altogether.
There are a lot of blame pushing and pin pointing here. If you feel that you want to salvage this marriage, like what she does probably wants - it will be good to cease the blame game and communicate without having the finger pointing.
P.S: Both of you probably have more to lose out after a divorce from a wrecked marriage. If there was still a choice, what that has happen would become learning modules for marriage.
Cheers
Sunday, April 02, 2006
Love and Friendship
The last thing that could ever happen to me is to sacrifice friendship for Love.
I scrolled through my intensive book of Astrology written by Noel Tyl and he spoke about the Succedent Grand Cross and that the 2nd house (house of self worth), is naturally square to the 5th and 11th, which is how we react in giving and receiving of Love.
Been doing Aunt Agony for about 5 years and I have seen all sort of abominable relationships, archetype personality and reigning needs.I remember iliak once told me how 'good' it would be if she were to exchange chipmunk's karmic issues for hers. I told her:
'Her kind of issues, to you, are no issues at all. Life wouldn't be so kind as to offer zero growth lesson as a form of 'growth'.'
I realise there is another alternative two forms of Love (apart from karmic and benefic classification):
I) One that makes you stupid
II) One that makes you stupider.
Although we become incoherently foolish when Love propagate its message into our hearts, this foolishness merely facsimile our childhood into our relationship, like how we like to Love and to be Loved in its immaculate form. We began to see ourselves 'baby talk'... give each other cutesy nicknames... change our tone when speaking... gaze at each other and smile... remaining in comfortable silence while holding hands... and the list continues.
We become stupider when we don't understand the relationship we are leading. We transformed into somewhat an anencephalic being, with no sense cognitive understanding of our action. To simpify what I had just said, 'leading an inane relationship without meaning'. I am abhorred when I see people indulging in such play, with notable serious karmic repercussion.
I agape with wonder to understand how people actually see 'Love' as a fourth dimension or the solo panacea to all conundrum of life, in a way where, somehow... somewhat, the couple must incarcerate themselves from the reality of life and that all that had existed prior before the Love, had faded miraculous into the pathetic background.
情热似火，火会息
情浓似酒，酒会醒
I enjoy chinese poems, especially those that stir thoughts and forms deep meaning. Although I sucked terribly at mandarin, but it doesn't change the fact that I enjoy dabbling with phrases that intrigue me, western or eastern. Philosophy-wise - it's the meaning that counts, not the language or the orgin.
Is there truly a need to emasculate our values in face of Love?
I really fear the day when Love has absconded and they become desperate. When dynasty crumbles and a new chapter takes over - the anarchy transition is often the most chaotic.
Of course, like always, I am always around.
But being around, doesn't mean I am agreeable with the way you are leading mistakes.
These two picture can co-exist.
Disclaimer: And no, I was never talking about Duck.
Cheers
I scrolled through my intensive book of Astrology written by Noel Tyl and he spoke about the Succedent Grand Cross and that the 2nd house (house of self worth), is naturally square to the 5th and 11th, which is how we react in giving and receiving of Love.
Been doing Aunt Agony for about 5 years and I have seen all sort of abominable relationships, archetype personality and reigning needs.I remember iliak once told me how 'good' it would be if she were to exchange chipmunk's karmic issues for hers. I told her:
'Her kind of issues, to you, are no issues at all. Life wouldn't be so kind as to offer zero growth lesson as a form of 'growth'.'
I realise there is another alternative two forms of Love (apart from karmic and benefic classification):
I) One that makes you stupid
II) One that makes you stupider.
Although we become incoherently foolish when Love propagate its message into our hearts, this foolishness merely facsimile our childhood into our relationship, like how we like to Love and to be Loved in its immaculate form. We began to see ourselves 'baby talk'... give each other cutesy nicknames... change our tone when speaking... gaze at each other and smile... remaining in comfortable silence while holding hands... and the list continues.
We become stupider when we don't understand the relationship we are leading. We transformed into somewhat an anencephalic being, with no sense cognitive understanding of our action. To simpify what I had just said, 'leading an inane relationship without meaning'. I am abhorred when I see people indulging in such play, with notable serious karmic repercussion.
I agape with wonder to understand how people actually see 'Love' as a fourth dimension or the solo panacea to all conundrum of life, in a way where, somehow... somewhat, the couple must incarcerate themselves from the reality of life and that all that had existed prior before the Love, had faded miraculous into the pathetic background.
情热似火，火会息
情浓似酒，酒会醒
I enjoy chinese poems, especially those that stir thoughts and forms deep meaning. Although I sucked terribly at mandarin, but it doesn't change the fact that I enjoy dabbling with phrases that intrigue me, western or eastern. Philosophy-wise - it's the meaning that counts, not the language or the orgin.
Is there truly a need to emasculate our values in face of Love?
I really fear the day when Love has absconded and they become desperate. When dynasty crumbles and a new chapter takes over - the anarchy transition is often the most chaotic.
Of course, like always, I am always around.
But being around, doesn't mean I am agreeable with the way you are leading mistakes.
These two picture can co-exist.
Disclaimer: And no, I was never talking about Duck.
Cheers
Saturday, April 01, 2006
Victim called wife 2 hours before shooting (Straits Times)
He had asked for her help to draft letter of termination for employee, the alleged gunman
By Lee Hui Chieh
ON TUESDAY afternoon, Madam Doreen Chay got a call from her husband in Thailand. He had already called her twice before that day to ask her advice on drafting a letter of termination in Chinese.
Less than two hours after that last call, 43-year-old Mr Jimmy Low Beng Lee was murdered. The letter she had helped him compose had apparently led to his death.
Recalling that last conversation yesterday, Madam Chay told The Straits Times: 'He asked me about some Chinese phrases because his Chinese wasn't very good.'
That afternoon, Mr Low had called a meeting with his sales manager, a 55-year-old Taiwanese man, to tell him he was being fired because he was suspected of embezzling company funds.
The suspect was said to have fired five shots from a 0.38mm gun into their car. Mr Low was hit twice in the head and died shortly afterwards. Mr Chamlong, who was Mr Low's assistant, was shot three times and died on Thursday.
Madam Chay said she realised something was wrong when she called her husband's cellphone that night and there was no response.
It was the family's habit to chat every day. Madam Chay would usually call her husband around 9.30pm to 10pm and she, her husband and their 12-year-old daughter would talk on a three-way phone, sometimes for up to an hour.
Madam Chay said: 'I must have called at least 10 times. The last time, my husband's Thai secretary picked up, but her English wasn't very good and she asked me to call his boss.'
Mr Low's boss, a close friend and former classmate from Anglo-Chinese School (Barker Road), did not dare to break the news to Madam Chay that her husband was already dead.
He told her only that Mr Low had been shot and that she should fly down to Bangkok the next day. She spent the whole of Tuesday night packing and talking to her sister-in-law, Mr Low's elder sister Joni.
Mrs Joni Ong, 45, who is the wife of Tampines GRC MP Ong Kian Min, said: 'We told ourselves then to be prepared for the worst, but there was still hope that he would pull through.'
The next morning, Madam Chay, her daughter and Mr Low's youngest sister Vivien arrived in Bangkok on the first available flight.
She knew things had gone wrong when she called Mr Low's boss and he told her to go to the police station, where she was then led to her husband's body in the mortuary.
'I don't really remember what I did. I only know I was crying and kept trying to wake my husband up.'
Speaking during his wake yesterday, she said: 'He was my husband, my friend, someone I could trust. I will miss holding his hands, having a meal with him. I'm going to miss him a lot.'
Mr Low's father, 78-year-old Mr Low Hock Chye, said: 'I was depressed and shocked. He was my only son. But then you have to accept it. Everyone has to go, it's just a matter of when and how.'
Mr Low's funeral will be held on Monday.
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By Lee Hui Chieh
ON TUESDAY afternoon, Madam Doreen Chay got a call from her husband in Thailand. He had already called her twice before that day to ask her advice on drafting a letter of termination in Chinese.
Less than two hours after that last call, 43-year-old Mr Jimmy Low Beng Lee was murdered. The letter she had helped him compose had apparently led to his death.
Recalling that last conversation yesterday, Madam Chay told The Straits Times: 'He asked me about some Chinese phrases because his Chinese wasn't very good.'
That afternoon, Mr Low had called a meeting with his sales manager, a 55-year-old Taiwanese man, to tell him he was being fired because he was suspected of embezzling company funds.
The suspect was said to have fired five shots from a 0.38mm gun into their car. Mr Low was hit twice in the head and died shortly afterwards. Mr Chamlong, who was Mr Low's assistant, was shot three times and died on Thursday.
Madam Chay said she realised something was wrong when she called her husband's cellphone that night and there was no response.
It was the family's habit to chat every day. Madam Chay would usually call her husband around 9.30pm to 10pm and she, her husband and their 12-year-old daughter would talk on a three-way phone, sometimes for up to an hour.
Madam Chay said: 'I must have called at least 10 times. The last time, my husband's Thai secretary picked up, but her English wasn't very good and she asked me to call his boss.'
Mr Low's boss, a close friend and former classmate from Anglo-Chinese School (Barker Road), did not dare to break the news to Madam Chay that her husband was already dead.
He told her only that Mr Low had been shot and that she should fly down to Bangkok the next day. She spent the whole of Tuesday night packing and talking to her sister-in-law, Mr Low's elder sister Joni.
Mrs Joni Ong, 45, who is the wife of Tampines GRC MP Ong Kian Min, said: 'We told ourselves then to be prepared for the worst, but there was still hope that he would pull through.'
The next morning, Madam Chay, her daughter and Mr Low's youngest sister Vivien arrived in Bangkok on the first available flight.
She knew things had gone wrong when she called Mr Low's boss and he told her to go to the police station, where she was then led to her husband's body in the mortuary.
'I don't really remember what I did. I only know I was crying and kept trying to wake my husband up.'
Speaking during his wake yesterday, she said: 'He was my husband, my friend, someone I could trust. I will miss holding his hands, having a meal with him. I'm going to miss him a lot.'
Mr Low's father, 78-year-old Mr Low Hock Chye, said: 'I was depressed and shocked. He was my only son. But then you have to accept it. Everyone has to go, it's just a matter of when and how.'
Mr Low's funeral will be held on Monday.
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